Attachment Theory

Question 1

FEARFUL

Somethin’ else…

(5% POPULATION)

CLINGY

Answer 1

1. WORLDVIEW:

Negative view of self // Negative view of others

2. CONFLICT: FEAR of being alone/abandoned.

When people get too close they hurt them Paradox:

They WANT intimacy but RESIST it at the same time.

Inner conflict

3. INTERNAL SELF TALK:

“No one can love” —

“Love is a scam” —

“There’s something wrong with me”

Question 2

AVOIDANT:

Independent

(25% POPULATION)

LONER

Answer 2

1. WORLDVIEW: Positive SELF-view, NEGATIVE view of others.
2. CONFLICT:

Never serious / use humor to avoid talking about situations.

Not afraid to threaten to leave.

3. INTERNAL SELF TALK:

“I can take care of myself” —

“I don’t need her” —

“I’m fine without you” —

“you’re lucky to have me”

Question 3

ANXIOUS:

Dependent

(20% POPULATION)

STALKER

Answer 3

1. WORLDVIEW: NEGATIVE view of Self // POSITIVE view of others
2. CONFLICT:

Fixers, Saves, or Wounded looking for saving!

Mood swings, demanding, clingy, low self-esteem, emotionally end relationships

3. INTERNAL SELF TALK:

FEAR of losing relationship

(“He’ll leave me” — “She’ll let me down”)

Question 4

SECURE

Kinda the “Goal” or the “Ideal” —

HIGH emotional IQ or EQ.

Honest, equal, stable, relationships. Very rare

Interdependent

(50% POPULATION)

COOL

Answer 4

1. WORLDVIEW: Comfortable on your own AND with others
2. CONFLICT:

Conflict — Instead of blaming partner or attacking - self-aware enough to ask for what they need.

3. INTERNAL SELF TALK:

“he always calms me” —

“She’s always there for me when I need her”