Interpersonal Comm. Chapt. 11 Flashcards
Commited Romantic Relationships
Relationships between individuals who assume that they will be primary and continuing parts of each other’s lives
Romantic Relationships are _____ in mainstream
Voluntary
Commited Relationships
Creayted and sustained by unique people who cannot be replaced.involve romantic and sexual feelings. Another distinctive quality of romantic relationships is that they are considered primary and enduring.
Romantic love has 3 dimensions
Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion
Passion 1st dimension
Intensly positive feelings and fervant desire for another person. Passion is not restricted to sexual or sensual feelings
Commitment 2nd Dimension
Commitment is the intention to remain in a relationship.
Commitment and love are not the same thing but are linked.
Commitment has 2 categories of reasons to stay
- Staying because we find it comfortable and pleasing. We value and indiviuals companionship, emotional support, finanncial assistance, practical help and so forth.
- Staying in a relationshpi to avoid negative consequences that would accompany ending it.
Intimacy 3rd Dimension
Feelings of closeness, connection, and tenderness.
Intimacy is abiding affection and warm feelings for another person.
3 Styles of Loving
Eros, Storge, Ludus
Eros
Powerful, Passionate style of love that blazes life suddenly and dramtically.
It is an intense kind of love that may include sexual, spiritual, intellectual, or emotional attraction.
Eros is the most intuitive and spontaneous of all love styles.
Storge
Comfortable, even-keeled kind of love based on friednship and compatibility.
Storgic love tends to develop gradually and is usually peacful and stable
Ludus
Playful love.
An adventure full of scheming, challenges, puzzles, and fun, but love is not to be taken to seriously.
Ludus love does not have the goal of commitment
3 secondary styles
Pragma, Mania, Agape
Pragma
Practical Love
Pragmatic lovers have clear critera for partners
Mania
Greek for Madness in Love
Manic lovers devise tests and games to evaluate a partner’s commitment.
Often exprience emotional extremes ranging from Euphoria to despair
Agape
Loving each other without expectation of personal gain or return.
Generous and selfless, they put a loved one’s happiness ahead of their own without any expectation of repocity
Generous Love
5 Issues in identifying love styles
- Most of us have a combo of love styles
- Styles of love are not permanent
- Love style is part of an overall interpersonal system, and is affected by all other aspects of a relationship
- INdividual styles of love are not good or bad in an absolute sense. What matter is how the styles fit together
- Love styles percieved appropriatness or desirability.
3 phases of relationship growth
Growth,Navigation, and deterioration
6 Growth Stages
Indivuality-involve romantic and sexual feelings. Another distinctive quality of romantic relationships is that they are considered primary and enduring.
Invitational Communication- Interested in interacting
Exploratinoal Communication- Focuses on learning about each other
Intensifying Communication- immersing in each other so much they feel as if they cant be apart
Revising Communication-Problems are recognized, and partners evaluate whether they want to work through them.
Commitment-which is the decision to stay with the relationship
Navigation
the ongoing process of staying committed and living a life together despite ups and downs, and pleasant and unpleasant surprises.
Navigation involves both prevenitive maitenance and periodic repairs
Relational Culture
private world of rules, understandings, meanings, and patterns of acting and interpreting that partners create for their relationship
Placemaking
Process of creating a comfortable personal enviornment that reflects values, expiriences, and tastes of the couple
Deteroriation
Not all commited relationships last
Deteroration Stages
- Intrapsychic Processes- When one or both partners begin to feel dissatisfied with the realtionship
- Dyadic Processes- Involves the breakdown of established patterns, rules, and rituals to make up relational culture
- Social Support- Phase when partners look to family or friends in support after a break up
- Grave-Dressing- Burying the relationship and accepting its end
5.Ressurection process- When the 2 people move on with their lives without the other as an intimate
Guidelines for communicating in a romantic realtionship
Engage in dual perspective
Practice safer sex
Manage conflict constructively
Adapt communication to maintain long-distance relationships
