Chapter 10

Question 1

Liking

Answer 1

a feeling of affection and respect that we typically have for our friends

Question 2

loving

Answer 2

in contrast to liking, a vastly deeper and more intense emotional experience and consists of three components: intimacy, caring, and attachment

Question 3

passionate love

Answer 3

a state of intense emotional and physical longing for union with another

Question 4

companionate love

Answer 4

an intense form of liking defined by emotional investment and deeply intertwined lives

Question 5

romantic relationships

Answer 5

chosen interpersonal involvement forged though communication in which the participants perceive the bonds as romantic

Question 6

commitment

Answer 6

a strong psychological attachment to a partner and intention to continue the relationship long into the future

Question 7

relational dialects

Answer 7

competing impulses, or tensions, between our selves and our feelings toward others

Question 8

mere exposure effect

Answer 8

you’ll feel more attracted to those with whom you have frequent contact and less attracted to those with whom you interact rarely

Question 9

beautiful-is-good effect

Answer 9

we view people as competent communicators, intelligent, and well adjusted

Question 10

matching

Answer 10

we tend to form long-term romantic relationships with people we judge as similar to ourselves in physical attractiveness

Question 11

birds-of-a-feather effect

Answer 11

we are attracted to those we perceive as similar to ourselves

Question 12

reciprocal liking

Answer 12

we’re attracted to makes it clear, through communication and other actions, that the attraction is mutual

Question 13

social exchange theory

Answer 13

proposes that you’ll feel drawn to those you see as offering substantial benefits

Question 14

equity

Answer 14

the balance of benefits and costs exchanged by you and the other person

Question 15

initiating

Answer 15

you size up person you’ve just met or noticed

Question 16

experimenting

Answer 16

exchange demographic information

Question 17

intensifying

Answer 17

you and your partner begin to reveal previously withheld information, such as secrets about your past or important life dreams and goals

Question 18

integrating

Answer 18

your and your partner’s personalities seem to become one

Question 19

bonding

Answer 19

a public ritual that announces to the world that you and your partner have made a commitment to one another

Question 20

differentiating

Answer 20

the beliefs attitudes and values that distinguish you from your partner come to dominate your thoughts and communication

Question 21

circumscribing

Answer 21

you actively begin to restrict the quantity and quality of information you exchange with your partner

Question 22

stagnating

Answer 22

communication slows to a standstill and your relationship

Question 23

avoiding

Answer 23

one or both of you decide that you no longer can be around each other and you begin to distance yourself physically

Question 24

terminating

Answer 24

couples might discuss the past, present, and future of the relationship

Question 25

relational maintenance

Answer 25

refers to using communication and supportive behaviors to sustain a desired relationship status and level of satisfaction

Question 26

romantic betrayal

Answer 26

an act that goes against expectations of a romantic relationship, and causes pain to the partner as a result

Question 27

jealousy

Answer 27

a protective reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship

Question 28

wedging

Answer 28

deliberately uses messages, photos, and posts to try to wedge him- or herself between partners in a romantic couple because he or she is interested in one of the partners