Chapter 9 - DESIGN YOUR LIFE Flashcards
What common complaint do many Americans have about their daily lives?
They feel too busy and rushed, and have lost track of friends and themselves.
What do clients seek when they hire coaches?
They want to find ways to make their lives more satisfying and fulfilling.
How do writers describe the state of life in modern industrialized societies?
As a trance, like a hypnotic state.
What happens when people go about their lives in an unconscious manner?
The brain conserves energy but may lead to dissatisfaction.
What is required for clients to reshape their lives according to coaching principles?
They need to develop new habits of thinking and behaving.
What do Nadler and Hibino argue about intelligent people and self-limiting thinking?
They often take the same self-limiting thinking approaches without realizing they are stuck.
What does ‘trance-formational’ mean in the context of coaching?
Becoming conscious of one’s unconsciousness and designing a purposeful life.
What is hypnosis often used for?
To assist people in stopping smoking, losing weight, calming anxiety, and overcoming fears.
How is hypnosis defined in its simplest sense?
The use of language and storytelling to prompt inward reflection.
What does coaching examine in a client’s life?
Everyday life habits and the assumptions that underpin them.
What is the significance of Oriah Mountain Dreamer’s poem ‘The Invitation’?
It speaks to the longing to feel more alive and fully inhabit our lives.
What is the basic premise of life design?
Human beings can create the life of their dreams.
According to Eleanor Roosevelt, who does the future belong to?
Those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
What is the Life Balance Wheel used for in coaching?
To assess current life satisfaction in various areas.
What does the hub of the Life Balance Wheel represent?
Clients’ core values and life purpose.
What emotions are associated with the natural cycle of change?
Anxiety, sadness, anger, frustration, hope, and happiness.
What does the Wheel of Life teach about happiness?
We cannot be happy and stay happy forever; change is natural.
What does the Cycle of Renewal assist in determining?
If there is an additional cycle leading the client to a need for renewal.
What might clients feel when they come to coaching sessions?
Embarrassment or shame about their previous life management.
Fill in the blank: Coaching clients often seek to move beyond _______.
mediocrity.
True or False: Coaching is the same as hypnosis.
False.
What does fulfillment mean in the context of coaching?
A feeling of satisfaction of having achieved one’s desires.
What is the purpose of life design exercises?
To support clients in exploring the life of their dreams.
What should clients do to get the most out of life design exercises?
Be as honest as possible.
What are the tools recommended during times of transition?
The Cycle of Renewal and the Life Balance Wheel
These tools encourage conversations about the whole of the client’s life.
What is a common emotional state clients may bring to coaching?
Clients may feel reluctant, embarrassed, or ashamed about their current life situation.
What is the key principle that clients discover in coaching?
“The truth shall set you free.”
What is the first strategy from Dave Ellis’s ‘Ways to Know Yourself’?
Be specific. Focus on details of eight to 12 areas of life.
How do clients measure their satisfaction levels?
Clients assign satisfaction levels from one to 10.
What role do significant others play in the life design process?
Clients share their work with significant others for feedback.
What is the purpose of evaluating habits, beliefs, and behaviors in life design?
To assess how they may need to be altered to close identified gaps.
Fill in the blank: A rating of ‘10’ means clients are _______.
[absolutely satisfied with that area of life]
Fill in the blank: A rating of ‘1’ means clients are _______.
[absolutely dissatisfied with that area of life]
What should clients do for each life area they rate?
Write two to three bullet points indicating the key reasons for their rating.
What should clients create for each area of their life?
A vision of what a ‘10’ would look like in the next 12 to 18 months.
What is the importance of setting a specific time frame in life design?
It creates a concrete set of goals instead of a mental exercise.
What is the recommended approach to managing the life design process?
Work in increments over several weeks to avoid overwhelm.
What are clients encouraged to visualize during the life design process?
How each area of their life would look if fully realized.
What should clients focus on when creating their vision statements?
Present-tense verbs as if they already have that area working as desired.
What is the coach’s role in the life design process?
To stress both dreams and practical steps needed to attain them.
True or False: Clients should only focus on realistic goals in the life design process.
False.
What should clients do for each life design area they choose to work on?
Write down three to five key bullet points representing that life area.
What is the purpose of the ‘Closing the Gap Worksheet’?
To describe the gap and identify first steps to close it.
Why is it important for clients to revisit their life design periodically?
To update their vision as circumstances change.
What is a common scenario that may lead clients to start with life purpose work?
When clients report extremely low scores on a Life Balance Wheel assessment.
What should coaches ask clients to consider regarding life purpose?
How would this life area look if living out their life purpose fully?
