Chapter 12 - WALK THE TALK Flashcards
What is the main focus of the chapter ‘Walk the Talk’?
Creating a life aligned with clients’ vision and values through actions
This is referred to as integrity.
Define personal integrity.
The alignment of actions, values, and beliefs in an individual’s life.
What does it mean to ‘walk your talk’?
To take actions that are consistent with one’s vision and values.
What was the outcome when the friends discovered cracks in their house?
The house lacked solid architectural integrity despite the engineering firm’s report.
What are the three important processes initiated to correct the Leaning Tower of Pisa?
- Extraction
- Replacement
- Restraints
What does integrity in life coaching involve according to the text?
Aligning actions with life purpose and setting personal boundaries.
List the four Toltec practices identified by Don Miguel Ruiz.
- Be impeccable with your word.
- Do not take anything personally.
- Do not make assumptions.
- Always do your best.
What is Rotary International’s Four-Way Test?
- Is it the truth?
- Is it fair to all concerned?
- Will it build good will and better friendships?
- Will it be beneficial to all concerned?
True or False: Integrity is unimportant for leadership.
False
What is an example of someone who demonstrated integrity in the corporate world?
Cynthia Cooper, who reported unethical practices at WorldCom.
What is a clue to notice when you are in integrity?
Physical, emotional, intellectual, or spiritual signals.
Fill in the blank: Integrity is the first chapter of the book of _______.
wisdom
What is a major lesson our friends learned about integrity?
Integrity is essential in both architecture and relationships.
What can be the cost of lacking personal integrity?
Loss of trust and credibility.
What did Leonard Roberts do when pressured to compromise his integrity?
He resigned from his position in protest.
What is the impact of loose ends in a person’s life?
They create distractions and drain energy.
What does the exercise ‘Get complete’ suggest to clients?
To finish unfinished business in various areas of life.
What are some areas where clients may need to achieve closure?
- The past
- People
- Projects
- Home
- Work
What does personal integrity mean in the context of emotional intelligence?
It is referred to as the competence titled transparency.
What is an example of a guiding rule for life attributed to Angeles Arrien?
- Show up.
- Pay attention.
- Tell the truth.
- Don’t be attached to the results.
What does it mean to extract in the context of regaining integrity?
Removing habits, people, or attachments that are not serving you.
What is an incompletion in the context of coaching?
An incompletion refers to something that gets dropped and remains unfinished, causing mental clutter.
List the four options to address incompletions.
- Plan for it
- Let it go
- Get busy and complete it now
- Create and implement workable systems
Define personal standards.
Personal standards are the principles we choose to live by and hold ourselves accountable for.
What can cause breakdowns in satisfaction related to personal standards?
Standards that no longer work or reflect current goals and desires.
What does the gold standard refer to?
A benchmark against which economic stability is measured.
What is the purpose of setting personal standards?
To ensure that choices and behaviors align with what clients really want.
True or False: Personal standards are set by others.
False.
What exercise helps clients examine their personal standards?
Exercise 12.1, Personal Journal Questions.
What is the role of daily choices in achieving big picture goals?
Small daily choices support or hinder the realization of big picture goals.
What can observing small behaviors reveal about a person?
It can provide insight into their values and overall character.
Fill in the blank: When clients say ‘I can’t,’ it often means they are saying, ‘I _______ not to.’
choose
What should clients do when they break a promise?
Use it as a learning opportunity to improve future commitments.
What is the Cycle of the Promise?
A framework for examining the full cycle of a promise, from request to fulfillment.
What is a key strategy for keeping promises?
Put commitments in writing to remember them.
What can help signify the importance of a big promise?
Ceremonies or rituals.
How do integrity and alignment relate?
Integrity emerges from the alignment between what we say and what we do.
What should clients reflect on regarding their values and standards?
What standard must be in place to live out each value.
What does effective promise-making involve?
Making promises that are challenging but realistic.
What is one way to handle a breakdown in commitments?
Communicate early and renegotiate if necessary.
What does it mean to hold oneself accountable?
To take responsibility for adhering to personal standards.
What might indicate a need to adjust personal standards?
Experiencing dissatisfaction or breakdowns.
