Relationships and Personality Flashcards

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what are the two theories of attraction?

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attraction similarity theory
complementary needs theory

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what is attraction similarity theory

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we use assortative mating

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3
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what is assortative mating

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we’re attracted to people similar to us

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4
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what is complementary needs theory

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we’re attracted to people whose personality complements ours
opposites attract

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5
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what does data show about the attraction theories

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people’s preferred partner had opposite personalities to them
people’s actual partner showed similar personalities
no support for complementary needs theory

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6
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what factor predicts relationship satisfaction in terms of your partners similarity? which doesn’t?

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if partner is similar to your ‘ideal’ personality
if you and partner have similar personality

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7
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what do females identify as important traits in a partner in order

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mutual love
dependable
emotional stability
pleasing disposition
education/intelligence
sociability
good health

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what do males identify as important traits in a partner in order

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mutual love
dependable
emotional stability
pleasing disposition
good health
education
sociability

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9
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what do females identify as less important traits in a partner in order

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similar religious backgrounds
similar political background
chastity

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10
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what do males identify as less important traits in a partner in order

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chastity
similar religious background
similar political background

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11
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what traits actually predict partner satisfaction overall?

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male; agreeableness, emotional stability, openness
female; agreeableness, conscientiousness, emotional stability, openness

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12
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what traits actually predict partner satisfaction in confiding?

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male; agreeableness
female; agreeableness, emotional stability, openness

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13
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what traits actually predict partner satisfaction sexually?

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male; agreeableness, conscientiousness, emotional stability
female; agreeableness

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14
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what traits actually predict partner satisfaction in enjoyment?

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same in both
male; agreeableness, emotional stability
female; agreeableness, emotional stability

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15
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what can be biasing self-reported personality

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reference group effect

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what is reference group effect

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tendency to rate oneself relative to the people their close to socially

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17
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how can the reference group effect be influencing assortative mating studies

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people rate themselves as different from their partner, when in reality the have relatively similar personality

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18
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what correlation coefficient do partners get in personality similarity in earlier studies?

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.10

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19
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how did new research in assortative mating bypass the reference group effect

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measured personality behaviour instead of self report
studied language and likes on facebook to predict their big 5 traits

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20
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what were the results of the facebook study of assortative mating?

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likes correlation; .24
language correlation; 0.38

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21
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what traits predict future relationship quality/conflict?

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PEM
NEM
CON

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22
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what is PEM

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positive emotionality

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23
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what is positive emotionality

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confidence, enthusiasm, social warmth, well-being, zest

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24
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what is NEM

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negative emotionality

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25
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what is negative emotionality

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threshold for negative emotions like anxiety, anger, fear

26
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what is CON

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constraint

27
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what is constraint

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self control, harm avoidance, endorsement of social norms

28
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how did PEM correlate with relationship quality later in life

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positive low correlation

29
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how did NEM correlate with relationship quality later in life

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negatively moderately correlated

30
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how did CON correlate with relationship quality later in life

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positive low correlation

31
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how did PEM correlate with relationship conflict later in life

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0

32
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how did NEM correlate with relationship conflict later in life

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positvely moderate correlation

33
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how did CON correlate with relationship conflict later in life

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negative low correlation

34
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what was the difference in results between older and newer assortative mating studies?

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couples personalities were more correlated in the newer studies than older studies

35
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what were the research questions in the emotions and sexual attractiveness study

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are there gender differences in which emotion expressions people perceive as the most attractive?
which emotion expression is perceived as the most sexually attractive?

36
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which emotions were tested in the emotions and sexual attractiveness study

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pride
shame
neutral
happy

37
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how sexually attractive is happiness considered?

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most attractive in females
least attractive in males

38
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how sexually attractive is pride considered

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least attractive in females
most attractive in males

39
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how sexually attractive is shame considered?

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attractive in both sexes

40
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what did a follow up study to the emotions and sexual attractiveness study show?

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shame is not perceived as attractive in india

41
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who conducted the emotions and sexual attractiveness study

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Tracy and Beall

42
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who conducted the expression of emotions in relationships study?

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Gottman and Levenson

43
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what was the expression of emotions in relationships study

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videotaped newlyweds engaging in conflict
followed up 5 years later to see if divorced

44
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what kind of data was collected in Gottman and Levenson study?

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all four types

45
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what was the observational data in Gottman and Levenson study?

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coding for emotional responses in an argument with video tape

46
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what was the test data in Gottman and Levenson study?

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physiological measures

47
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what was the informant data in Gottman and Levenson study?

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couple member rated partner’s relationship satisfaction

48
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what was the self-report data in Gottman and Levenson study?

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couple member rated their own realtionship satisfaction

49
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what were the results of the Gottman and Levenson study?

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could predict divorce 5 years later with 83% accuracy

50
Q

what are the four main factors that predict divorce? what study were they found in?

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criticism vs complaint
contempt
defensiveness
stonewallling
Gottman and Levenson

51
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what is criticism vs complaint?

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criticism; global statement of anger/negativity, blaming
complaint; specific statement of anger/negativity

52
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which factor predicts divorce; criticism or complaint?

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criticism

53
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how does negative affect affect divorce

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escalation is bad
de-escalation (like through humour) is good

54
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what does contempt mean

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insult, mockery, sarcasm or derision of the other person

55
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what is defensiveness

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attempt to protect one’s self from perceived attack

56
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what are some actions that show defensiveness?

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denial of responsibility
counterblame
whining
assuming what the other person is feeling

57
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what is stonewalling

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listener presents a ‘stone wall’ to their partner
silent treatment

58
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what are some qualities of stonewalling

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no vocalizations (mmm, yeah)
neck is rigid
no eye contact
little facial movements, and only negative

59
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what sex tends to stonewall more? what percentage of stonewallers are this sex?

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male
85%

60
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what are the overall findings from Gottman and Levenson?

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four factors that predict divorce
satisfaction is not predicted by how often a couple fights, but how negative feelings are expressed during the fight
5:1 ratio of -ve to +ve interactions indicated a good marriage
-ve emotions are associated with high physiological arousal in men but not in women

61
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what are the implications of men having higher physiological arousal with -ve emotions?

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may avoid -ve affect in relationships because it’s more punishing
experience lower levels of negative affect than women