Exam 6 Flashcards
promiscuity
lets goooo
what does hooking up mean
What defined a hookup more than the sex itself was the perception of its meaning (or lack thereof) by both parties” (Freitas, 21).
no actual definition
what are key issues with hooking up
Determining the meaning of sex
– Addressing ubiquitous power differentials
– Getting it done vs. getting it on
What is at risk in a hookup culture? What is the great fear?
emotions; being more or less emotionally invested than the partner
aka fear of attachment
what are Freitas Three Qualities of a Hookup
Sexual content
Brevity
Emotional involvement
what is sexual content
labels are important, not facts
hw it is understood and how it becomes to be perceived
mystery and gender politics
downplaying the event can help retain a reputation for a female and emphasizing it can be beneficial for males
what is brevity
Intentionally (but ambiguously) brief
the brevity being that it is casual/episodic; it isn’t part of a relationship is is part of an episode
Ideally uncomplicated (casual)
what is emotional involvement
Thwart meaning, purpose and relationship
the intent here is to fort any meaning, purpose or relationship that comes from it
Selfish by design and definition
intended for the individual to get something out of it
Skill of divorcing physical intimacy from emotional intimacy
idea is that the physical act of sex brings with it ensuring that attachments don’t simply fall threw. Why do this? The pay off isn’t just a physical one, it is a social one; she argues in relation to the rep, the meaning of it, that ones gains socially
Emotional payoff is social, not physical
in the hookup culture what comes first
In [the hookup culture], the sex comes first, then openness and communication, but only much, much later” (Freitas, 34).
Cheating in marriage? (Pew Research 2006 poll)
■ 88% - it is morally wrong
■ 3% - it is morally acceptable
■ 7% not an issue
But…
■ How significantly does condemnation influence behavior?
have a high-level of people condemning adultery, but doesn’t mean it has the same level that are willing to engage in it
Cheating in marriage? (Pew Research 2006 poll)
■ 88% - it is morally wrong
■ 3% - it is morally acceptable
■ 7% not an issue
But…
How reliable are questionnaires on so sensitive a topic?
are they just lying? do they feel pressured to answer a certain way
what is hinduism’s view on adultery
Ancient teaching; do not permit any act of sexual union outside of marriage
■ Ancient and contemporary mediums; art, sculptures, poetry, movies, etc convey/express it in popular culture today and in the past (the sexy stuff I think is what this means)
■ Aim–> harmonious society
what is buddhism views on adultery
Monastics & marriage; deep in its concern is that there wont be harm to others and one will control their own desires
■ Avoid sexual misconduct
■ Key aim; not to be driven by ones desires or cravings
what is judaism’s view on adultery
Sexual contact; command against committing adultery, harsh punishment if you do it; cast out of community or death (biblical imperative)
a married woman having sexual contact with a man other than her husband (what the bible says)
grounds for divorce
■ Rabbinic and later Jewish law
■ Metaphorical function; the issue that Israel is at different points compared to adultery and prostitution in the relationship to god
what is christianity’s view on adultery
violates the covenant of marriage; condemned, issue fo covenant being violated is a key issue
do not even look lustfully on another; not just the act but the desire for the act as well
adulterous thoughts
divorce and remarriage;
if marriage is a covenant only ended with death, if someone gets divorced that means it is adulterous; as the covenant hasn’t been ended yet
