Personality and relationships Flashcards
Attraction simililarity theory
-assortitive mating
-we are atracted to people that are similar to us
week evidence for this theory
complementery needs theory
-we are attracted to people whose personality complements ours
-opposites attracts
no support for this theory
what usually do people want?
pretty high correletion to their personality and prefer partner personality
what people get
women and men have relationships with people with the same intelligence
is similarity releted to relationship satisfaction?
-couple with similar personality traits are not necessarily more satisfied in their relationship
so what makes a relationship satisfying ?
when the paterner is similar to you ideal personality
for example:I’m very satisfied with enrike because he is extraverted and I like being extraverted
what do people want in partners ?
male and female
-mutual attraction
-dependable
-emotional stability
-pleasing disposition
-good health
-education/inteligence
-sociability
the difference is that women think that intelligence and sociability are higher then good health9good health being the least one)
what are the less important traits
for man
-chasity
-similar religioun
-similar political view
for women
-religion
-political
-chasity/virgin
what traits predict partner’s satisfaction?
overall:
husband- Agreebleness, Extraverted,Opness (in wife)
for women - Agreebleness ,Concietious
,Extraverted,Opness(in husband)
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confide:
Husband- agreebleness
women: agrebleness,extraversion,openness
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sexual:
hasband- Agreeble , Concietious,Extraversion
women-Agrebleness
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Enjoyment:(same)
husband- agrebleness,extraversion
wife- agreebleness,extraversion
do studies show personality similarity between partners
yes,but very little (below.10)
but that can be due to reference group effect since this study was a self-reported one
what is reference group effect?
when judging our own personality,we compare ourselves to people we spend time with
these people tend to be like us
as a result,our self-rated personality may seem more different from our partners than is accurate
ex: I’m extraverted and my partner is also extraverted but I think he is more then me or he goes out more which causes me to say that his way more extraverted then me/or that I’m an introvert compering to him (when that is not exactly true)
what if we measure personality with behaviour instead of self-report
avoid reference group problem
one study in which measures peoples personality through behaviour was:
one study that measured facebook likes and language in posts
likes and words(happy/amazing) in posts predict Big % between partners
what was found in this study?
*likes(what was being liked) average similarity between partners was: .24
*language,avreage similarity between partners was:38
self report average similarity between partners: only .10
is similarity related to relationship satisfaction ?
couples with similar personality traits are not necessarily more satisfied with their relationship
but, if partners is similar to your”ideal personality’’ then relationship satisfaction is higher