Chapter 11 - STEERING YOUR LIFE BY TRUE NORTH Flashcards
What function do values serve in our lives?
Values guide us in determining the direction of our life and help us make critical decisions.
How does Merriam-Webster define ‘value’?
‘Something (as a principle or quality) intrinsically valuable or desirable.’
What are values according to the text?
Beliefs, qualities, or philosophies that are meaningful to individuals.
What are the three kinds of values identified in coaching?
- The Superficial Shoulds
- Chosen Values
- Core Values
What are Superficial Shoulds?
Relatively superficial values stemming from external expectations rather than personal belief.
What are Chosen Values?
Values that resonate personally and are actively upheld by individuals.
What are Core Values?
The three to five critically important values that define an individual’s life.
What happens when individuals do not live according to their core values?
They may feel dissatisfied, depressed, embarrassed, and ashamed.
How do values impact job satisfaction among physicians?
Physicians identifying benevolence as a guiding principle report higher job satisfaction.
True or False: Values have the power to change outer circumstances quickly.
True
What is a fulfilled life according to the text?
A life lived in alignment with one’s personal values.
What must clients do before setting goals around values?
Consciously explore, distinguish, and clearly delineate their personal values.
What is the relationship between needs and values?
Insufficiently satisfied needs must be addressed before clients can align with their values.
What is the role of a coach in helping clients with values?
To assist clients in clarifying and articulating their unique values.
What can happen when clients’ work conflicts with their core values?
They may experience serious inner conflict and pain.
Fill in the blank: Core values have _______ worth for an individual.
[intrinsic]
What is the process for clients to identify their core values?
Engaging in various exercises to discern and articulate their core values.
What are the three major areas from which values are drawn?
- Experiencing
- Creating
- Being
What does the ‘Being’ category of values include?
- Integrity
- Joy
- Love
- Peace
- Truth
- Uniqueness
- Loyalty
- Empathy
- Spirituality
- Authenticity
What is the purpose of values exercises in coaching?
To help clients identify and clarify their personal values.
What might indicate that a client is listing superficial values?
A lack of joy and satisfaction when they think about those values.
True or False: Living according to a list of ‘shoulds’ can lead to joy and satisfaction.
False
What does the text suggest about individuals’ reliance on others for validation?
Most people look to others too much for validation instead of accessing inner validation.
What is the ultimate aim of aligning life with core values?
To maximize opportunities for success, creativity, and satisfaction.
What are the three main categories of actions mentioned?
Creating, generating, and designing
These actions relate to the creative process and personal expression.
Define ‘Being’ in the context of personal values.
Values fulfilled through attitudes, mind-sets, emotions, and qualities of character
Examples include integrity, joy, love, and peace.
List five qualities that can help identify core values from childhood.
- Creativity
- Thoughtfulness
- Love of nature
- Helping others
- Exploration
What is the purpose of asking three people to name your values?
To gain insights into values that may be more obvious to others than to oneself
Values influence decisions and sources of pleasure and pain.
What should clients track during the week to reflect on their values?
Activities that give a full sense of satisfaction
Aim to list examples under each core value.
Fill in the blank: You can only live your values if you are clear about what they are and _______.
[conscious of them every day]
What is a ‘mastermind group’?
A synergy of energy, commitment, and creativity among group members working toward a definite purpose
Introduced by Napoleon Hill in ‘Think and Grow Rich’.
What should clients examine to align their life and work goals with core values?
Short-term and long-term goals
Assess whether these goals allow living out core values.
True or False: Pain-driven values are less important than pleasure-driven values.
False
Both pain-driven and pleasure-driven values can be significant.
What is the impact of living in alignment with values?
Higher energy, increased creativity, and a sense of fulfillment
Living values daily leads to a more satisfying life.
What should clients do to create helpful habits?
Identify three to five habits they can commit to implementing in the next 10 weeks
This aligns daily actions with articulated values.
How can clients take charge of their schedules?
By blocking time for values-directed activities in their calendar
This helps hold them accountable for acting in accordance with their values.
What might trigger a shift in core values?
Life transitions, such as midlife changes
New values may become more important over time.
What does the question ‘Is this value driven by pain or pleasure?’ help clients to explore?
The motivation behind their values and how they impact life satisfaction
This encourages deeper reflection on life choices.
List two examples of pleasure-driven and pain-driven values.
- Pleasure-driven: Enjoying massages for relaxation
- Pain-driven: Getting massages to alleviate chronic pain
What is the role of habits in relation to values?
Habits are values in action
They reflect the attitudes and mind-sets that guide one’s life.
What should clients do if their current activities block them from living their core values?
Identify and eliminate those blocking activities
This may involve delegating or letting go of certain tasks.
What is a key action that a client took regarding their computer while on vacation?
The client agreed to leave his computer home when he went on vacation.
What often prompts individuals to adopt new core values?
A desire to move a value up in importance, often occurring in midlife.
What value might become more important during midlife?
Spirituality.
What can cause values to shift in a person?
Emerging into a new level of consciousness.
What should clients do to develop a new value?
Examine values that have been powerful and life-shaping.
How many values should clients reflect on that have shaped their life?
Two to five values.
What should clients identify after reviewing a list of values?
One or two new values they would like to implement.
What should clients create for each new value they wish to adopt?
An operational definition.
Who should clients identify in relation to their new values?
People in their life who demonstrate each value.
What is essential for the action plan clients create for their values?
Specific events, dates, and a review process.
What should clients do to ensure they live a values-focused life?
Contemplate their values deeply.
True or False: Living according to one’s values has only benefits.
False.
What significant figures are mentioned as examples of living out values?
Gandhi and Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
What should clients reflect on regarding past life-changing decisions?
How these decisions might be made through the lens of current high-priority values.
What is at the heart of coaching from the inside out?
Values work.
What do clients who can articulate their values find?
Fulfillment in the integrity of life from the inside and outside.
