mama's last hug Flashcards
automatons
a machine or control mechanism designed to follow automatically a predetermined sequence of operations or respond to encoded instructions “In our species, too, as covert filming has demonstrated, after we shake hands with another person, especially someone of the same sex, we often scent our own hand. We lift it casually close to our face to gather a chemical whiff that informs us about the other’s disposition. We do so unconsciously, as we do so many things that resemble the behavior of other primates. Nevertheless, we like to see ourselves as rational actors who know what we’re doing, while we depict other species as automatons. It’s really not that simple.” Automatic vs manual - automatic is more automaton like because it is designed to follow automatically a predetermined sequence of operations or respond to encoded instructions.
feelings
feelings are when you become conscious of your emotions. We show are emotions, but we talk about our feelings. “We are constantly in touch with our feelings, but the tricky part is that our emotions and our feelings are not the same. We tend to conflate them, but feelings are internal subjective states that, strictly speaking, are known only to those who have them. I know my own feelings, but I don’t know yours, except for what you tell me about them. We communicate about our feelings by language. Emotions, on the other hand, are bodily and mental states— from anger and fear to sexual desire and affection and seeking the upper hand—that drive behavior. Triggered by certain stimuli and accompanied by behavioral changes, emotions are detectable on the outside in facial expression, skin color, vocal timbre, gestures, odor, and so on. Only when the person experiencing these changes becomes aware of them do they become feelings, which are conscious experiences. We show our emotions, but we talk about our feelings.” MD - anger - fast heart pulse, blood rushing to the face, frown - these are emotions. Feelings - Hercules - “disapointed!!!!!”
emotions
emotions are when certain stimuli trigger physiological changes in our body. They seem involuntary. “We are constantly in touch with our feelings, but the tricky part is that our emotions and our feelings are not the same. We tend to conflate them, but feelings are internal subjective states that, strictly speaking, are known only to those who have them. I know my own feelings, but I don’t know yours, except for what you tell me about them. We communicate about our feelings by language. Emotions, on the other hand, are bodily and mental states— from anger and fear to sexual desire and affection and seeking the upper hand—that drive behavior. Triggered by certain stimuli and accompanied by behavioral changes, emotions are detectable on the outside in facial expression, skin color, vocal timbre, gestures, odor, and so on. Only when the person experiencing these changes becomes aware of them do they become feelings, which are conscious experiences. We show our emotions, but we talk about our feelings.”
contrition
the state of being contrite : REPENTANCE “But the feelings that accompany a reconciliation—contrition, forgiveness, relief—are knowable only to those who experience them. You may suspect that others have the same feelings as you, but you can’t be sure even with respect to members of your own species. Someone may claim they have forgiven another person, for example, but can we trust this information? All too often, despite what they have told us, they bring up the affront in question on the first occasion that arises. We know our own inner states imperfectly and often mislead both ourselves and those around us. We’re masters of fake happiness, suppressed fear, and misguided love. This is why I’m pleased to work with nonlinguistic creatures. I’m forced to guess their feelings, but at least they never lead me astray by what they tell me about themselves.” MD -
disabused
to free from deception At international meetings, Americans and Brits often mistake the extraordinary privilege of being able to speak in their mother tongue for intellectual superiority. Because no one is going to disagree with them in broken English, they are rarely disabused of this notion. We know the verb “abuse” as a word meaning “to misuse,” “to mistreat,” or “to revile.” But when “disabuse” first appeared in the early 17th century, there was a sense of “abuse,” now obsolete, that meant “to deceive.” Sir Francis Bacon used that sense, for example, when he wrote in 1605, “You are much abused if you think your virtue can withstand the King’s power.” The prefix dis- has the sense of undoing the effect of a verb, so it’s not surprising that disabuse means “to undeceive.” English speakers didn’t come up with the idea of joining “dis-“ to “abuse” all on their own, however. It was the French who first appended their prefix “dés-“ to their verb “abuser.” English “disabuse” is modeled after French “désabuser.” Abuse used to mean deceive. picture someone who has been abused deceiving those. if they were to find out the truth about the abuse, they would become disabused - dis has the sense of
pout
a protrusion of the lips expressive of displeasure or an attempt to looks sexy. “Similarly, if you observe, as Charles Darwin famously did in The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals, that other primates employ human-like facial expressions in emotionally charged situations, you cannot get around similarities in their inner lives. They bare their teeth in a grin, they produce hoarse chuckling sounds when tickled, and they pout their lips when frustrated. This automatically becomes the starting point of your theories.” MD - Joe Kelly’s pouty face - protrusion of the lips P (push) -OUT (out the lips to look sexy or show displeasure)
hominid
any of a family (Hominidae) of erect bipedal primate mammals that includes recent humans together with extinct ancestral and related forms and in some recent classifications the great apes (the orangutan, gorilla, chimpanzee, and bonobo) One month before Mama turned fifty-nine and two months before Jan van Hooff’s eightieth birthday, these two elderly hominids had an emotional reunion. MD - 1 - family of bipedal primate mammals - family that humans belong to - features of a gingerbread man, bipedal, mammal,
mercurial
characterized by rapid and unpredictable changeableness of mood Chimpanzees don’t seem large to us, but their muscle strength far exceeds ours, and reports of horrific attacks are plentiful. Even the biggest human pro wrestler would come up short against an adult chimp. When I asked Jan if he would have done the same with any other chimp at the zoo, some of whom he had known for nearly as long, he said he’s too attached to life to even think about it. Chimpanzees are so mercurial that the only humans who are safe in their presence are those who have raised them, something that didn’t apply to Jan and Mama. Her being so weak now, though, changed the equation. Furthermore, she had expressed positive feelings about Jan so many times in the past that each of them had come to trust the other. This had given Jan the courage for his first and last in-person audience with the longtime queen of the colony at Burgers Zoo, in Arnhem, the Netherlands. Over MD - Mercury is the smallest and fastest planet in the solar system. It is also the closest planet to the sun. fast - rapid + unpredictable changeableness of mood. the planet going through different moods.
What is a human gesture that male chimpanzees and men have in common?
backslapping For the first time, they realized that a gesture that looks quintessentially human is in fact a general primate pattern. It is often in the little things that we best see evolutionary connections. These connections, by the way, apply to 90 percent of human expressions, from the way a few measly hairs stand on our bodies when we are frightened (goose bumps) to the way men and male chimpanzees slap each other’s backs in exuberance. We can see this forceful contact every spring when the chimps emerge from their building after a long winter. Finally enjoying the grass and sun, they stand around in little groups hooting, embracing, and backslapping.
the common ancestor of chimpanzees, bonobos, and sapiens existed… Since these three hominids have equally long histories behind them, they are equally “________________.” So looking at an ape reveals our __________________ history not only to us but also to the ape looking back at us. If apes are time machines for us, then we are the _____________ for them.
6 million years ago. “evolved,” shared, same One journalist was so enamored of a male chimpanzee in a sanctuary that when he looked into the ape’s eyes, he questioned his own identity: he felt like he was staring straight into his lost evolutionary past. In his desire to show respect, however, he unintentionally ended up being condescending. Extant apes are not merely time machines to show us our own evolutionary origins! While it is true that we descend from an apelike ancestor, the ancient species that gave rise to us no longer exists. It dwelled the earth about six million years ago, and its descendants went through numerous changes and died out one by one before giving rise to the survivors around today: the chimpanzee, the bonobo, and our own species. Since these three hominids have equally long histories behind them, they are equally “evolved.” So looking at an ape reveals our shared history not only to us but also to the ape looking back at us. If apes are time machines for us, then we are the same for them. show evolution tree for apes (picture in folder)
Emotions evolved, in short, for their capacity to induce _____________ ______________ to danger, competition, mating opportunities, and so on.
adaptive reactions Hebb was hinting at the prevailing view in biology that emotions orchestrate behavior. Taken by themselves, emotions are pretty useless: simply being fearful doesn’t do an organism any good. But if a fearful state prompts the organism to flee, hide, or counterattack, it may well save its life. Emotions evolved, in short, for their capacity to induce adaptive reactions to danger, competition, mating opportunities, and so on. Emotions are action-prone. Our species shares many emotions with the other primates because we rely on approximately the same behavioral repertoire. This similarity, expressed by bodies with similar design, gives us a profound nonverbal connection with other primates. Our bodies map so perfectly onto theirs, and vice versa, that mutual understanding is close behind. This is why Jan and Mama met as equals rather than as man and beast. MD -
qualified friendliness
Someone who is friendly to people who earn it. Even more than her physique, Mama’s dominance came from her persona. She had the air of a grandmother who had seen it all and didn’t take any nonsense from anybody. She demanded so much respect that the first time I looked into her eyes at face level across the water moat, I felt small. She had a habit of calmly nodding at you, to let you know she had noticed you. I had never sensed such wisdom and poise in any species other than my own. Her gaze was one of qualified friendliness: she was ready to understand and like you as long as you didn’t cross her. She even had a sense of humor. MD person with arm around someone (“earned it”) and wagging their finger at someone else saying “you don’t qualify.”
party whip
Both parties in the Senate elect whips. The term “whip” comes from a fox-hunting expression— “whipper-in”—referring to the member of the hunting team responsible for keeping the dogs from straying from the team during a chase. Established early in the 20th century, the development of party whips coincided with the evolution of party leaders in the Senate. Traditionally serving as assistant leaders, whips are mainly responsible for counting heads and rounding up party members for votes and quorum calls, and they occasionally stand in for the majority or minority leaders in their absence. Mama connected easily with everyone, both male and female, and had a support network like no other—she was a born diplomat. She also was not reluctant to enforce loyalty: she would take sides in male power struggles, choosing to support one male against another, but she would not tolerate other females expressing an alternative choice. Females who did so, who intervened in male battles on behalf of the “wrong” contender, would suddenly, later in the day, find themselves in trouble with Mama. She acted as party whip for her favorite candidate. MD - 1 - show party whip with a whip counting heads 2 - show party whip using the whip as a lasso to round up the party members for votes and quorum calls,
oratory
the art of speaking in public eloquently or effectively There was an enormous mismatch between what my generation wanted to be, as expressed in our passionate political oratory, and how we actually behaved. We were in total denial! MD - oratory. The grand orator. ““your face was plain, even hideous, you were morose and austere, but we all know that under that outer husk there beat an honest, friendly heart!”
triadic awareness
When an individual is aware of relationships outside their own. This event reflected what I call triadic awareness, or the understanding of relationships outside your own. Many animals obviously know whom they dominate, or whom their own family and friends are, but chimps go one step further by realizing who around them dominates whom and who is friends with whom. Individual A is aware not only of his own relationships with B and C but also of the B–C relationship. Her knowledge covers the entire triad. Similarly, Mama must have realized how much Nikkie depended on Yeroen. MD - A with lines to b and c showing that it is aware of these, but it also can look across and see the relationship between b and c.
One of the few nuts that chimpanzees can’t crack without their teeth.
macadamia “Once at a Japanese zoo, I saw they had set up a nut-cracking station for their chimpanzees. The enclosure contained a heavy anvil stone and a smaller hammer stone attached to it with a chain. The caretakers would throw a large number of macadamia nuts into the enclosure, and all the chimps would gather hand- and footfuls, then sit down. Macadamias are one of the few types of nut that chimps can’t crack with their teeth—they needed that nut-cracking station. First the alpha male cracked his nuts there, after which the alpha female did the same, and so on. The rest waited patiently for their turn. It was all extremely peaceful and orderly, and everyone managed to crack their nuts without problems. But underlying this order was violence: if one of them had tried to breach the established arrangement, chaos would have ensued. Even though this violence was mostly invisible, it structured society. And isn’t human society set up like this, too? It is orderly on the surface but is backed by punishment and coercion for those who fail to obey the rules. In both humans and other animals, giving in to one’s emotions without regard for the consequences is about the stupidest course of action to follow.” MD - Chimp breaking its teeth on a big mac
Difference between power and rank.
Rank is who submits to whom whereas power is how much influence an individual has on a group. MD - secretary. Low in the work rank hierarchy, but high in power because he regulates who has access to his boss. Power and rank are different things. We measure rank by who submits to whom. Chimpanzees do it by bowing and pant-grunting. The alpha male needs only to walk around, and others will rush toward him and literally grovel in the dust while uttering panting grunts. The alpha may underline his position by moving an arm over the others, jumping over them, or simply ignoring their greeting as if he doesn’t care. He is surrounded by massive deference. Mama received such rituals less often than any male would have, but all the other females would at least occasionally pay their respect to her, making her the top-ranking female. These outward signs of status reflect the formal hierarchy, the way the stripes on military uniforms tell us who ranks above whom. Power is something else entirely: it is the influence an individual exerts on group processes. Like a second layer, power hides behind the formal order. To give a human example, the longtime secretary of a company boss often regulates access to her employer, whether male or female, and makes lots of small decisions by herself. Most of us recognize her immense power and are smart enough to befriend her, even though formally she stands rather low on the totem pole. In the same way, social outcomes in a chimpanzee group often depend on who is. MD - chess board all the pieces submit to the King (high rank), but the Queen has the most influence on the board, she is able to affect all the pieces by her large span across the board. show the diagonal side and up movement of the queen.
listless
characterized by lack of interest, energy, or spirit So even though we don’t know how that blanket ended up near Mama’s remains, we can’t rule out that someone was trying to make her feel comfortable, perhaps in reaction to her icy state. The study of how apes and other animals respond to the death of others falls under thanatology, after the Greek god of nonviolent death, Thanatos. Grieving after death is hard to define, but in her 2013 book How Animals Grieve, Barbara King, an American anthropologist, proposes that a minimum requirement is that individuals who were close to the deceased markedly alter their behavior, such as by eating less, becoming listless, or guarding the spot where the dead was last seen.8 If the deceased is an offspring, a mother may keep the smelly corpse until it falls apart, as has been seen many times. A chimp mother in a West African forest carried her dead infant for no fewer than twenty-seven days. This reaction is natural enough in the primates, who transport young on their belly or back, but it has also been observed in dolphins. A mother dolphin may keep her dead calf’s body afloat for days. MD - unable to list what was on the shopping list, from a lack of energy 1 - not an interesting list, very boring things to buy like paper towels and crackers 2 - tired no brain power 3 - lacking spirit - I wish there was sage on this list for me to burn.
oxytocin
Hormone released in all mammals by the pituitary gland during sex and nursing. It induces labor (it is routinely administered in maternity wards to induce labor), but it also serves to foster bonds among adults. People who have just fallen in love have more oxytocin in their blood than do singles, and their high concentration lasts if their relationship lasts. When owner and dog stare into each other’s eyes, oxytocin levels are heightened. “only human.” Monogamy, or pair-bonding, is more typical of birds than mammals. In fact, very few primates are monogamous, and whether humans truly are is debatable. The accompanying emotions may be similar across species, though, as oxytocin is involved in all mammals. This ancient neuropeptide is released by the pituitary gland during sex, nursing, and birthing (it is routinely administered in maternity wards to induce labor), but it also serves to foster bonds among adults. People who have just fallen in love have more oxytocin in their blood than do singles, and their high concentration lasts if their relationship lasts. But oxytocin also shields pair-bonds from sexual adventures with outsiders. When married men are given this hormone in a nasal spray, they feel uncomfortable around attractive women and prefer to keep their distance. MD 1. hormone relased by the pituitary gland. MD - think of a couple bonding over olives. 1. olives have pits - pituitary gland 2. the olive is actually a baby in a tummy/the tit on a breast. - it induces breast feeding and labor. 3. Olive pairing - 1 who loves olives and one who doesn’t - pituitary gland - love is like oxytocin - 1. oxytocin leads to loe
Why does the prairie vole live a promiscuous life while the similar looking meadow vole forms pairs in which male and female mate exclusively with each other and raise pups together?
The prairie vole have far more oxytocin receptors in the reward centers of their brains than do meadow voles. “The meadow vole lives a promiscuous life, whereas the similar-looking prairie vole forms pairs in which male and female mate exclusively with each other and raise pups together. Prairie voles have far more oxytocin receptors in the reward centers of their brains than do meadow voles. As a result, they have an intensely positive association with sex, resulting in an “addiction” to the partner they had it with. Oxytocin ensures that they will bond. If these voles lose their mate, they show chemical brain changes suggesting stress and depression. They also become passive in the face of danger as if they don’t care anymore if they’ll live or die. So even these tiny rodents seem to know grief.” MD - picture the prairie vole praying at a wedding. and oxytocin receptors in their brains, whereas the meadow vulls are having woodstock hangout in a meadow.
Humans diverged from the ___________ about as long ago as ___________ and ______________ elephants did from each other, and they are genetically about as close or distant.
apes, African, Asian Humans diverged from the apes about as long ago as African and Asian elephants did from each other, and they are genetically about as close or distant. Yet we freely call both of those species “elephants” while obsessing over the specific point at which our own lineage moved from being an ape to being human. We even have special words for this process, such as hominization and anthropogenesis. That there was ever such a point in time is a widespread illusion, like trying to find the precise wavelength in the light spectrum at which orange turns into red. Our desire for sharp divisions is at odds with evolution’s habit of making extremely smooth transitions. MD - picture of humans diverging from ape branch. along side the asian and african elephant diverging.
ambivalence
simultaneous and contradictory attitudes or feelings (such as attraction and repulsion) toward an object, person, or action “The ape also shows the same ambivalence as a child. He pushes your fingers away, protecting its ticklish spots while trying to escape from you, but as soon as you stop, he comes back for more, putting his belly right in front of you. At this point, you need only point to it, not even touching it, and he will throw another fit of laughter.” MD - Latin ambi- “both, on both sides” (see ambi-) + valentia “strength,” abstract noun from present participle of valere “be strong” - picture someone ambidexterous using both hands with tennis rackets - but when on each racket their are contradictory attitudes like attraction and repulsion
origins of anthropomorphism.
Translates to human form. the term anthropomorphism, which means “human form,” comes from the Greek philosopher Xenophanes, who protested in the fifth century B.C. against Homer’s poetry because it described the gods as though they looked human. Xenophanes mocked this assumption, saying that if horses had hands, they would “draw their gods like horses.” MD - “Zeus hitting a homer and Xenophanes objecting, xenophobic - God’s are other -
Difference between empathy and sympathy
Sympathy, constructed from the Greek “sym,” meaning together, and “pathos,” referring to feelings or emotion, is used to describe when one person shares the same feelings of another, such as when someone close is experiencing grief or loss. Empathy is a newer word also related to “pathos,” but there is a greater implication of emotional distance. With “empathy” you can imagine or understand to how someone might feel, without necessarily having those feelings yourself. “They could go at it for hours until they’d plop down exhausted. Dogs and cats often get along well because they’re both eager to chase and grab moving objects. They’re also both mammals, which helps them relate to us. Other mammals recognize our emotions, and we recognize theirs. It’s this empathic connection that attracts humans to domestic cats (an estimated 600 million worldwide) and dogs (500 million) rather than, say, iguanas and fish. With that human-animal connection, however, comes our tendency to project feelings and experiences onto animals, often uncritically.” In the long-ago time of Adam Smith, before we had the term empathy, all this fell under sympathy. Nowadays, however, sympathy means something else. Empathy seeks information about another and helps us understand their situation, whereas sympathy reflects actual concern about the other and a desire to improve their situation. MD - parents seeing their daughter mess up on a solo in the sympathy - they experience the same feelings of embarrassment and sadness. whereas when the parents see the lost empanada they aren’t so sad, but they can understand how the empanada feels. There is a greater emotional distance.