week 6 Flashcards
How research on love got started: Charles darwin
–claimed reproductive success was the central
process underlying the evolution of species.
how research on love got started: sigmund freud?
defined love as a compensatory mechanism that
kicked in whenever the desire for a sexual union was blocked.
Margaret mead research on love
described the cultural
variations in the expression of love and sexuality.
The human capacity to experience love may be related to
reproduction
and genetic survival.
What holds the bond
Love enables pair bonding and, along with commitment, provides the
emotional glue to hold the bond together.
What 3 processes regulate the emotional function of matin reproduction and parenting
lust, romantic love, and attachment
The prototype of love: what did the study consist of
Asked university students to list as many
characteristics of love as they could think
of in three minutes.
what werethe results of the prototype of love
Found 68 distinct features with 3
underlying dimensions:
what were the three 3 underlying dimensions
- Intimacy
- Commitment
- Passion
What are three most central characteristics of love
trust, caring and honesty
what three most peripheral characteristics
scary, dependency, uncertainty
What is the triangular theory of love?
love includes intimacy, passion, commitment
What are the first 4 triangular theory of love
non-love, liking, infatuation, empty love
what is the next 4 types of love
romantic love, compassionate love
Fatuous love, consummate love
Non love and liking
non love- intmacy, passion, and commitment are absent
liking- high intimacy, but little passion or commitment
infatuation and empty love
Infatuation - just passion.
* Empty love – commitment without intimacy or passion.
Romantic love and companionate love
Romantic love - a combination of intimacy and passion.
* Companionate love - high intimacy and commitment, but little passion.
What is fatuous love and consummate love
- Fatuous love - passion and commitment in the absence of intimacy.
- Consummate love – intimacy, passion and commitment are all present to
a substantial degree.
Two types of love
romantic passionate love and companionate love
Romantic passionate love involves
Intense emotions (elation, tenderness,
affection, anxiety)
* State of extreme absorption and desire
for the other
* Sexual attraction
companionate love
Mutual respect
* Deep attachment and affection
* Tolerate each other’s
shortcomings
Compassionate love is observed in what types of couples
long term couples
Love as misattribution of arousal: what is excititation transfer
When arousal caused by one event fuels stronger emotional
reactions to a second, unrelated event (excitation transfer).
What the example of misattribution of love?
the bridge study
Romantic passionate love: a two factor theory of romantic love proposes that such love result from: what 2 things
physiological arousal that is paired with
the belief that another person is the cause of your arousal
The colors of love
eros, storge, ludcus, mania, prama, agape
eros and storge
eros- erotic love with a strong physical component
storge- love that emphasizes friendship and commitment
ludus and mania
ludus- playful and uncommited
mania- practical and pragmatic, dispassionate love
Pragma and agape
pragma- practical and pragmatic
agape- altruistic, selfless and dutiful
Age and relationship duration:
emotions are less intense and generally more positive
burning and intense emotions seem to dwindle with time, being replaced by a more
amiable outlook on love
Sexure attachment styles include
intimacy, passion, commitment, car and caregiving
Secure attachment is linked to
higher eros and agape and lower ludus
two themes are thought to underlie the 4 attachment styles
anxiety over abandonment and avoidance of intimacy
anxiety over abandonment repersents
the worry that others will
find us unworthy and leave us
avoidance of intimacy
- describes the ease and trust with which
we accept interdependent intimacy with others
Individual differences in love: the quality of our attachment can
vary from partner to partner
we may be secure in some of our relationships but
relatively insecure in others
Love and personality study: examined the realtionship between
Sternberg’s love dimensions
(intimacy, passion, and commitment), the Big 5 personality factors,
and relationship length.
Agreeableness is postivley related with
all three love dimensions
conscientious was positivley related to
intimacy and commitment
passion was negativly associated with
relationship length
commitment positively associated with
relationship length
Love over time: does it get better or worse? after two years of marriage
average spouses express
affection for each other only half as often as they did when
they were newlyweds
divorces occur more frequenetly in what year
fourth year of marriage than at any other time
Why dosent romantic love last? 3 reasons
fantasy, novelty and arousal
fantasy, novelty and arousal refer to
Fantasy enhances romance, but it erodes with time.
* Novelty - adds excitement-and sexual arousal to new love
relationships but it fades with familiarity.
* Arousal fuels romance, but it, too, fades as time goes by.
Often the love that encourages people to marry is
not the love that keeps them together decades later
