Lecture 9 - Relationships and Attraction Flashcards
what relationships make better
- overall life quality
- less disorder
- instrumental: more social opportunities
- men profit more
men after breakup
- recover slower than women
- higher suicidaility
how do beautiful people benifit
- are seen as having a better character
- more likely to get what they want
drawbacks of beauty
- seen as vein
- no bigger self-esteem
most important on women
waist to hip ration: .7 to .8
men’s bodyweight preferences
- depend on food scarcity
what makes a face attractive
- symetry
- prototypicality
- no abnormalities
cognitive averaging theory
- our facial beauty preferences are just a mere exposure effect
baby face
- always attractive in women, sometimes in men
- latter seen as more naive but get lower prison sentences
dominance bias
- only in men
- dominant but also colder
matching phenomenon
- we’re attracted to similarily attractive people
complementarity in relationships
- not causal, emerges later
mirrored images
- we like our mirror image more
- our friends our real image
- a mere exposure effect
passionate love
- intense longing
- touching
- physical arousal
- excitation transfer
- neccessary to fall in love
Duffer and Aron
Bridge experiment 1974
companionate love
- deep connection
- occurs in 90 to 95% of couples after a while
- the rest is maybe true love
social penetration theory
- telling someone everything
- usually reciprocal
- women open up faster
- faster in individualistc cultures
investment model
- Rushult
- satisfaction = fairness and absolute level
- qualitiy of alternatives
- > determines if relationship ends or continues
destructive - active
- exit
- e.g. threaten
destructive - passive
- neglect
- e.g. ignore
contructive - active
- voice
- e.g. discuss
constructive - passive
- loyalty
- e.g. forgive
positive illusion
- most couples think their relationshp is better
- become bigger when relatinship is threatened
good predictor of realtionship satisfaction
- including the Other in the the self
preoccupational attachment style
- high trust
- low self-esteem
- jealousy
- demanding
- feeling unworthy
dismissing avoidant
- low trust
- short term relations and one night stands
- high confidence
- low commitment
fearful avoidant
- expect rejection
- alone
- uncommited
- low trust
attachment figure and its functions
- safe haven
- secure base
- seperation distress
secure attachment
- easily comforted
- preoccupied and fearful-avoidant
- extremely distressed when left
- hardly comforted
dismissive-avoidant
- comfortable with stranger
- avoid caregiver after he’s come back
