CH.11: Intimacy Flashcards
What is the typical result of deep sense of well-being?
-Sense of belonging + competence + autonomy
What is Happiness?
-Feeling connected, free, and capable
What is the relationship between Ostracism and Love?
-Ostracism is real pain whereas love is the natural pain killer
What is a predictor that people are friends?
- Proximity!= the best predictor
- Interaction= how often people’s paths cross
- Anticipation of interaction
- Mere exposure=increases liking (doesn’t breed contempt)
- Attractiveness
Why does Proximity breed liking?
-Availability= more opportunities to interact with them
What is the nature of emotions?
-They are more instantaneous than thinking
What is the Matching Phenomenon?
-The tendency for both sexes to choose as partners those who are a “good match” in attractiveness & other traits
What is the Physical Attractiveness Stereotype?
-Assumption that physically attractive people possess more socially desirable traits= Beautiful is good
What is the nature of being really attractive?
-Being perfectly average= symmetrical
What body shape do men mostly prefer on women?
-An hourglass shape= waists 30% smaller than hips which indicate peak sexual fertility
What effect does being sexually aroused have?
-It’ll increase attractiveness for the other person temporarily
Do birds of a feather stick together?
-Yes because the more similar you are to your partner, the less likely you are to divorce
What does Dissimilarity breed?
-Dislike
When do opposites attract?
- They don’t attract in behavioral tendencies BUT They do
- When their scents are different from yours=encouraging their offspring to have greater immunity
What is Complementarity?
-The supposed tendency that your partner completes what is missing in you and vise-versa
When would people like you?
-When you show that you like them= Reciprocity
What is Ingratiation?
-The use of strategies like flattery to gain your favor
What is the Reward Theory of Attraction?
-The theory that we like those whose behavior is rewarding to us or who we associate rewarding events
What factors nurture loving and liking?
- Proximity
- Physical attractiveness
- Similarity
What happens when we are expecting to date someone?
-It increases our liking to them
What is Implicit Egotism?
-The fact that we tend to like the things that we associate with ourselves
What is the Mere Exposure Effect?
- Familiarity breeds fondness
- We like novel stimuli more after we’ve been exposed to it
How good is the predictor of a woman’s attractiveness on how much she dates?
-It is a moderately good predictor
this is also the same for males
What does Likeness produce?
-Likeness
What kind of mate do women prefer during ovulation?
-Masculine man
What other factors of similarities are important when seeking friends?
- Education
- Age
- Intelligence
When does flattery lead to liking?
-When there isn’t a ulterior move
What can constant approval lead to?
The loss of it’s value
What is friendship described as?
-Scheme for mutual exchange of personal benefits & favors so that self-esteem can profit
What does Consummate love involve?
- Intimacy
- Passion
- Commitment
What is Passionate love?
- The state of deep longing for union with another person
- It is Emotional, intense & exciting
What is the definition of a True Friend?
-One that gives us the correct feedback (good or kinda bad)
What are the 3 components of love?
-Intimacy, passion, commitment
What effect do kind words have when said after unkind one?
-Nice words have more credibility and are gratifying
What is the 2-factor theory of emotion?
-It states that arousal should intensify passionate feelings= attraction to date when watching a horror-movie
What is Compasionate love?
- A lower-key, deep affectionate we feel for those that we’re deeply intertwined with
- Lasts a lifetime
What does emotion involve according to the 2-factor theory of emotion?
-Body & mind
What is Romantic love?
-Intimacy + passion
What is Fatouous Love?
-Passion + Committment
What is Decision & Commitment?
Empty love
What is the statement that best describes the 2-factor theory of emotion?
-Arousal X it’s label= emotion
What is Attachment?
-An emotional bond between infant and caregiver
What is Avoidant attachment?
- Insecure attachment style that shows discomfort/resistance to being close to others
- Child shows little distress when separated from parent
What is Anxious Attachment?
- 2nd type of insecure attachment where infants cling nervously to their mom
- It is marked by nervousness or ambiance and infant shows clinginess and hostility when parent leaves
If a person doesn’t feel like their relationship is equitable, how are they gonna respond?
-Gonna say that the relationship is unfair
What is Equity?
-The balance of receiving what you put into a relationship
What is Self-Disclosure?
-Revealing the intimate parts of yourself
What is Disclosure Reciprocity?
-When you reveal intimate info & your partner does too
