Attraction and Mate selection. Flashcards
What is the Mere exposure effect?
We like the things we have seen before.
True or false:
We are attracted to things that are close to use.
True.
What is the key indicator of sexual attraction?
Physical appearance drives sexual attraction most strongly.
What do men self-report is most important in sexual attraction, what about women?
Men = physical appearance
Women = other things
True or false:
both men and women, physical appearance is the biggest indicator for physical attraction.
True
True or false:
Men are more likely to communicate with people they find most attractive, where women are more likely to talk to people more moderate in physical attraction.
True
What are some of the counter forces at play that influence who we match with?
Matching phenomenon
- Fear of rejection
- cultural stigma
What is the matching phenomenon?
We tend to partner with those who are about as attractive as we are.
True or false:
Dispiste how we believe who we look, we can still be attracted to a VERY attractive person.
True
True or false:
We possess an innate bias towards things that are beautiful
True
People who are more attractive are rated as _____________
friendly
likable
interesting
and social
What does appearance bias lead to?
A self-fulfilling prophecy where more attractive people are treated as if they are nicer/friendlier.
True or false:
We like symmetrical faces.
True.
True or false:
We are more attracted to people with avarge faces.
True.
What do we look for in physical attraction from the neck down?
waist to hip ratio of .7 for women is ideal
shoulder to hip ratio of 1.4 for men is ideal.
We are attracted to people who have what personality traits?
Honest, sincere, understanding, loyal
What are the most unattractive traits for someones personality?
Deceitful, malicious, dishonest.
True or false:
People can be too much alike and that opposites attracted
False.
We are attracted to people who share the same values, backgrounds, and personalities.
Over time dissimilarities within a relationship does what?
It disappears
Is having complementary characteristics beneficial in relationships?
No not really, it is still more similarity that drives attraction rather than complementary action.
Why is similarity attractive?
- it is validating, tells us what we believe is important
- easier to get along with
- we expect that they will like us.
In what situation does similarity become unattractive.
When people have the same suffering as us.
- remind us of our own vulnerability.
What is Reciprocity?
The fact that we like people who like us.
this is even more true when we’re pretty sure that like something that is about us. (rather than someone who like everyone)
Why do we lean towards reciprocity?
Low risk of rejection
What is the fundamental assumption of attraction?
We are attracted to those who presence is rewarding in to is in some way
In social Exchange theory, what are the basics of attraction?
- Physical attraction
- Personal characteristics
- Similarity
- reciprocity
in reality what can we say about partner selection, and persceptions?
perception is very non-involved
This is due to attraction being interpersonal
True or false
attraction is interpersonal
mate selection is interpersonal
True.
Choosing a partner is dependent on yourself and the person you chose.
Romantic attraction is more likely in certain contexts. What makes for uncovering feelings of attraction.
People in a situation where their heart rates are elevated.
Duration of intended relationship have implactions for what we are looking for in a partner.
for women: they gain assess to more selective males by engaging in a short term relationship. But they have much higher standers
Men tend to have acsess to must more selective women by engaging in a long term relationship.
What is Sexual strategies theory.
That men and women can benefit from long-term and short-term relationships but in different ways
Summarize men and women’s attraction affinity
Women have higher standards for short term
men have higher standards for long term.
How do people signal their interest in another person?
- Behaviors that indicate ones presence
- behaviors that indicate one’s gender
- Behaviors that express interest
What is behavioral synchrony?
People mimic behaviors in people they are interested in.
What is the key factor in signaling interest?
Self - disclosure.
What are the patterns that are seen in effective self - discolsure.
Starts off as shallow (small talk)
moves to more personal
Then inviting variability
what is disclosure reciprocity?
One person’s disclosure leads to other disclosure.
What is Unrequited love?
Love that is not returned.
