Exam 4 Flashcards

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conflict

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the process that occurs when people perceive that they have incompatible goals or that someone is interfering in their ability to achieve their objectives

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kitchen sinking

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in which combatants hurl insults and accusations at each other that have little to do with the original disagreemnent

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power

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the ability to influence or control people and events

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4
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symmetrical relationships

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relationships with balanced power

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5
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complementary relationships

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relationships with imbalanced power

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dyadic power relationships

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people who only moderate power are most likely to use controlling communication

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power currency

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to acquire power, you must possess or control something that other people want

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resource currency

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include material things such as money, property, and food

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expertise currency

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compromises special skills or knowledge, the more highly specialized and unique the skill or knowledge you have the more expertise you will possess

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social network currency

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what you have if you are a person who is linked with a network of friends, family, and acquaintances with substantial influence

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personal currency

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personal characteristics (beauty/ intelligence) that people consider to be desirable constitute

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intimacy currency

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when you share a close bond with someone (because you’re my friend…)

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avoidance

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ignoring the conflict, pretending it isn’t really happening, or communicating indirectly about the situation

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skirting

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in which a person avoids a conflict by changing the topic or joking about it

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sniping

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communicating in a negative fashion and then abandoning the encounter by physically leaving the scene or refusing to interact further

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cumulative

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repressed irritation grows as the mental list of grievances we have against our parter builds

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17
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pseudo-conflict

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the perception that a conflict exists when it really doesn’t

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accommodation

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one person abandons his or her own goals and acquiesces to the desires of the other person

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competition

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coupled with the pursuit of one’s own goals without regard for others’ goals

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escalation

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a dramatic rise in emotional intensity and increasingly negative and aggressive communication

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reactivity

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characterized by accusations of mistrust, yelling, crying, and becoming verbally or physically aggressive

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22
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collaboration

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treating conflict as a mutual problem solving challenge

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separation

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the sudden withdrawal of one person from the encounter

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domination

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occurs when one person gets his or her way by influencing the other to engage in accommodation and abandon goals

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25
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compromise

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both parties change their goals to make them compatible

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26
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integrative strategies

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two sides preserve and attain their goals by developing a creative solution to the problem

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27
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structural improvements

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the people agree to change the basic rules or understandings that govern their relationship to prevent further conflict

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sudden death statements

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occur when people get so angry that they suddenly declare the end of the relationship even though it was a possibility before the conflict

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dirty secrets

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statements that are honest in content but have been kept hidden to protect partner’s feelings

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30
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serial arguments

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a series of unresolved disputes, all having to do with the same issue

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31
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demand-withdraw

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in which one partner in a relationship demands that his or her goal be met, and the other partner responds by withdrawing from the encounter

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chilling effect

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whereby individuals stop discussing relationship issues out of fear of their partner’s negative reactions

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33
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liking

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a feeling of affection and respect that we typically have for our friends

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34
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loving

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in contrast to liking, a vastly deeper and more intense emotional experience and consists of three components: intimacy, caring, and attachment

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passionate love

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a state of intense emotional and physical longing for union with another

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36
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companionate love

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an intense form of liking defined by emotional investment and deeply intertwined lives

37
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romantic relationships

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chosen interpersonal involvement forged through communication in which the participants perceive the bonds as romantic

38
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commitment

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a strong psychological attachment to a partner and intention to continue the relationship long into the future

39
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relational dialectics

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competing impulses, or tensions, between ourselves and our feelings towards one another

40
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mere exposure effect

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you’ll feel more attracted to those with whom you have frequent contact and less attracted to those with whom you interact rarely

41
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beautiful-is-good effect

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we viewed people as competent communicators, intelligent, and well adjusted

42
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matching

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we tend to form long-term romantic relationships with people we judge as similar to ourselves in physical attractiveness

43
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birds-of-a-feather effect

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we are attracted to those we perceive as similar to ourselves

44
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reciprocal liking

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we’re attracted to make it clear through communication, and other actions, that the attraction is mutual

45
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social exchange theory

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proposes that you’ll fell drawn to those you see as offering substantial benefits

46
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equity

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the balance of benefits and costs exchanged by you and the other person

47
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initiating

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you size up a person you’ve just met or noticed

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experimenting

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exchange demographic information

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intensifying

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you and your partner begin to reveal previously withheld information, such as secrets about your past or important life dreams and goals

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integrating

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your and your partner’s personalities seem to become one

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bonding

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a public ritual that announces to the world that you and your partner have made a commitment to one another

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differentiating

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the beliefs attitudes and values that distinguish you from your partner come to dominate your thoughts and communication

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circumscribing

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you actively begin to restrict the quality and quantity of your information you exchange with your partner

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stagnating

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communication slows to a standstill and your relationships

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avoiding

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one of both of you decide that you no longer can be around each other and you begin to distance yourself physically

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terminating

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couples might discuss past present and future of relationship

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relational maintenance

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refers to using communication and supportive behaviors to sustain a desired relationship status and level of satisfaction

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romantic betrayal

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an act that goes against expectations of a romantic relationship, and causes pain to partner as a result

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jealousy

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a protective reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationships

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wedging

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deliberately uses messages, photos, and posts to try to wedge him or herself between partners in a romantic couple because he or she is interested in one of the partners

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family

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network of people who share their lives over long periods of time and are bound by marriage, blood, or commitment; who consider themselves as family; and who share a significant history and anticipated future of functioning as a family relationship

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nuclear family

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a wife, husband, and their biological or adopted children

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extended family

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when relatives such as aunts, uncles, parents, children and grandparents live together in a common household

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stepfamily

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in which at least one of the adults has a child or children from a previous relationship often called blended or remarried

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cohabiting couples

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consists of two unmarried romatically involved adults living together in a household, with or without children

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single-parenting family

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only one adult resides in the household, possessing sole responsibility as a caregiver for the children

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family stories

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narrative accounts shared repeatedly within a family that retell historical events and are meant to bond the family together

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consensual families

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members are encouraged to openly share their views with one another as well as debate these beliefs

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pluralistic family

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families high in conversation but low in conformity; communicate openly and in unconstrained ways, discussing a broad range of topics and exploring them in depth

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family communication patterns theory

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two dimensions underlie communication between family members: conversation orientation and conformity orientation

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conversation orientation

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the degree to which family members are encouraged to participate in unrestrained interaction about a wide array of topics

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conformity orientation

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the degree to which families believe that communication should emphasize similarity and attitudes, beliefs and values

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protective families

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low in conversation and high in conformity; communication in these families functions to maintain obedience and enforce family norms, and little value is placed on the exchange of ideas or the development of communication skills

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laissez-faire families

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low in both conversation and conformity, few emotional bonds exist

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communication privacy management theory

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individuals create informational boundaries by carefully choosing the kind of private information they reveal and the people with whom they share it

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family privacy rules

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the conditions governing what family members can talk about, how they can discuss such topics, and who should have access to family relevant information

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triangulation

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loyalty conflicts that arise when a coalition is formed, uniting one family member with another against a third person

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interparental conflict

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overt, hostile interactions between parents in a household, while such constant fighting is harmful to the parent’s relationship, the impact upon the children in the household is worse

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spillover hypothesis

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emotions affect and mood from the parental relationship spill over into the broader family, disrupting children’’s sense of emotional security

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friendship

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voluntary interpersonal relationship characterized by intimacy

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communal friendships

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friendships that focus on sharing time and activities together

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agentic friendships

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friendships in which the parties focus primarily on helping each other achieve practical goals

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identity support

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behaving in ways that convey understanding, acceptance, and support for a friend’s valued social identities

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valued social identities

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aspects of your public self that you deem the most important in defining who you are

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cross category friendships

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friendships that cross demographic lines– three most common: cross-sex, cross-orientation, interethnic

86
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professional peers

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people holding positions of organizational status and power similar to our own

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friendship rules

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general principles that prescribe appropriate communication and behavior within relationships

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friends with benefits

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the participants engage in sexual activity, but not with the purpose of transforming the relationship into a romantic attachment