Module 7: Connecting and Communicating in the Modern World Flashcards

1
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how much more likely are people with positive relationships to survive over time

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50%

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2
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define intimate connectedness

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relationship that makes you feel who you are is affirmed

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3
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define intimate relationships

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  • relationships with family members, friends, and romantic partners
  • characterized by behavioral interdependence, need fulfillment, emotional attachment, and emotional availability
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4
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define behavioral interdependence

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  • mutual impact that people have on each other as their lives intertwine
  • what one person does influences what the others person wants to do
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5
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what needs do we fulfill through intimate relationships

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  • intimacy: sharing feelings
  • social integration: sharing worries
  • nurturance: taking care of
  • assistance: help in time of need
  • affirmation: reassurance of worth
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6
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define emotional attachment

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  • feelings of love
  • not only sexual relationships
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7
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define emotional availability

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ability to give and receive emotions from others without fear of being hurt or rejected

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8
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when and why is holding back on emotional availability healthy

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  • after a painful breakup
  • offers time for introspection, healing, and considering lessons learned
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9
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define accountability

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  • recognizing responsibility for your own choices and actions
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10
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define self-nurturance

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  • developing individual potential through a balances and realistic appreciation of self-worth and ability
  • being patient with yourself
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define self-concept

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  • the way you define yourself
  • how you view your physical features, emotional states, talents, likes an dislikes, values, and roles
  • may define self as activist, mother, honor student, athlete, musician, etc
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12
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define self-esteem

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  • the way you evaluate or feel about yourself
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13
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what is the central focus of a family

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  • protect, care for, love, and socialize with one another
  • nurturance and support
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14
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define family of origin

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  • people present in our household during our first years of life
  • initially leant about feelings, problems solving, love, intimacy, and gender roles
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15
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what characteristics are components of romantic relationships

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  • fascination: preoccupied with other person
  • exclusivity: relationship takes priority
  • sexual desire: physical intimacy
  • giving the utmost: sacrifice for other
  • being a champion or advocate: ensuring that other succeeds
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16
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what are the components of the triangular theory of love

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  • intimacy: emotional components
  • passion: motivational component
  • commitment: cognitive component
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17
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define the term consummate love

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a relationship that combines intimacy, passion, and commitment

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18
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what are the components of Helen Fisher’s predictable theory of love based on brain circuitry and chemistry

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  • imprinting: evolutionary patterns, genetic predispositions, and past experiences trigger romantic attraction
  • attraction: neurochemicals produce feelings of euphoria
  • attachment: endorphins cause lovers to feel peaceful
  • production of a cuddle chemical: oxytocin
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19
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according to Helen Fisher, why do some people constantly seek out new love

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  • endocrine system secretes hormones (dopamine, norepinephrine, and phenylethylamine) which are similar to amphetamines
  • attraction causes natural high but body builds tolerance over time
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20
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what type of romantic relationship is intimacy only

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liking

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21
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what type of romantic relationship is commitment and intimacy

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companionate love

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22
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what type of romantic relationship is commitment only

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empty love

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23
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what type of romantic relationship is passion and commitment

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fatuous love

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24
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what type of romantic relationship is passion only

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infatuation

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25
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what type of romantic relationship is intimacy and passion

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romantic love

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26
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define attraction theory

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  • more than just chemical and psychological processes influence who a person falls in love with
  • includes proximity, similarities, reciprocity, and physical attraction
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27
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what are the four ways that social support is delivered and describe each

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  • emotional: caring, love, trust, empathy
  • instrumental: help and service
  • informational: advice, suggestions, and information
  • appraisal: information that is useful for self-evaluation
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28
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what matters when it comes to health: quality or quantity of relationships

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quality

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29
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what is the average number of confidants reported by americans

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a little over two per person

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30
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what percent of americans report have no one they can turn to for discussing important matters

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9%

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31
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who is included in your social network

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  • neighbors, relatives, classmates, coworkers, friends of friends
32
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define social capital

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  • collective value of people in your social network
33
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define relational connectedness

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  • mutually rewarding face-to-face contact
  • deepens each time we interact positively with someone
34
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define collective connectedness

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  • from feelings that you are part of a group beyond yourself
  • sense of community, volunteering
35
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what percent of americans belong to a local group that strengthens collective connectedness

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74%

36
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do all cultures have the same ways of communicating

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no

37
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define self-disclosure

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  • sharing personal information with others
  • can be good or bad
  • requires trust in the other person
38
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how to overcome fear of self-disclosure

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  • get to know yourself; feelings, beliefs, thoughts, concerns
  • become more accepting of yourself
  • be willing to talk about sex; difficult due to US cultural taboos
  • choose a safe context for self-disclosure; trust the person you disclose to
  • be thoughtful and self-disclosure via social media
39
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what are some differences in how men and women communicate

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  • men: sensitive to subtle messages about status or social hierarchy, less eye contact, sound more abrupt, direct statements, gesture away from the body, difficulty expressing intimate feelings
  • women: sensitive to interpersonal meanings, more eye contact, sound more emotional, tentative statements, gesture towards the body, more likely to ask for help
40
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when do we listen best

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  • we believe that the message is important or relevant to us
  • the speaker holds our attention
  • in the mood to listen; no distractions
41
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what are the 3 types of listening

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  • competitive
  • passive
  • active
42
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define competitive listening

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  • more interested in explaining our own point of view than in understanding someone else’s
43
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define passive listening

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  • listening but not providing verbal or nonverbal feedback
  • speaker may feel unsure if the message is being received
44
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define active listening

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  • hearing the words and trying to understand what is being said
  • listener confirms understanding by restating message
  • shows genuine interest
45
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define nonverbal communication

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  • all unwritten and unspoken messages
  • intentional and unintentional
  • touch, gestures, interpersonal space, body language, tone of voice, facial expressions
46
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are we more likely to believe verbal or nonverbal cues

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nonverbal

47
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how is digital communications different from face-to-face communication

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  • digital lacks nonverbal cues; makes communicating challenging
  • digital allows for more diverse social network and easily keeping in touch
48
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is it likely that using social networking sites decreases social networks

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  • no
  • some evidence suggests that using social networking sites increases your social network
49
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what mental disorder does overuse of socail networking sites cause and why

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  • depression
  • envy others lives
50
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how many college students admit to possibly being addicted to using their phone

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60%

51
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why are people more rude online

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  • anonymity
  • invisibility
52
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how does technology affect the brain

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  • rewiring
  • causes inability to focus on things; reduced attention span
  • strengthens ability to scan information rapidly and efficiently
53
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what are 6 steps for conflict resolution

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  • identify the problem by talking and listening to the other person
  • generate several possible solutions
  • evaluate the alternative solutions and narrow down solutions to one that work for both parties
  • decide on the best solution
  • implement the solution
  • follow up by checking in with the other person
53
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what are the three fundamental elements of trust

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  • predictability of your partners behavior
  • dependability of your partner to emotionally support you
  • faith in your partner having positive intentions and behavior
53
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define conflict resolution

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  • systemic approach to resolving differences fairly and constructively
53
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define conflict

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  • emotional state that arises when the behavior of one person interferes with that of another
  • not avoidable
  • can strengthen relationships
53
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define success in a relationship

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  • whether a couple stays together and remains close over the years
  • learning to communicate, respect, and share genuine fondness
54
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what are some issues for couples in long-term relationships

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  • jealousy
  • sharing power and responsibility
  • communication about unmet expectations
55
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define jealousy

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  • negative reactions evoked by a real or imagine relationship involving one’s partner and another person
  • indicates underlying problems
56
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causes of jealousy

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  • insecurity or possessiveness
  • past experiences of deception or loss
  • overdependent on the relationship
  • severity of the threat
  • high value on sexual exclusivity
  • low self-esteem
  • fear of losing control
57
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define power

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  • ability to make and implement decisions
58
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how did power affect divorce rates in the past century

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  • women gaining more power by being financially stable
  • less likely to stay in abusive or difficult relationships
59
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how many women do daily household chores and how many men

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  • women: 49%
  • men: 19%
60
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what 4 behavior patterns in couple predict future divorce

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  • criticism
  • defensiveness
  • stonewalling
  • contempt (biggest predictor)
61
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tips for coping with a failed relationship

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  • acknowledge that you’ve gone through a rough spot
  • seek out trusted friends or professional help
  • let go of negative thought patterns and habits
  • engage in activities that make you happy
62
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have marriages in american been increasing or decreasing

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decreasing

63
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median age for marriage for men and women in 1960

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  • men: 23
  • women: 20
64
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median age for marriage for men and women today

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  • men: 29
  • women: 27
65
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how many first time marriages end in divorce

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  • 30-50%
  • higher for second and third marriages
66
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what is the difference between monogamy and serial monogamy

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  • monogamy: exclusive sexual involvement with one partner
  • serial monogamy: monogamous relationship with one partner before moving to another monogamous relationship
67
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what are the health benefits of a good marriage or unmarried partners who live together

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  • live longer
  • feel happier
  • fewer physical and mental problems
  • less stress
  • less risky personal behaviors
68
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what do most americans consider to be the most important trait when choosing a partner

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  • similar ideas about having and raising children
  • followed by a steady job
69
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define cohabitation

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  • relationship of two unmarried people with an intimate connection living together
  • over 7 years constitutes common law marriage in some states
70
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is cohabitation a predictor for divorce

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  • no
  • used to be but not anymore
71
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who is more likely to cohabitate

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  • lower socioeconomic status
  • less religious
  • been divorced
  • experienced parental divorce or high levels of parental conflict
72
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what percent of men and women in the 20 to 34 year old age group have never been married

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  • men: 67%
  • women: 57%