Lecture 9

Question 1

What are 4 factors that make you attractive?

Answer 1

• Hip-body ratio
• symmetrical face
• prototypicality of face
• Baby Face

Question 2

What are the Evolutionary and cognitive avaraging explanations for finding a symmetrical and prototypical face more attractive

Answer 2

• Evolutionary: mutations create uneven features and this could indicate a less healthy person so you shouldn’t be attracted to them
• Cognitive averaging: people who are similar to the average are the safe option.

Question 3

WHat are the factors of forming relationships: Similarity, Proximity, time of the evening, secret sharing, excitation sharing

Answer 3

• Simmilarity: if you look more similar and have similar interests, you are more likely to form a relationship.
• Proximiy: if you are closer to someone geometrically, you are more likely to form a relationship.
• time of the evening: if it is later you are more like form a relationship
• if you share a secret with someone, you are more likely to form a relationship.
• Excitation tranfer: if the situation is arousing, you are more likely to form a relationship.

Question 4

WHat is companionate love?

Answer 4

• what comes after passionate love

Question 5

What are self-disclosure and social penetration theory?

Answer 5

• Self-disclosure, if you share more about yourself to each other you become more intimate.
• Social peetration theory says that up until a certain amount of intimacy there is a reciprocity in self-disclosure.

Question 6

What are the three factors of commitment in relationship according to investment model?

Answer 6

• Satisfaction is how happy you are in the relationship, then you are more committed
• Quality of alternatives: if you perceive more alternative partners you are less committed
• Investment size: how much has gone into the relationship like children and shared friends.

Question 7

What is the Destructive- Constructive, Active-passive model

Answer 7

• Destructive and passive is neglect
• Destructive and active is aggression towards partner
• Constructive and active is discussing problems
• Constructive and passive is hope for improvement

Question 8

What are the three consequences of commitment in relationships: greater willingness to sacrifice, responding constructively, positive illusions?

Answer 8

• greater willingness to sacrifice means you are willing to give something up for the other.
• Responing constructively in the Constructive-Deconstructive Active-passive model
• Positive illusions means you belief your relationship to be superior to others’

Question 9

What does it mean to “include the other in the self” when there is high commitment in a relationship?

Answer 9

• In “include the other in the self”, the other becomes a psychological part of you.
• It predicts more satisfaction and stability in the relationship

Question 10

What are secure and insecure attachment?

Answer 10

• In a secure attachment you have higher self esteem and are comfortable with intimacy
• In insecure attachment you have lower self esteem and more problems with intimacy

Question 11

Waar are Preoccupied, Dismissing-avoidant and feaful-avoidant? How do they react when caregiver leaves?

Answer 11

• Preocuppied is when you have high trust in others but low self-esteem. They stop playing and become very stressed. They are hard to comfort afterwards.
• Dismising-avoidant is when you have low trust in others but high self-esteem. They keep playing when mother leaves and avoid mother when she returns.
• Fearful-avoidant is when you have low trust in others and also low self-esteem. hey stop playing and become very stressed.