Lesson 11: Projections

Question 1

Whats the famous quote by Anais Nin about projections?

Answer 1

We dont see the world as it is, but as we are.

Question 2

WHy do we project? What use is it of to us?

Answer 2

We have models of the world in our heads. Based on what we are taught & what we experience. We project these models onto every new situation we face to make sense of it because we dont have all the info we need to make sense of it.

Question 3

What are the 3 most common types of projections?

Answer 3

1. Fantasy - Idealization of another, not based on reality
2. Echo/Ghost - Taking a personal past real experience and applying it today
3. Mirror - Seeing yourself in others

Question 4

Give an example of a FANTASY projection

Answer 4

First love or your children - you idealize them. Nothing can be wrong with them. Your PFC shuts down when it comes to them so you can reproduce.

Question 5

Give an example of a echo/ghost projection

Answer 5

You were molested as a child and your project that fear onto your child

Question 6

Give an example of a Mirror projection

Answer 6

Something inside of you that you see in others - .eg. buying an expensive car. Either you priase it (healthy) or your criticise others (unhealthy)

Question 7

What are the 5 stages of projection development?

Answer 7

Especially for FANTASY
1. Idealization - When we are in love, PFC shuts down so we can procreate

2. Disillusioned - You wake up from the illusion that the person is perfect and realize that’s not reality
3. Double-down - YOu fight back and try to stick to the illusion. You want to fix the imperfections and get back what you had. Its becomes a power struggle that you want to control. The other person feels he/she can’t cope with the high expectations.
4. Withdrawal - Wake up call that its not working, the person is not ideal and needs to have their own journey. Could be when you break up.
5. Becoming COnscious - YOu understand its just a phases, you let go of control and accept the other as is/his journey. You dont think its about you anymore.

Question 8

What happens with celebrities that we idealize?

Answer 8

We go from idealization to reality and fighting back & DONT WITHDRAW. They need to continue to believe the fantasy.

Question 9

WHat is the diff between EGO and PERSONA? What correlation do they have?

Answer 9

EGO - A mental construct of who we think we are, its sensitive and needs to be constantly given praise/approval/fed

PERSONA - Its who we show the world we are

When distance/diff between who we are and who we showe we are is a lot - COGNITIVE DISSONANCE/Feel like a FRAUD

Question 10

Give an example of EGO vs PERSONA

Answer 10

I am actually constantly looking for approval and acceptance, so I show the world I am perfect so that I am not rejected/hurt

Question 11

What’s the theory of the Ego living in a 200 ppl village vs 7B planet?

Answer 11

When it was 200 ppl village and staying within that village was essential for survival, you could be the best at something and your EGO would be satisfied. But today within 7B ppl you can’t be the best and there will always be someone better than you. Ego can’t get satisfied.

Question 12

What are the 5 characteristics or identifiers of the EGO?

Answer 12

1. Nevere satisfied
2. Constantly compares to others
3. Want to have/know more
4. Measures its worth based on what it has/knows
5. Always projects an image of success

Question 13

How can you overcome your EGO?

Answer 13

1. Become aware of it - everytime you compare or try to impress
2. Find the toxic pattern and ask your inner critic to shut up. Keep the distance between who you really are and what you show the world short.
3. Dont compare yourself to others - COmpare yourself to your past self. See how far you have come.
4. Do what you love because you love it. Don’t do it for money or for others/image.