CH.11: Intimacy Flashcards

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What is the typical result of deep sense of well-being?

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-Sense of belonging + competence + autonomy

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What is Happiness?

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-Feeling connected, free, and capable

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What is the relationship between Ostracism and Love?

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-Ostracism is real pain whereas love is the natural pain killer

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What is a predictor that people are friends?

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  • Proximity!= the best predictor
  • Interaction= how often people’s paths cross
  • Anticipation of interaction
  • Mere exposure=increases liking (doesn’t breed contempt)
  • Attractiveness
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Why does Proximity breed liking?

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-Availability= more opportunities to interact with them

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What is the nature of emotions?

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-They are more instantaneous than thinking

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What is the Matching Phenomenon?

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-The tendency for both sexes to choose as partners those who are a “good match” in attractiveness & other traits

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What is the Physical Attractiveness Stereotype?

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-Assumption that physically attractive people possess more socially desirable traits= Beautiful is good

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9
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What is the nature of being really attractive?

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-Being perfectly average= symmetrical

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What body shape do men mostly prefer on women?

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-An hourglass shape= waists 30% smaller than hips which indicate peak sexual fertility

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What effect does being sexually aroused have?

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-It’ll increase attractiveness for the other person temporarily

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Do birds of a feather stick together?

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-Yes because the more similar you are to your partner, the less likely you are to divorce

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What does Dissimilarity breed?

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-Dislike

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When do opposites attract?

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  • They don’t attract in behavioral tendencies BUT They do

- When their scents are different from yours=encouraging their offspring to have greater immunity

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What is Complementarity?

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-The supposed tendency that your partner completes what is missing in you and vise-versa

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When would people like you?

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-When you show that you like them= Reciprocity

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What is Ingratiation?

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-The use of strategies like flattery to gain your favor

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18
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What is the Reward Theory of Attraction?

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-The theory that we like those whose behavior is rewarding to us or who we associate rewarding events

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What factors nurture loving and liking?

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  • Proximity
  • Physical attractiveness
  • Similarity
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20
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What happens when we are expecting to date someone?

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-It increases our liking to them

21
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What is Implicit Egotism?

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-The fact that we tend to like the things that we associate with ourselves

22
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What is the Mere Exposure Effect?

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  • Familiarity breeds fondness

- We like novel stimuli more after we’ve been exposed to it

23
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How good is the predictor of a woman’s attractiveness on how much she dates?

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-It is a moderately good predictor

this is also the same for males

24
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What does Likeness produce?

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-Likeness

25
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What kind of mate do women prefer during ovulation?

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-Masculine man

26
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What other factors of similarities are important when seeking friends?

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  • Education
  • Age
  • Intelligence
27
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When does flattery lead to liking?

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-When there isn’t a ulterior move

28
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What can constant approval lead to?

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The loss of it’s value

29
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What is friendship described as?

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-Scheme for mutual exchange of personal benefits & favors so that self-esteem can profit

30
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What does Consummate love involve?

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  • Intimacy
  • Passion
  • Commitment
31
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What is Passionate love?

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  • The state of deep longing for union with another person

- It is Emotional, intense & exciting

32
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What is the definition of a True Friend?

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-One that gives us the correct feedback (good or kinda bad)

33
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What are the 3 components of love?

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-Intimacy, passion, commitment

34
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What effect do kind words have when said after unkind one?

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-Nice words have more credibility and are gratifying

35
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What is the 2-factor theory of emotion?

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-It states that arousal should intensify passionate feelings= attraction to date when watching a horror-movie

36
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What is Compasionate love?

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  • A lower-key, deep affectionate we feel for those that we’re deeply intertwined with
  • Lasts a lifetime
37
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What does emotion involve according to the 2-factor theory of emotion?

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-Body & mind

38
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What is Romantic love?

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-Intimacy + passion

39
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What is Fatouous Love?

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-Passion + Committment

40
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What is Decision & Commitment?

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Empty love

41
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What is the statement that best describes the 2-factor theory of emotion?

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-Arousal X it’s label= emotion

42
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What is Attachment?

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-An emotional bond between infant and caregiver

43
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What is Avoidant attachment?

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  • Insecure attachment style that shows discomfort/resistance to being close to others
  • Child shows little distress when separated from parent
44
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What is Anxious Attachment?

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  • 2nd type of insecure attachment where infants cling nervously to their mom
  • It is marked by nervousness or ambiance and infant shows clinginess and hostility when parent leaves
45
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If a person doesn’t feel like their relationship is equitable, how are they gonna respond?

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-Gonna say that the relationship is unfair

46
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What is Equity?

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-The balance of receiving what you put into a relationship

47
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What is Self-Disclosure?

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-Revealing the intimate parts of yourself

48
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What is Disclosure Reciprocity?

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-When you reveal intimate info & your partner does too