attraction and intimacy Flashcards
What is an attachment bond?
- desire to maintain proximity to those who can offer protection
- “felt security” when bond intact
- distress upon separation
What does healthy attachment bring?
- a secure base for explanation
- a safe haven from fears
what does Bowlby suggest about attachment?
the attachment theory, that human infants need an attachment bond.
what are the 3 main tenets of Bowlby’s theory?
security: responsive care-giving creates secure attachment
secure base: secure attachment leads to greater exploration
competence: secure attachment promotes social competence later in life
what are the three stages of reactions to disruptment?
1) protest: crying, fussing, tantrum - trying to get caregiver’s attention
2) despair: exhaustion after crying and fussing for a long time, still negative responses but no longer engaging in active protest
3) emotional detachment: no longer crying, no longer expressing negative responses, but also still not happy - these children don’t play or engage in emotion much at all
kids experience different attachment styles; ____ percent are secure, ___ percent are anxious and ___ percent are avoidant.
60%
20%
20%
________ children express no distress when mom leaves, or may snub mom upon return
avoidant
- de-active
_____ children cling to mom, experience extreme distress when mom leaves, and are not comforted upon mom’s return
anxious
- reactive
_______ children are happy to play when mom is around and are distressed when mom leaves, but easily comforted upon mom’s return
secure
cultures that emphasize independence like ________, you see almost no ______ attached babies. Whereas In ____, where cultures emphasize closeness, babies tend to be more _______, if not secure.
Germany
Anxiously
Japan
Anxious
what are the differences between adults and infants?
- sexual system
- “felt security” without physical contact
- symmetry: child’s attachment needs are met by parent, parent should not be turning to child for their own needs
engaging in various distractions to avoid emotions are a part of ________
emotional detachment
Katie finds it relatively easy to get close to others and is comfortable depending on them, she also doesnt often worry about being abandoned. Katie is _____ attached.
Securely attached
Jillian is somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; and finds it difficult to allow herself to depend on. Jillian is _____.
avoidant
_______ love is a combination of intimacy and passion. This is the type of love when we are “in love”.
romantic
