Making Ourselves Miserable Flashcards
Do we need a ‘self’ to experience negative emotions?
-__ (b__, d__, and other a__)
-a__ is in l__ brain, evolved before h__ c__ functions (aka. the s__)
-can be c__ to feel f__.
~l__ a__ study
However, the s__ is the cause of much of our n__ emotions.
no, babies, dogs, animals
amygdala, lower, higher cognitive, self
conditioned, fear
little albert
self, negative
Making ourselves miserable: How?
1) S__-i__:
- imagine f__ places, f__ that may never h__, ‘w__-i__’
-our minds are biased toward reacting n__ to a n__ stimulus.
~usually a__ (ex: “Hey we need to t__.”)
self-imaginings
fantastical, futures, happen, what-ifs
negatively, neutral
adaptive, talk
Making ourselves miserable: How?
2) U__ P__:
- can still w__ to c__ be someplace e__ or be u__ with the p__ situation you’re in.
undesired present
wish, currently, else, unhappy, present
Making ourselves miserable: How?
3) T__ to the E__
-threatening something a__
~our i__, e__, b__, f__ selves.. all relate to e__.
-can feel the same as someone p__ hurting us
threats, ego
abstract
ideas, emotions, beliefs, future, ego
physically.
Making ourselves miserable: How?
4) i__ s__ others:
- others are an e__ of o__.
examples:
-j__
-p__ and s__ (in others)
~close i__, your s__, your c__, etc.
__: if someone from your town does something well.
__: imagining significant other cheating on you.
__: if someone from your town does something bad.
imagining, significant
extension, ourselves
jealousy
pride, shame
individuals, school, city
pride
jealousy
shame
Making ourselves miserable: How?
4b) pride and shame in others
-t__ self-e__ m__ model
~don’t always want c__ others to do w__, specifically if they are doing well in a d__ you c__ about.
Ex: you and your significant other are both going to g__ school together-built in c__.
-Friends doing well in an u__ domain: h__ and boosts your e__ (_ _ _ _ing).
tesser, evaluation, maintenance
close, well, domain, care
grad, competition
unrelated, happy, ego (BIRGing).
What do we do when we feel threatened by close other’s success:
-r__ the d__.
~redefine what specifically the domain is that you c__ about
ex: t__ vs. r__ in psychology.
- work t__ very c__ (“we’re a t__.”)
- say the domain is no longer i__ (“I don’t think psychology is my p__.”)
- reduce your c__ (“we need to see o__ p__.”)
refine, domain
care
teaching, research
together, closely, team
important, passion
closeness, other people
Making ourselves miserable: How?
5) E__ by o__ p__.
-s__-c__ emotions: so__ an__, e__, s__, e__, p__, g__.
~these develop only once we have a s__ and understand that others are a__ of us.
-We spend more t__ than n__-others have m__ on and aren’t f__ on you.
~we think people think about us way m__ than they really d_.
evaluations, other people
self-conscious, social anxiety, embarrassment, shame, envy, pride, guilt
self, aware
time, needed, moved, focused
more, do
Making ourselves miserable: How?
6) At__ & Em__:
a) de__
- depends on what we a__ negative emotions to.
ex: y__ vs. the s__
- depression can be worse if you blame y__
ex: “De__” thinking
- behavioral: s__-blame a particular b__ you did.
- characterologic: s__-blame your c__/d__ (w__)
- e__ factor: blame something outside of y__/c__
attributions, emotions
depression
attribute
yourself, situation
yourself
depressogenic
self, behavior
self, character/disposition, worst
external, yourself/control
Making ourselves miserable: How?
6) At__ & Em__:
b) guilt and shame
guilt: action is negative–>regret–> feeling remorseful–>trying to u__ damage to make it r__.
- focus is on finding s__ to p__.
- about the o__ p__.
shame: person who does something negative is negative–>feels d__/w__.
- focus is on p__ problems
- h__ away from world
attributions, emotions
undo, right
solutions, problems
other person
dejected/worthless
personal
hide
Making ourselves miserable: How?
6) At__ & Em__:
c) m__ matters w__
- s__ allows us to interpret w__ a negative event h__ and why we r__ as we did.
-if we think we reacted badly, then we create a s__ level of n__ emotions
~b__ depressed about b__ depressed.
attributions, emotions
making, worse
self, why, happened, reacted
secondary, negative
become, being
