Chp 7 Flashcards
Unique commitments between irreplaceable individuals who are influenced by rules, Relational dialects, and surrounding contexts
Personal relationships
Intensely positive feelings and desires for another person. Based on the rewards of involvement and is not equivalent to commitment
Passion
A decision to remain in a relationship in spite of troubles, disappointments, sporadic boredom, and lulls in passion
Commitment
Commitment grows out of ___
Investments
Something out into a relationship that cannot be recovered should the relationship end
Investments
Patterned ways of behaving and interpreting behavior
Rules
__ __ define the meaning of various types of communication in personal relationships
Constitutive Rules
__ __ Influence interaction by specifying when and with whom to engage in various kinds of communication
Regulative rules
Opposing and continual tensions that are normal and personal relationships
Relational dialects
Name 3 relational dialects
1) autonomy/connection
2) novelty/predictability
3) Open/closedness
Name 4 ways intimates deal with dialectical tensions
1) Neutralization
2) separation
3) segmentation
4) reframing
This involves balancing or finding a compromise between two dialectical poles
Neutralization
This favors one need in a dialect and ignores the others
Separation
When partners assign each need to certain’s spheres, issues, activities, or times
Segmentation
This transcends the apparent contradiction between two dialectical polls and re-interpret them as not intention
Reframing
Name five features of personal relationships
1) Uniqueness
2) committed
3) guided by rules
4) affected by contexts
5) influenced by relational dialects
Name the three stages in which romance progresses
1) escalation
2) navigation
3) deterioration
A private world of rules, understandings, and patterns of acting and interpreting that partners create to give meaning to their relationship; the nucleus of intimacy
Relational culture
The responsibility for remembering, planning, and coordinating domestic work and child care. In general, women assume this responsibility for childcare and housework even if both partners share in actual tasks
Psychological responsibility
four stages in cycle of violence
1) tension
2) explosion
3) remorse
4) Honeymoon
