Chapter 10 Flashcards
Liking
a feeling of affection and respect that we typically have for our friends
loving
in contrast to liking, a vastly deeper and more intense emotional experience and consists of three components: intimacy, caring, and attachment
passionate love
a state of intense emotional and physical longing for union with another
companionate love
an intense form of liking defined by emotional investment and deeply intertwined lives
romantic relationships
chosen interpersonal involvement forged though communication in which the participants perceive the bonds as romantic
commitment
a strong psychological attachment to a partner and intention to continue the relationship long into the future
relational dialects
competing impulses, or tensions, between our selves and our feelings toward others
mere exposure effect
you’ll feel more attracted to those with whom you have frequent contact and less attracted to those with whom you interact rarely
beautiful-is-good effect
we view people as competent communicators, intelligent, and well adjusted
matching
we tend to form long-term romantic relationships with people we judge as similar to ourselves in physical attractiveness
birds-of-a-feather effect
we are attracted to those we perceive as similar to ourselves
reciprocal liking
we’re attracted to makes it clear, through communication and other actions, that the attraction is mutual
social exchange theory
proposes that you’ll feel drawn to those you see as offering substantial benefits
equity
the balance of benefits and costs exchanged by you and the other person
initiating
you size up person you’ve just met or noticed