Dealing with abuse

Question 1

identify some danger signals

Answer 1

• when they are drunk or drugged
• when their mood changes dramatically
• when they look restless, and are pacing up and down

It could also be dangerous if they

• shout at you
• threaten you with violence
• threaten to kill or harm themselves
• touch your private parts
• hit or harm you in any way

Question 2

meaning - healthy and unhealthy relationships, abuse, contagious, domino effect and immune system

Answer 2

healthy relationships - caring, respectful and supportive relationships
unhealthy relationships - one person controls other with threats or violence
abuse - being hurt or treated badly
contagious - able to be passed down from 1 person to the next (catching)
domino effect - a chain of events started by one event
immune system - the system in you body that protects you from illnesses

Question 3

what are some effects of abuse

Answer 3

in a healthy relationship you feel free to be your self. In an unhealthy relationship you get abused, this can effect you health and maybe put your life at risk. this is why it is important to choose your friends, girlfriends, boyfriends and life partners carefully, they affect your health and happiness. If your parents or care givers are in an abusive relationship it can affect you. Just remember that it is never the child’s fault that the parents are fighting, In these situations children may want to speak to someone trustworthy, neighbours, social workers, teacher or religious leader about their feelings.

Question 4

Describe the health benefits of laughter

Answer 4

humour is infectious. when people laugh it binds the together and increases happiness and intimacy. in addition to the domino effect of joy and amusement, laughter triggers healthy changes in body. Humour and laughter strengthens your immune system, boost your energy, diminish pain and protect you from damage of stress. Laughter is priceless medicine that is fun, free and easy to use.

Question 5

learn the laughter table on page 51

Answer 5

do you know it

Question 6

how does communicating well affect our relationships

Answer 6

when talking to someone you notice how different they are than you, what we think of these differences often causes trouble. You must learn to accept and respect others no matter how different they are to you. Listen carefully to others and this will help us understand and communicate with others better.

Question 7

what must a young person do in a dangerous situation

Answer 7

for a young person to leave in a potentially dangerous situation is better than trying to deal with it. Going to another room might be good enough but going to a trustworthy neighbour’s house my be even better. if you can’t here are some tips

• stay clam, don’t panic
• don’t shout, be quiet
• don’t stare at the angry person
• keep out of the person’s reach
• go along with reasonable requests that won’t harm you
• get help
• leave if it is safe to do so

Question 8

describe the places of protection and safety in SA

Answer 8

Many children in South Africa get abused. our country has protection services to help abused people. nobody should be scared to report abuse at home to SAPS. The Domestic Violence Act gives woman and children a chance to be protected from violence. It allows anyone to obtain a protection order against violence. If victims call SAPS they should come deal with the problem. There are adults who volunteer to foster children until situation gets better. Childline, Lifeline and FAMSA are organisations that people contact for advice on what to do or where to go. Contact info can be found on the web, in a library or in the telephone directory. Children should have a trustworthy adult to speak to, a teacher, religious leader or a neighbour. Protecting children is everyone’s responsibility not just child services. it might be scary asking for help but be brave.

Question 9

what types of abuse are there

Answer 9

emotional / verbal abuse - an adult uses non-physical behaviour, threats, insults, humiliation, intimidation and isolation
stalking / cyber stalking abuse - when an adult constantly follows, watch or harass a child without the child’s wishes
physical abuse - an adult purposely uses violent behaviour to create purposeful damage, fear or injury to a child. Hitting, shoving, biting, scratching, strangling kicking or using a weapon
sexual abuse - when a adult forces a child to touch his private parts or touches the child’s private parts making the child feel uncomfortable
digital abuse / cyber bullying - when an adult pretends to be a child in a cyber chat and convinces the other person to meet up with them, or when a peer insults or says mean things to another peer online
bullying - when a peer intentionally threatens, hurts, interferes, intimidates, to make fun of or harass a class or schools peer. often through verbal and emotional abuse
neglect -when an adult or parent fails to provide a child with the basic physical, emotional necessities, harming them or putting them in harms way
THEIR CONTACT NUMBERS ARE:
- SAPS 10111
- Stop Gender Violence Helpline 0800 150 150
- Childline 0800 055 055

Question 10

Meaning - passionate, hoodlum, karate, karateka and intervened

Answer 10

passionate - with strong, deep feelings 
hoodlum - a gangster or lawless person
karate - a sport in which you learn to defend yourself 
karateka -  an expert in karate 
intervened - to come between 2 things