Family, Love & Intimacy Flashcards
The most common script themes for adolescent characters in TV serials are?
Sex
Dating
Romantic interests
The 2 types of psychological theories that attempt to explain romantic love are?
dimensional theories
type theories
What are the 3 areas of Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory?
Commitment (Cognitive)
Intimacy (Emotional)
Passion (Physical)
What are the 4 dimensional theories?
Sternberg’s Triarchic theory
Hazan & Shaver’s Attachment theory
Hatfield’s Two factor theory
Thibaut & Kelly’s Social Exchange & Equity Theory
What is an example of a type theory of romantic love?
Lee’s Colours of Love Theory
What are the 3 main ‘colours’ of love in Lee’s theory?
Eros
Storge
Ludus
WHat are the 3 secondary ‘colour’s of love in Lee’s theory?
Mania
Pragma
Agape
What is Eros love?
Passionate love with strong attraction
What is Storge love?
Companion love out of friendship and interaction
What is Ludus love?
“Game playing” love-
no long-term commitment
What is Mania love?
(Eros + Ludus)
Dependent & Possessive
What is Pragma love?
(Storge + Ludus)
Logical & practical
“shopping list love”
What is Agape love?
(Eros + Storge)
Selfless & Giving
What is the love that comes from having all three elements of Sternberg’s Triarchic theory?
Consummate
What are the 7 other types of love that come from combinations of passion, intimacy and commitment?
Fatuous Infatuation (Just Passion) Compassionate Empty (Just commitment) Romantic Liking (Just Intimacy) Isolation (NOTHING)
What are the four categories in Bartholomew’s Self/Other theory?
Secure (Low avoidance, low dependence)
Dismissing (high avoidance, low dependence)
Preoccupied (Low avoidance, high dependence)
Fearful (High avoidance, High dependence)
Senchak & Leonard suggest that avoidant individuals select partners who are either_______ (to __________ intimacy) or ____________ (whose dependence may validate avoidance).
avoidant
avoid
ambivalent
What are the 4 primary areas of love?
Passion
Commitment
Intimacy
Caring
Secure attachment leads to relationships that are?
Trusting Open Intimate (eros) Commitment Compassionate
Avoidant attachment leads to relationships that are?
Jealous
Dishonest
Closed (Ludus)
Less reassuring - anger when needed to comfort
Resistant/ Preoccupied/ Ambivalent attachment styles lead to relationships that are?
Dramatic
Fearful
Apprehensive (Mania)
Less reassuring- help is offered to gain approval
What are some issues with Hazan & Shavers attachment theory for romantic love?
Instruments of testing unsure of quality
Little consideration for temperament and very individually based
Traupmann and Hatfield’s two factor model has what 2 categories?
Passionate
Companionate
Tarupmann & Hatfield’s Passionate love maps onto which of Sternberg’s 8 triarchic combinations?
Passionate
Infatuation
Passionate love can have two forms. WHat are they?
Reciprocated
Unreciprocated
Why does Passionate love become companionate love over time?
Because the body cannot sustain extreme levels of arousal
Tarupmann & Hatfield’s Companionate love maps onto which of Sternberg’s 8 triarchic combinations?
Commitment & Intimacy
The Equity theory of love is?
Balance of contributions to relationship
There are two types of partners in an inequitable relationship. WHat are they?
Underbenefitted (Angry/ exploited)
Overbenefitted (guilty)
Why do people stay in inequitable relationships?
No better comparable alternatives
Marriage is a way that _________ legalise and regulate __________ relationships between couples.
societies
private
People in Western societies choose to believe that the ideology of romance and marriage is not only an institutional way to control us because we…
select partners as individuals ourselves
live out our marriage according to our own needs and wishes
Marriage is both:
personal relationship
scripted social institution
What percentage of people in Western Societies marry approximately?
90%
When did people get married in 1990 compared to 2010?
26/24 Men/women
30/27 Men/ Women
Why has the age of marriage increased?
longer studies
economic involvement by women
advances in contraception
increasing popularity for defacto
Why do people marry?
health chastity dependability intelligence ambition status religion neatness
What are the 4 most important characteristics for a potential mate?
Mutual attraction and love
Dependable
Emotionally stable
Pleasing disposition
What did women emphasise in the importance of a male partner?
Earning capacity
What did men emphasise in the importance of a female partner?
Physical attractiveness
Couples tend to be closely matched on 6 characteristics. These are?
Social class Ethnic/racial group Height Attractiveness Age Values
If there are differences between couples then man is usually? (3)
Older
Better educated
More prestigious occupation
What is the marriage gradient?
Women tend to marry up and men marry down- because of the traditional lack of chances women had to education and high statis jobs
What are the 3 approaches to the division of labour in the home?
Traditional
Egalitarian
Colleague partnership
In traditional roles the husband and wife are responsible for?
Husband= financial responsibility Wife = housework/ children
In egalitarian roles…
Both share all responsibilities
In colleague partnerships…
Specialisation of roles is made by choice because of personal preference
Craddock found that the greatest negative implications came from households that had which sort of partnerships?
Traditional husband + egalitarian wife
Gottman said the strongest predictor of marital satisfaction was?
The ratio of positive to negative communications
Gottman argued that the ration of communications was a better predictor than?
Length of relationship
Method of division of labour
Demographics
Grottman suggested there were 5 types of marriage which were?
Validating Volatile Avoidant Hostile/Engaged Hostile/Detached
Which were Gottmans stable ‘Masters’ of marriage?
Thos who were validating, volatile or avoidant
Which were Gottmans unsuccessful ‘Disasters’ of marriage?
Hostile/Engaged
Hostile/Detached
The marriage that is Validating is?
mutually respectful and listens
The marriage that is Volatile is?
Disagreeing/ doesn’t listen but laughs and is affectionate
The marriage that is Avoidant generally?
Avoids conflict
The marriage that is hostile/engaged has?
frequent hot arguments/ lack humous and affection
The marriage that is hostile/detached generally?
Fights regularly/ doesn’t look at each other and lacks affection and support
What were the top 3 reasons for divorce?
Infidelity
Incompatibility
Drinking/ Substance abuse
Do men or women come out better economically through a divorce?
Men do (up to 40% better) Women don't (up to 73% worse)
Birth rates although they have been decreasing over the past century are now increasing but women are now?
Delaying child birth
Why does satisfaction with marriage decline once a child is born?
constraints of child bearing less career difficult temperaments support unrealistic expectations
