Relationships and Friendships 8

Question 1

what plays roles in initiating relationships at school

Answer 1

your self-concept and self-esteem all play a role in how we will initiate relationships.

• extrovert = strong self-concept and high self-esteem, finds it easy to relate to new people in a new environment
• introvert = weak self-concept and low low self-esteem, finds it very difficult make new friendships.

HOWEVER there are combinations of personality type and levels of self-concept and self-esteem

Question 2

what are the qualities of a good versus bad relationship

Answer 2

good - bad

trust - mistrust 
mutual respect - disrespect 
shared interests - no shared interests 
empathy 
understanding - misunderstanding 
non-judgemental - judgemental
shared values - no shared values 
vulnerability - armour 
openness - closed / shielded

Question 3

describe the plant relationship

Answer 3

relationships are like plants. plants need soil, sunlight and water to grow well and to be healthy and strong. relationships need the following to thrive and be sustained:

• soil = strong basics for the roots of the relationships
• sunlight = warmth & caring for the relationship to be well
• water = regular attention and looking after to grow

Learn format P. 43

Question 4

describe the communication tools used to disagree in a constructive way

Answer 4

Before the discussion:

• don’t deal with issue while your upset
• agree on a time that will suit both parties to discuss the issue
• agree that you will stop the discussion if either party becomes upset.

During the discussions:

• be on time
• speak your truth
• do not interrupt each other while talking
• don’t accuse / blame the other person
• state only facts
• find aspects where you can compromise
• decide whether you can accept the aspects where you cannot find compromise

After the discussion:

• thank each other for being open and honest
• respect and uphold your decisions.