T3D2 Flashcards
Define Internalizing tendencies
Fearful, shy, socially inhibited behavior
Define Externalizing tendencies
Disruptive, impulsive and aggressive behavior
Define Emotion regulation
important for development
of social skills, not hitting other kid on playground who wants same swing
Define Emotion-coaching
Approach to emotion regulation, Discuss emotions and teach children how to deal with them
Define Emotion-dismissing
Approach to emotion regulation, Deny, ignore or try to change negative emotions
Two approaches to emotional regulation
Emotion-coaching
Emotion-dismissing
Children are more comfortable discussing emotional issues with a parent when
when the parent validates and accepts a child’s emotions
When do children adopt the moral values and conscience of their parents
Children are more willing to embrace parents’ moral values when they have a positive relationship with them
Definition and timeframe for gender identity
The sense of being male or female. Usually around age 3
Define Gender roles
A set of expectations that says how males and females should think, act and feel
Diana Baumrind: scale of parenting styles, applies to 4 parenting styles
Accepting/responsive ↔ rejecting/not responsive
and
Demanding/controlling ↔not demanding/controlling
Describe Baumrind’s authoritarian parenting style
Low on acceptance and responsiveness and high on demands and control. Inflexible rules and emphasis on obedience.
Unhappy, fearful children, bad communication skills
Describe Baumrind’s authoritative parenting style (remember extra t means talk)
High on acceptance and responsiveness and high on demands and control. Reasonable freedom and flexibility in rules.
Happy children with good self-control and social skills
Describe Baumrind’s neglectful parenting style
Low on acceptance and responsiveness and low on demands and control. Children are ignored and emotionally abandoned.
Children with low self-esteem and risk for adolescent delinquency
Describe Baumrind’s indulgent parenting style
High on acceptance and responsiveness, low on demands and control. No structure, children’s wishes rule.
Egocentric, bad self-control and social skills
Discipline-environment fit: two instances when authoritarian style are needed
In collectivist cultures where there is high emphasis on respect and obedience
In dangerous neighborhoods and harsh environments (example: war zones) where safety is important and strict rules are needed
4 reasons to avoid spanking
Modeling aggressive behavior
Fear of the parent
Tells children what not to do, not what they should do
Might lead to abuse
Six ways to communicate about divorce
- Explain the separation
- Explain separation is not child’s fault
- Explain that it will take time to feel better
- Keep door open to further discussion
- Provide as much continuity as possible
- Provide support for children and yourself
Describe disorganization and divorce
During the divorce parents are disorganized and parenting becomes worse. After a while parenting will go back to normal
Number of gay and lesbian parents in America
There are more than one million gay and lesbian parents in America
Research shows what about outcomes of gay parents
Research found no difference in outcome between children from gay parents versus heterosexual parents
Research found that children from gay parents do not…
Research found that children from gay parents do not ‘turn out gay’ more than children from heterosexual parents
Define conservation
knowing that things (objects) can change in appearance and still stay the same (think about contrast with identity constancy)
Define identity constancy
knowing that people can change in appearance and still stay the same person (think about contrast with conservation)
Discuss play and learning
Play = learning
Less time for free play and more emphasis on academics hinders cognitive and socioemotional development
What age does a child know their thoughts are private
At 4-5
Summary of parenting priorities poll
Remember people have different priorities as parents
Summary of parenting styles class exercise
Class discussed responses of 4 parenting styles to teen talking back, teen having sex, 2yo touching stove
Summary of discipline class poll
All class received physical discipline with objects, all but 3 going to use physical discipline
Summary of article about eating dirt
Farm children have better immune system than city children. Bacteria need to get in gut to train immune system.
