attraction and intimacy Flashcards
What is an attachment bond?
- desire to maintain proximity to those who can offer protection
- “felt security” when bond intact
- distress upon separation
What does healthy attachment bring?
- a secure base for explanation
- a safe haven from fears
what does Bowlby suggest about attachment?
the attachment theory, that human infants need an attachment bond.
what are the 3 main tenets of Bowlby’s theory?
security: responsive care-giving creates secure attachment
secure base: secure attachment leads to greater exploration
competence: secure attachment promotes social competence later in life
what are the three stages of reactions to disruptment?
1) protest: crying, fussing, tantrum - trying to get caregiver’s attention
2) despair: exhaustion after crying and fussing for a long time, still negative responses but no longer engaging in active protest
3) emotional detachment: no longer crying, no longer expressing negative responses, but also still not happy - these children don’t play or engage in emotion much at all
kids experience different attachment styles; ____ percent are secure, ___ percent are anxious and ___ percent are avoidant.
60%
20%
20%
________ children express no distress when mom leaves, or may snub mom upon return
avoidant
- de-active
_____ children cling to mom, experience extreme distress when mom leaves, and are not comforted upon mom’s return
anxious
- reactive
_______ children are happy to play when mom is around and are distressed when mom leaves, but easily comforted upon mom’s return
secure
cultures that emphasize independence like ________, you see almost no ______ attached babies. Whereas In ____, where cultures emphasize closeness, babies tend to be more _______, if not secure.
Germany
Anxiously
Japan
Anxious
what are the differences between adults and infants?
- sexual system
- “felt security” without physical contact
- symmetry: child’s attachment needs are met by parent, parent should not be turning to child for their own needs
engaging in various distractions to avoid emotions are a part of ________
emotional detachment
Katie finds it relatively easy to get close to others and is comfortable depending on them, she also doesnt often worry about being abandoned. Katie is _____ attached.
Securely attached
Jillian is somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; and finds it difficult to allow herself to depend on. Jillian is _____.
avoidant
_______ love is a combination of intimacy and passion. This is the type of love when we are “in love”.
romantic
______ love is a combination of intimacy and commitment. This is the type of love when you love someone but aren’t in love with them.
companionate love
when we look at our beloved, regions that activate ______ and _____ are activated as well.
motivation and reward
sexual attraction is _____-dependant
androgen-dependent
_________ = sexual desire and frequency of sexual thoughts
free testosterone
removal of _______ = decreased desire among women
adrenal gland
_______ suppress synthesis of androgens, which decreases sexual desire
steroids
______ stimulates uterine contractions during childbirth as well as release of milk during lactation
oxytocin
_______ increases blood pressure and facilitates blood flow through kidneys
vasopressin
____ love has a limited life-span of ________.
romantic
18-30 months
why does the romantic love fade?
- fantasy turns to reality
- novelty disappears: excitement becomes normal
- arousal fades with time: Developing tolerance to the effects of love hormones
