Social and Emotional Development in Early Adulthood (Ch. 14) Flashcards
todays emerging adults have a stronger pluralistic orientation, which means ….
disposition for living in a diverse society that promotes individual respect and equal opportunity
as globalization accelerates, so does
emerging adulthood
gains in higher education
common global identity
helicopter parenting
hover parents, comes out of love and affection but has negative affects
exposure to negative life events _______ development
undermines
during Levison’s transition to early adulthood, most young people construct ….
a dream (images of themselves in the adult world)
dreams in men vs. women
men - achievement-based/career
women - split between career and family
second transition in Levison’s seasons of life
people who were family focused become career focused and people who were career focused become family focused
social clock
age-graded expectations for major life events (ex. first job, marrying, buying a home, retiring, etc.)
has become more flexible in past decades
t/f: research/evidence supports opposites attract for romantic relationships
false!
sternbergs triangular theory of love
passion (physical)
intimacy (emotional)
commitment (cognitive)
passion in sternbergs triangular theory of love
companionate - warm affection and trusting the other
compassionate - concern for other’s well being shown through efforts
secure attachment in later adult relationships
loving and caring, found and kept relationships
avoidant attachment in later adult relationships
stressed independence and mistrusted partners
resistant attachment in later adult relationships
wanted to merge totally with partner, quick to express fear/anger
important feature of commitment
constructive conflict resolution (listening, compromising and accepting responsibility)
japanese word “amae” means
love; to depend on another’s benevolence
traditional chinese interdependent views defines the self through
role relationships (brother, sister, wife, son, etc.)
college students of asian heritage place less emphasis on ________ and more emphasis on ________
physical attraction and deep emotion; companionship and practical matters
male friends like to _____ while female friends prefer to ______
“do something together”; “just talk”
_________ have the largest number of other-sex friendships
highly educated employed women
after marriage, other-sex friends decrease for ____ but continue to increase for ______
men; women
the family life cycle
series of phases characterizing the development of most families around the world
traditional vs. egalitarian marriages
t - clear division in roles
e - partners relate as equals
fathers are less likely than mothers to have
social networks to access to learn about child rearing
cohabitation
lifestyle of unmarried couples who have sexually intimate relationship and share residence
applicant race to employer call backs
white applicants were accepted more than hispanic and hispanic more than black applicants
even when white applicants had a felony on application, they still were accepted more than hispanic and black applicants
expressive vs. instrumental love
e - expressing love, shakespearian, female dominated
i - activities like going to dinner or fixing something, male dominated
styles of love (john alan lee)
ludus
- thrill of the chase/game playing, rarely long term
eros
- passionate love, desire/physical intimacy
storge
- love out of friendship/friends to lovers
mania
- manic, possessive, chaos, stalking
pragma
- practical love, choosing someone b/c you think they will be good parents/good demographic/arranged marriages
agape
- spiritual love
cohabitation
living with a sexually intimate partner without being married
this country had a greater percentage of cohabitation because it used to be law that you needed land to get married
iceland
in the US, cohabitation has become (more/less) acceptable
more
marriage vs. cohabitation key terms
m: love, children, commitment
c: financial, convenient, test relationship
cohabitation (doesn’t/does) have a substantial influence on later marital happiness
doesn’t
married people are more satisfied with relationship aspects such as
parenting
chores
work/personal
communication
sex life
3 marriage styles and their satisfaction scores
traditional (men: +, women: + and -)
modern (men: +, women: mixed)
egalitarian (both men and women: +)
modern marriage style
believe treating each other as equals but not really
ex) when a child is sick, the mom is more likely to stay home -or- more likely to move for man’s job not woman’s
problems with duel-earner marriage
work overload/second shift syndrome
- women do job then come home to another job
work-family role conflict
- women feel guilty working over spending time with
kids
in the past decades, women’s house work has _____ while men’s has ______
decreased; increased
who does more invisible work in relationships (remember birthdays, schedule appointments, etc.)?
women!
who experiences more work place interruptions
women
advantages of having children
warmth and affection
stimulation and fun
community status
meaning to life
immortality
sense of accomplishment
personal growth
increase family resources
disadvantages of having children
loss of freedom
worries well being
interference with job
world is so unsafe
reduced time with partner
loss of privacy
fear that kids will turn out badly
financial strain
average cost of raising a child with and without college
w/: $300,000
w/o: $233,000
what is an adjustment to parenthood that may decrease marital satisfaction?
most couple become more traditional
factors that influence marital satisfaction after children
postponing childbearing
less traditional male gender roles
less isolation from extended family
