The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck Flashcards
What is the feedback loop from hell?
How do you break the loop?
Worry or anxiety over something causes more problems than it solves.
The desire for a more positive experience is in itself a negative experience.
Accepting a negative experience is a positive experience.
What are the 3 keys to reaching goals?
1) Don’t worry about what others think. Reserve fucks for what truly matters. Be comfortable being different than others, not indifferent.
2) To not care about or overcome adversity, you must care about something more than adversity.
3) Do things consciously. Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.
What causes people to focus on trivial shit?
Not having anything in life worth actually caring about.
What is happiness?
First living within your values
Next, the elimination of cravings
What is happiness as it relates to problems?
Soling the problems you enjoy having and solving
How do you use emotions?
Ask if the emotion is useful or not.
Understand the root of the emotion.
Ask “why” repeatedly.
What are the layers in the self awareness onion?
1) Emotions
2) Why you have the emotions
3) Underlying values that determine the source of our problems
What are examples of bad values and why are they bad?
Ex: Material Success, always being right, pleasure.
False values because they are not immediate or controllable, superstitious, or socially destructive.
Most importantly, the greatest moments in life are never those things.
What are the hallmarks of good values?
Reality based
Socially constructive
Immediate and controllable
What is the difference between a good and a bad problem?
Whether or not you choose it.
Choosing problem - empowered
Foisted problem - victim
Ex: Being forced to run 26 mi with a gun to your head not a good problem.
Training for a marathon, and achieving the goal of 26 mi is a good problem.
How do you manage blame vs. responsibility?
You may not be responsible for what happens to you, but you are always responsible for your reaction and how you feel as a result.
What is Tim Kreider’s NYT Oped quote on outrage?
“Outrage is more insidious than other vices because we don’t even consciously acknowledge it’s a pleasure”
What is Parkinsons Law?
Work expands so as to fill up the time available for completion.
What is the difficulty with change and how do you do it?
Change is simple, but difficult to execute. Just fucking do it, rip off the bandaid and deal with the pain. The pain is good.
What is Mansons law?
The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.