When Selves Collide Flashcards
Personal Relationships: including the o__ in the s__.
other, self
How do we deal with conflicts in personal relationships?
-by i__ the o__ in the s__ (IOS)
~c__ representations of self and close others o__.
~we incorporate into our self the other’s s__ and m__ resources, p__, and i__.
including, other, self
cognitive, overlap
social, material, perspective, identities
How can we operationalize IOS (inclusion of others in the self):
1) M__-m__ reaction times
- b__ measure
2) inclusion of other in self s__
- s__-r__ measure
match-mismatch
behavioral
scale
self-report
How can we operationalize IOS (inclusion of others in the self):
Match-Mismatch reaction times:
- participants were m__ couples.
- measured their reaction times when making m_/n__ me decisions for t__.
Results: reaction times were fast for traits that ‘m__’ between spouses (either described b__ or n__)
~reaction times were slower for m__ traits
Measure correlates with s__-report measures of relationship q__.
-also predicts increases in c__ over _ month period
married
me/not me, traits
matched, both, neither
mismatched
self, quality
closeness, 3
Similar Match-Mismatch Operationalization:
- had participants rate the descriptiveness of traits for
1) s__
2) c__ other
3) n__-c__ other
-given surprise recognition test (which l__?)
~looking for confusion between what was on s__ and c__ o__ list.
results: participants likely to confuse the traits coming from the s__ and c__ o__ categories.
self
close
non-close
list
self, close other
self, close other
IOS and Consumer Brands:
-had participants rate t__ and a “loved” b__ on traits
ex of brands: n__, a__, c__
- looked for o__ in these descriptions.
ex: describing both the s__ and the b__ as tolerant and cheerful
-did me/non me r__ time on s__ traits
themselves, brand
nike, apple, coke
overlap
self, brand
reaction, same
How can we operationalize IOS (inclusion of others in the self):
2) Inclusion of other in the self scale:
-l__ scale of v__ diagrams
~#1 (__ overlap) other person is i__ to your sense of self.
~#7 (__ overlap) other person is i__ part of you.
likert, ven
no, irrelevant
mostly, integral
Personal Relationships:
IOS Positive Correlations (__ with __ IOS)
-sa__, co__, and in__ in relationships.
-em__ and co__
~unlikely to care about other if #_
-likelihood of acting se__
-number of f__ person p__ pronouns used (w_ vs. t_)
-l__ of relationship
1
increase, increased
satisfaction, commitment, investment
empathy, compassion
selflessly
first, plural, we, them
length
IOS Potential Negatives to Extreme Inclusion (#_)
1) Your i__ is created by o__ people.
- if they l__ or d__, there’s almost nothing u__ left behind.
ex: s__ and unhealthy d__
2) Inclusion gives other people p__ over us.
- their s__ and f__ becomes your own.
7
identity, other
leave, die, unique
stalking, dependence
power
success, failure
Relationships: Self Expansion
-Aron & Aron theorized that people have m__ for “self-expansion.”
-forming new r__ can i__ self expansion because one will begin to include the o__ into the s__.
motivation
relationships, increase, other, self
Usually measure self-expansion by:
1) S__-E__ Q__ (SEQ):
- “how much does your partner provide a source of exciting e__?”
- “how much has knowing your partner made you a b__ person?”
2) measuring change in s__-c__ descriptions over time:
- “_ a_” task (do you write m__ the 2nd time? are you doing n__ things?)
self-expansion questionnaire
experiences
better
self-concept
I am, more, new
Aron, Paris, and Aron (1995):
- conducted a s__ long study
- followed f__ participants who reported falling in love during the semester
after falling in love:
-self-d__ were more d__
-self-e__ and self-e__ increased
~supports s__ theory
semester
freshman
self-descriptions, diverse
self-esteem, self-efficacy
sociometer
What types of activities should lead to greater self-expansion?
-n__ and c__ tasks
~as opposed to a merely p__ activity
ex: crawling around in an o__ course
- predicts relationship q__ will improve as s__-e__ improves
novel, challenging
pleasant
obstacle
quality, self-expansion
How do we choose new relationships?
- c__ psych research says similarity
- s__-e__ research both confirms and contradicts this.
Aron et al:
-if the possibility of a new relationship is a__ (as it u__ is), then people seek out those with s__ interests.
-however, if participants believed that a new relationship was l__ (i.e. not worried about being r__)
~then participants showed greater a__ to those with d__ interests.
~theoretically because this would lead to greater s__-e__.
classical
self-expansion
ambiguous, usually, similar
likely, rejected
attraction, different
self-expansion
