Communication Flashcards
role of technology
- Transmits info
- Manages info
- Assists with home activities
- Helps elderly, less mobile, disabled individuals (ie. Sympathy robot)
issues with technology
- Stranger contact
- Cyberbullying
- Loss of privacy
- Image you feel you must project on Facebook
cyberbullying
- Someone spreading rumours about you online
- Someone posting an embarrassing picture of you online without your permission
- Someone sending you a threatening or aggressive email/text
- Someone forwarding a private picture or conversation without permission
benefits to families and couples
- Families felt closer today than when parents were children thanks to modern technology
- Opportunity for parent-child shared time even when apart
- Romantic couples use it to express affection when not physically together
- Adolescents: a review found positive interactions with peers they knew and associated with in real life and online
developing friendships in cyberspace (benefits and costs)
- You can be more open with people online -> learn more about them -> connect with people like yourself
- You get to know someone inside without being judged on appearance
- Age, race, etc. Don’t matter -> allows kids and adults to interact
- Might lose sense of personal conversation
developing relationships in cyberspace
- Just another way of making friendships
- Invest as much effort in maintaining relationships here as in other social spaces
- Are formed here in similar ways to in wider society
how does type of communication influence romantic relationships?
- Facebook: increased jealousy
- Internet and phone: no difference
why do youth prefer texting to face-to-face communication?
- Can talk to multiple people at once
- Leave large gaps in conversation
- Conceal truth
- Can clarify any misunderstanding quickly
what method of communication do young couples (in their 20’s-30’s) use most? What did they use it for?
- used cell phone most, then text messaging, then email
- Used least frequently: social networking site, instant messaging, blogs, webcams
- Reasons for using media: mostly for expressing affection, some for discussing serious issues, and a few for apologizing
- Things they did not use social media for: confrontational topics, topics that would hurt partner
who uses media most (age and relationship status)? Who uses media for what?
- Younger used all media sources more than older
- Married used all sources more than dating couples
- Those more satisfied with their relationship reported using media to express affection
- Those who ere less satisfied used media to begin a confrontational subject
- Key finding: text messaging had the strongest association with individuals’ positive and negative communication within their relationships
instant messaging: what do positive messages include that negative ones don’t?
- Respond more quickly
- Use more punctuation
- Agree with partner
- Use more words
- Use fewer affective terms
people who are away from their families include…
- International students
- Commuter families
- Within a country
- Across country boundaries
- Travel for work
- Military
- Arctic & Space Stations
university students’ communication with family (most to least used)
- Phone (Frequent phone conversations = more satisfying, supportive parental relationships)
- Face-to-face
- Social networking sites (the students who used these the most reported loneliness and parent-child conflict)
comparison of communication with family: military vs. astronaut
- Military
- Wanted to hear their voices
- Email best for showing intimacy and love
- Liked care packages
- Astronaut
- Wanted to see face and hear voice
- Like care packages with earth products
family communication (what does it do? what is normal communication like?)
- Promotes cohesion, adaptability, and functionality
- Normal compared to highly conflicted family:
- More harmonious
- More task oriented
- More satisfying
- Take less time to decide common activities
destructive conflict
Verbal attacks on a person’s sense of self
constructive conflict
- Focus on issue, not the other person’s deficits
- Constructive conflict resolution:
- Approach issue by determining each party’s hopes, values, beliefs, assumptions
- Determine commonalities and build from there
- Compromise and negotiate
- Remove ego
Tannen’s points about communication in small groups
- Parents should listen more to their teenage children and criticize them less
- Couples should talk about assumptions and bring hidden messages out in open
- Learn art of apology
- Win-win situations = ideal
husbands are more satisfied than wives based on…
- Shared emotions/beliefs
- Perception of how partner gives/received information
- Perception of adequacy of communicating with each other
ways to satisfy marital communication
- Agree essential points
- Feel understood
- Pleasant meal conversation
- No silent treatment
- Avoid saying irritating things
- Discuss interests/work
- Communicate affection and regard
who is likely to discuss money matters?
- If both members of a couple are knowledgeable about finances, creates even discussion
- Younger people more open to discussing
- Educated
- Larger households
- High monthly debts
couples who communicate about money are more likely to…
- use recommended financial practices
- Have greater quality of life (indirect effect through money management practices)
gender differences in communication
- Men talk more than women in public, but women say more words in a day than men
- Women think marriage is working if they talk about it, men are the opposite
- Women result men offering solutions, men think women don’t take action
- Women seek advice, men solve problems and move on
- Girls say “we, let’s” (cooperation); boys order (Leader)
listening problems
- View topic as uninteresting and turn off speaker
- Look at speaker’s features more than the message
- Not agreeing with or liking the sender’s message
- Pretending to listen when really thinking of other things
dialogue vs. monologue
- dialogue: 2-way communication, genuine interaction, express concern for other people and their views to be supportive or empathetic
- monologue: opposite of a dialogue -> 1 person speaks and the other listens
communication
- the process of transmitting a message from sender to receiver
- Communication is only effective when the receiver interprets the sender’s message in the same way the speaker intended it (no interference)
- made up of channel + setting + noise
- step 6 (feedback) in Goldsmith’s management model
interference
anything that distorts or disrupts messages