PERDEV|WEEK 1-3 Flashcards
derived from social interactions that provide insight into how others react to you
self knowledge
— your awareness of yourself.
→ the construct that negotiates these two selves; it connotes first the identification of the ideal self as separate from others.
→ encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in the actual self that you engage in to reach the ideal self.
self concept
— is the self that you aspire to be
→ is the one that you hope will possess characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure.
→ how we want to be; an idealized image that we have developed over time, based on what we have learned and experienced.
→ could include components of what our parents have taught us, what we admire in others, what our society promotes, and what we think is in our best interest.
ideal self
— is the one that you actually see.
→ is the self that has characteristics that you were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.
→ built on self-knowledge; who we actually are, how we think, how we feel, look, and act.
→ can be seen by others, but because we have no way of truly knowing how others view us
→ the actual self is our self-image.
actual self
— exists between the two selves which is
complex because there are numerous exchanges between the ideal and actual self.
→ alignment is important
negotiation
If the way that I am (the actual self) is aligned with the way that I want to be (the ideal self), then I will feel a sense of ______________________.
mental well-being or peace of mind
If the way that I am is not aligned with how I want to be, the incongruence will result in _________________
mental distress or anxiety`
The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal self and real self, the greater the level of resulting ________.
distress
lack of alignment
incongruence
— exemplifies exchanges between the actual
and ideal self ; are adjusted and unadjusted, and are derived from outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult development.
social roles
■ means making use of all the personal resources – talents, skills, energy and time, to enable you to achieve life goals.
■ your knowledge of yourself and how you manage yourself impacts directly on your personal effectiveness.
PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
= making the most of your strengths,
learning new skills and techniques and behavioral flexibility are all keys to improving your personal performance.
being self-aware
— needed to be identified and then
developed to be used in a particular subject area (science, literature, sports, politics, etc.).
talent
— includes knowledge and skills that
we acquire in the process of cognitive and practical activities.
experience
— required for setting goals, defining
an action plan to achieve them and risk
assessment
knowledge
also determine whether real actions are
performed in accordance with the plan.
skills
Skills for personal effectiveness(7)
Determination
Self - confidence
Persistence
Managing Stress
Problem-solving skills
Creativity
Generating ideas
allows you to focus only on achieving a specific goal without being distracted by less important things or spontaneous desires.
■ may be developed with the help of self-discipline exercise.
Determination
appears in the process of personal development, as a result of getting aware of yourself, your actions and their consequences.
■ is manifested in speech, appearance, dressing, gait, and physical condition.
to develop it, you need to:
a. learn about yourself and your capabilities
b. gain positive attitude
c. believe that by performing right actions and
achieving right goals you will certainly reach
success
Self - confidence
— makes you keep moving forward
regardless of emerging obstacles – problems, laziness, bad emotional state, etc.
■ reduces the costs of overcoming obstacles
■ can also be developed with the help of self discipline
exercise
Persistence
— helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the environment and other people.
■ increases efficiency in the actively changing environment.
■ stress : arises from the uncertainty in an unknown situation when a lack of information creates the risk of negative consequences of your actions.
Managing Stress
help cope with the problems encountered with a lack of experience.
■ increases efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving goals when obtaining a new experience.
Problem-solving skills
— allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action that no one has tried to use.
■ can lead to a decrease or an increase of costs, but usually the speed of action is greatly increased when using creative tools
Creativity
helps you achieve goals using new,
original, unconventional ideas.
■ you can use a method of mental maps, which allows you to materialize, visualize and scrutinize all your ideas, which in turn contributes to the emergence of new ideas.
■ these are just some, but the most important personal effectiveness skills which make the achievement of any goal easier and less costly
Generating ideas
a mental image of an object formed by the human mind, which can be changed before being implemented in the real world.
idea
most failures emanate from:
weaknesses that are not recognized or probably recognized but not given appropriate attention or remedy; this could be a weakness in communications, personality or ability.
instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity, take action:(3)
○ go for speech lessons
○ get skills upgrading
○ attend personality development sessions or
whatever appropriate remedies to your perceived weakness
— this is where you can build your name and popularity.
recognize your own talents and abilities, build on them, utilize them to your greatest advantage
— handicapped person; like other blind
singers, he did not brood over their physical handicap.
○ they search for ways to enrich that talent and now they have won international fame in the field of music.
Jose Feliciano
KINDS OF PEOPLE(3)
- MOVIEGOER
- ACTOR
- SCRIPTWRITER
⤷ watches the movie of their lives, admires some parts and criticizes others; they do nothing else.
⤷ all they say is “I like this think but I do not like that thing.”
⤷ feels they have absolutely no control of their lives — except to comment about it.
⤷ they are the most pathetic, miserable people in the world.
MOVIEGOER
⤷ does not only watch the movie of her life but actually realizes that she’s the ____, and can control a big part of her life.
⤷ can actually make or break the movie – by how well she delivers her lines and how she portrays her character.
⤷ are a happy bunch; realizing that they are the start of the show and enjoy some level of control.
⤷ many times, they with the movie would end in another way — but realize that they have no say in such things.
ACTOR
⤷ does not only watch, and she doesn’t only act, but she actually creates the entire movie from her mind.
⤷ she determines what she will say, what she will do, and how the movie will end.
⤷ she realizes she has enormous control over her life, and sees to it that the movie of her life will turn out beautiful.
⤷ God — producer of the movie.
SCRIPTWRITER
PURPOSE OF JOURNAL(4)
cost-efficient and available
preventive and proactive
creative and productive
personal and private
writing is the most inexpensive way to deal with stress
cost-efficient and available
writing yields self-awareness, when you write, you can discover your strengths and limitations
preventive and proactive
journal writing expounds your imagination
creative and productive
Unless you want to share your stories, you have the choice to keep them to yourself.
personal and private