Chapter 1: why love matters Flashcards
Hand-holding study
holding hands with your intimate partner you experience less fear
People who are in intimate relationships are generally…..what?
Happier than people who are nit in intimate relationships
What type if intimate relationship sees the happiest people?
Married couples in positive/happy relationships
In what ways do intimate relationships affect our health?
Discordant couples:
- Greater change of getting common cold
- poorer wound healing
- Higher mortality rates
Increased risk of hypertension - Increased rick of periodontal disease and dental caries
- Increased risk of being diagnosed and dying from cancer.
What were the results of the heart failure study?
People in happy relationships were more likely to be alive after a cardiac incident.
Whereas people in unhappy relationships had a greater chance of death following a cardiac incident.
Who has the most and least sex? Married couples living together Non-married couples living together married and not living together No steady partner
Most: Married and living together
Least: No steady relationship
What is the happiness maximizing number of sexual partners in the past year calculated to be?
1 partner
What is the financial result of being in a intimate relationship?
- people in intimate relationships accumulate more wealth
How much will a womens household income drop when they get a divorce?
drops by 58%
How much will a womens income be reduced by when there is a dissolution of cohabiting relationships?
33%
What is the selection effect?
It suggests that people who are happier, healthier, and wealthier to begin with are more attractive to potential relationship partners.
other than selection effect, what effect do intimate relationships offer?
Protection effects
How do intimate relationships affect children?
- lower levels of poverty
- higher levels of education
- fewer emotional problems
- fewer behavioral problems
Parental relationship satisfaction is related to:
- more emotional security
- fewer emotional problems
- fewer behavioral problems
Higher parental conflict affects the biology of children in what way?
- reduced quality of sleep
- speeding up the onset of puberty
- more physical health problems
Kids exposed to frequent and intense parental conflict are more likely to develop what?
Poorer relationships with parents and peers, leading to compulsive internet usage.
How do intimate relationships impact society?
- Following a dissolution, electricity and water usage increase sharply.
- Divorced people are less likely to vote.
- Classmates of childern exposed to domestic violence have lower reading and math scores, reducing future earnings by 4%.
What is Social control theory?
Intimate relationships increases the negative consequences of deviant behavior.
Is romantic love a universal experience?
Yes
What do we want to know about intimate relationships?
Given their importance for individual health and well-being, for children, and for society, intimate relationships need to be studied.
What is Subjective well-being?
How happy we are in general.
What is Relationship status?
The type of relationship someone is involved in.
Marriage, Intimate, unmarried, ect.
What is a relationship transition?
Moving from one type of relationship to another.
Married - divorced
What are Pairbonds
Typically involve two individuals who have some degree of emotional and practical investment in each other.
What is natural selection?
The strongest, and best adapted members of a species are the most likely to continue to procreate and pass on their genetics.
What is interdependence?
The mutual influence that two people have over each other.
What are impersonal relationships?
tend to be formal and task orientated.
Teacher - student
How do intimate relationships impact personal happiness?
Overall, happiness within life corresponds more closely to happiness in marriage than to sanctification with any other domain.
what is a intimate relationship?
A strong, sustained, mutual influence over a broad range of interactions, with the possibility of sexual involvement.
what is Passion?
This is the “love at first sight” aspect of love.
full of ador and longing, tinged with obsession and intense preoccupation with the partner, with a strong desire for sexual fulfillment.
What is intimacy?
“knowing and being known”
marked by warm and comfortable feels of attachment, trust, and authentic friendship, along with a profound sense of mutual caring and respect.
What is commitment?
“Through thick and thin”
demonstrated first by the decision to be in a relationship and then by the willingness to remain in it.
What is romantic love?
plenty of passion and intimacy but little commitment
What is fantuous love?
Lots of passion and commitment but no intimacy.
What is companionate love?
intimacy and commitment but no passion
What is consummate love?
A relationship where you have a great balance of Intimacy, passion, and commitment.
What is a personal relationship?
Relatively informal and engage us at a deeper emotional level.
Grandparent to grandchild.
What is the defining feature of any relationship?
Interdependent relationships, these are the basic building blocks of any further relationship.
What is bidirectional interdependence?
One partners’ behavior affects the others and themselves
How are intimate relationships more personal than normal relationships?
They treat each other as special and unique, rather than as member’s of a generic category.
What is closeness?
Strong, frequent, and diverse forms of mutual inference.
What is one of the defining factors of a intimate relationship?
a intimate relationship is, or has the potential to be, sexual.
What are the seven common attributes of love?
- Desire
- Idealization
- Joy
- Preoccupation
- Proximity
- Prioritizing
- Caring
What are the three attributes that define love in intimate relationships?
- Passion
- Intimacy
- commitment
