chapter 4: families Flashcards
Is Conflict Between Adolescents and Parents Inevitable?
no usually get along Well
how much emotional distance between parents and adol
Very little emotional distance between parents and adolescents (unlike stereotypes).
what are most adol relationships with their parents like
- feel close to parents.
- respect parents’ judgment. - feel loved by parents.
- respect parents as individuals.
how does the Perceived Conflict of adol act s a self fluffing prof
Popular advice for parents of
adolescents emphasizes non-normative, stereotypes of strained relationships but those who believe you have strained relationship act this way= more conflict
where do parents and adol youth differ and where do they see eye to eye
parents and youth have similar beliefs about core values (religion, work, education). However, differences in opinions for matters of personal taste
What Do Adolescents and Parents Usually Fight About?
Disagreements stem from different perspectives on issues and violations of expectations.
Parent jurisdiction vs. personal choice= e.g. cleanliness of room parents authority or their personal space
adolescents rebel against their parents for the sake of rebelling.
f rarely
adol will abide by parents moral, safety and personal views
f less agreement on personal like cellphone
Parent Psychological Control: the belief of Over-controlling or tough love by teenager has what effect ?
more likely to be defiant and more willing to lie to parents
Manipulation of adolescents’ thoughts and feelings and restriction of their autonomy and independence through love withdrawal, ignoring, shaming, or guilt induction.:T
psychological control= harms adol similar to emotional bullying
Manipulation of adolescents’ thoughts and feelings and restriction of their autonomy and independence through ..3
love withdrawal, ignoring, shaming, or guilt induction.
chronic parental psychological control can have what kind of effect
Cascading effects: enduring effects on other aspects of functioning on top of impact on their relationship (more likely to by victimized, and enact aggression, interpersonal relations, relational victimization & aggression)
why does parental psychological control create problems with peers and relationships for the teem?
tolerance for and use of aggression in your relationships to deal with conflicts and acts like modelling
Parental Monitoring: is it a good thing?
Parent knowledge: parents’ awareness of their children’s activities Limit affiliation with deviant peers
T: Parents’ efforts at tracking their children’s activities and whereabouts, including setting rules about where children go, and with whom.
parental monitoring
The protective effects of parental monitoring are well
documented among … samples
high-risk (must be balanced with autonomy and trust)
parental monitoring Interact with youth …4
willingness to share, provision of warm and autonomy.
parental monitoring influence what personal and contextual variables
sensation seeking (personal) deviant peers delinquency
sensation seeking more likely to participate in delinquency and deviant peers: how does parental monitoring influence
make less likely even if they affiliate with deviant peers (supervise their activities) if they don’t affiliate with delinquent peers parental monitoring doesn’t matter
Adolescence is a period of … in family relationships.
change and reorganization
T: Relationships in families change most dramatically during times when individual family members of the family’s circumstances are changing, because it is during these times that the family’s equilibrium often is upset.
family systems theory
what is family systems theory
assumes family moves through family cycle: whole family adjusts to compensate
what is the hardest time for the family cycle
adol
most parents of ado are in 40s - why is this relevant
(midlife crisis)- lot of introspection, thinking of themselves, self esteem questions
during their midlife crisis Increased concern about …3
bodies, physical attractiveness, and sexual appeal
how does adol kid heighten the midlife crisis
Beginning to feel that the possibilities for change are limited e..g Occupational plateau vs kids beginning jobs
Nearly… of mothers and fathers describe adolescence as the
most difficult stage of parenting.
2/3
Coping with changes during adolescence can depend on how well parents are …
functioning during this stage in life as well.
the family Changes in the family as a whole unit during adol- what is biggest
Changes in economic circumstances
Large anticipated expenditures (e.g., post-secondary)= financial strain
parents feel financially responsible for their youth and their aging parents :T
Parents belong to “sandwich generation.”
what are the Changes in family’s relationship to other social institutions during adol
Increasing importance of peers
what are the Changes in family functions during adol
Family’s role during adolescence less clear than infancy or childhood. (not as simple as keeping them alive, how can I contribute to their life as a parent?)
T: An orientation toward life in which the needs of the family take precedence over the needs of the individual.
familism
how can familism contribute to conflict
they should shoulder family tasks (common in immigrant families e.g. translating for them= stress and conflict)
Stress and conflict depends on extent of … the difference between views of parent and adol
generational dissonance
what is generational dissonance
Divergence of views between adolescents and parents that is common in families of immigrant parents.
early adol marks shift for them to want what role in the family
equal role= early adol more conflict
what is the change in balance of power during adol
Shift from an asymmetrical relationship toward a more equal
relationship with parents.
what role does puberty play in family system
biological/cognitive maturation at puberty throws the family system out of balance.
during puberty there is a dip in …. with parents then levels out and increases
affection (could just be getting better at being equal and conflict management)
Conflict may stem from violations in expectations what is the main one
Freedom vs. more control
adol thinks adol means you can do what you want parent thinks this is when they really have to exert control
As adolescents mature into young adulthood, what happens to their identification with their family
their identification with their family grows stronger.
why decline in cohesion and family affection
seeking times with friends and autonomy
what is the Protective Role of Family Cohesion during Transition to Young Adulthood
Can buffer against maladjustment during challenging transitions. particularly for girls
Despite increase in conflict, … is more salient (desire to maintain nurturing relationship).
cohesion
increases in … symptoms occur with lower family cohesion
depressive symptoms
how do some and daughters differ in closeness, types of rules, patterns of activities
Minimal differences between sons and daughters in family relations.
how does the gender of the parent influence relationship with adol
most influential in relationship (closer to mothers)
…may be a more important influence than sex of the youth.
Sex of the parent
how is relationship with mother different than father for some and daughters
Youth tend to be closer to, spend more time alone with, feel more comfortable talking to, and fight more often with their mothers.
Fathers rely on mothers for …,
information about adolescent
how are fathers perceived
perceived as distant authority figures.
how does closeness of mother have negative effects
more conflict
Fathers may be sought for …. but rarely sought for …
objective information (homework help)
support or guidance (help with boyfriend problems).
time spent with mothers is more predictive of adolescents’ social competence and feelings of self-worth.
f fathers
what is the Moderating role of fathers?
unique role of their support buffers against peer victimization (less depressive symptoms more for those with low support from dad)
Parent–adolescent relationships differ from family to family.
t
Socialization is a two-way street how does this play out for parents and adol
just as parents affect their adolescents’ behavior, adolescents affect how their parents behave.
Harsh discipline leads to … in adolescent behavior problems which leads to …
increases
more punitive and detached parenting.
Adolescents who differ in … are affected in different ways by the same parenting.
temperament (parents adjust parental style with temperament)
Hostile parenting = … or …
antisocial beh. (for impulsive youth) or anx, dep (for introv youth).
why do Dif parenting styles influence kids differently
temperament
Diana Baumrind suggests two critical aspects (dimensions) of
parenting…
parental responsiveness and parental demandingness
Degree to which parent responds to child’s needs in an accepting, supportive manner.:T
parental responsiveness
T: Degree to which parent expects/demands mature, responsible behavior from the child.
Parental demandingness
4 types of parental styles from the 2 dimensions ? and where do they fall on the dimensions
Authoritative (HR/HD)
Authoritarian (LR/HD)
Indulgent (HR/LD)
Indifferent (LR/LD)
T: warm but firm and fair
Authoritative (HR/HD)
T: place a high value on obedience and conformity
Authoritarian (LR/HD)