{30} Building Healthy Relationships & Teams

Question 1

Identify:

What is Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love?

Non-Love?

Answer 1

Love is a triangle made up of three components:
Intimacy: Feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness
Passion: Feelings and Desires that lead to physical attraction, romance, and sexual consummation
Decision/Commitment: Involves feelings that lead a person to remain with someone and move toward shared goals

Balancing the physiological need for sex and the need for love

The abscence of all three components

Question 2

Identify:

7 Types of Love?

Is relationship unique?

Sternberg’s Triangular Theory

Answer 2

7 Types:
Friendship: Intimacy is there but no passion or romanticism
Infatuation: Feelings of lust and physical passion but not deeper sense of intimay
Empty Love: Commitment without passion or intimacy
Romantic Love: Love with intimacy and physical passion
Companionate Love: Intimate, but non-passionate sort of love
Fatuous Love: Commitment and passion are present while intimacy or liking is absent
Consummate Love: Contain all three components and is the total form of love

The three components can differ from relationship to relationship

Question 3

Explain:

What is Chapman’s 5 Love Languages?

Answer 3

1. Words of Affirmation: Compliments and hearing words are most important
2. Quality Time: Undivided attention and being there a person is most important
3. Receiving Gifts: Reciever thrives on givts of love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind a gift
4. Acts of Service: Going out of one’s way to do service or things that will help your partner
5. Physical Touch: Very touchy (especially outside the bedroom)

Question 4

Explain:

What is John Gottman’s 7 Principles in a long-lasting relationship?

Answer 4

1. Build Love Maps: Know all the things about your partner. To build them, ask questions about your partner and write them down

2. Express Fondness and Admiration: Have a postive view of each other (past & present). APPRECIATION is essential

3. Toward one Another: Do small acts of giving your partner attention. When conflict comes, there is more postive in their emotional bank account

4. Accept Influence: Men are more likely to ignore partner’s persepctive… open up and conisder partner’s perspective when spending money and other things

5. Solve Problems that are Solvable:
Solvable: Isues that are less intense with no underlying conflict
5 Steps:
a) Soften your startup
b) Make and recieve
c) Soothe yourself and each other
d) Compromise
e) Be tolerant of each other’s faults

Perpetual: Underlying problems that forces one to ACCEPT AND ADAPT

6. Manage Conflict & Overcome Gridlock:
Issues that are unlikely to solve that force one to ACCEPT AND ADAPT… you don’t have to agree but acknowledge, agree, and listen and come up with TEMPORARY COMPROMISES

7. Create Shared Meaning:
1. Create rituals of connection
2. Work together towards a common goal

Question 5

Explain:

What are the Characteristics and signs of effective and ineffective teams?

Answer 5

Effective teams are:
- Trusting
- Work together
- meet and exceed the standard
- adapt to demanding challenges
- learn from experinences and develop good pride
Ineffective teams:
- Fail to listen to relevant input
- Speak despairingly about other members
- Compete, rather than cooperate
- Argue with other team mebers in front of other individuals
- Fail to act or make decisions on issues
- Focus on self-interest rather than well-being of team
- Give less than full effort b.c of low morale and lack of confidence

Question 6

Explain:

Positive Learning Culture?

Answer 6

Eager to understand new areas and current situation.
Make it by establishing learning as a part of a team’s goals