things I got wrong in the mock Flashcards
factors affecting attraction: self disclosure
revealing personal information about yourself
romantic partners reveal more about themselves as relationship develops
social penetration theory
gradual process of revealing more bbout your inner self to someone else
involves recipriocal exchange
one partner reveals personal info signalling I trust you
other partner must also reveal senstive info
more and more they disclose to eachother, more they penetrate into eachothers lives
onion analogy
as relatiosnhip progresses, more and more layers of onion are removed represnting deeper and more meaningful info being diclosed
only likely to occur if reciprocol
breadth and depth of self disclosure
as both increase, become more committed to each other
what we first reveal is superficial
type of low risk info we would reveal to anyone
breadth of disclosure is narrow as most things are off limit
if reveal too much too soon, may get response of TMI (too much information)
thretning relationship before its really started
eventually, able to reveal high risk info such as painful memories
key to maintaining a intimate relsitonhip is the right balance between breadth and depth
recipricoty of self disclosure
reis and shaver
point out that for relatiosnhip to develop, as well as increase in both depth and breadth, relatiosnhip also needs to have element of recipriocal to disclosure
factors affecting attraction:physical attractiveness
shackelfood and larsen
gound people are more attracted to symmetrical faces.beacuse it may be honest signal of genetic fitness
people also attracted to baby face features such as widely speated large eyes, delicate chin and small nose as trigger a protective and caring instinct, valuable resource for women wanting to reproduce
halo effect
we have a tendancy to associate attractive people with preconcieved disportionately positive charcteristics, including personality and wealth even tho they may not be linked
therefore, asssoicate attractive people as kind, sociable rather then unattractive people
belief that good lookign epople have these charcteristics makes us even more attracted to them-self fulfilling prospheracy
matching hypothesis
people choose romantic partners of a similar attractiveness to each other
we desire most attractive but balance this against the wish to avoid being rejected
someone out of our league
someone who is very unlikely to consider us physically attractive
diffreence in what we would like in ideal partner and what we are willing to settle for
factors affectign attraction:filter theory
explantion of relatiosnhip formation
suggests there are several filters we sift through to get through potential partners and choose the right one
what are the three stages of fiter theory
SSC
social demogrpahy
similarity in attitudes
complemetatity
social demography
refers to wide range of favtors that influence partners meeting in first place
e.g geographical locations ‘ethnic gorup ‘religion
similarity in attitudes
tend to go for the partners who have similair basic values to our own
this increases communicaiton therefore self-disclosure
complementarity
concerns ability to meet eachothers needs
similairty becomes less imporant and is replaced by the need for your partner to balance out traits with your own
theories of romantic relationships:social exchange theory (SET)
ecnomoic theory of how realtiosnhips form and develop
claims that partners strive to maximise rewards and minimise costs
rewards, costs and profits
ideas of costs and rewards are subjective
what one person sees as costly, other may see as low cost or even rewards
value of rewards and costs maty change, at start may be rewarding and costly then may chnage as relatiosnhip progresses
comparison level
based on persons idea of how much rewards they should recieve in relationship
preception ebcomes more accuratel with experinece
can also be infleuned by social and cultural factors e.g books and tv porgrammes
person with high self esteem will have higher experctions of rewards then person with low self esteem
only consier persuing if comparison leevl is equal to or above comparison level