Chapter 10 Flashcards

1
Q

The degree to which others consider their relationships with us to be valuable, important or close

A

Perceived Relational value

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Does it matter if people dislike us a lot or a bit?

A

No actually it doesn’t. We are very sensitive to small differences in regards from others that range from ambivalence at the low end to active including at the high end.
**decreases in the acceptance we receive from others may have a greater impact.

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3
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Apparent decreases in others’ regard for us (often causes a variety of unhappy emotions)

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Relational devaluation

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4
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When ppl are given the ‘cold shoulder’ and ignored by those around them. Often ppl don’t explain why they are ignoring the person

A

Ostracism

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5
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3 feels that define jealousy the best

A

Hurt, anger and fear

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6
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Jealousy that occurs when someone becomes aware of an actual threat to a valued relationship. Doesn’t need to be current- but always occurs in response to a realistic danger.

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Reactive jealousy

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Jealousy that occurs when one’s partner hasn’t misbehaved and one’s suspicions don’t fit the fact at hand.

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Suspicious jealous

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8
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Do men and women differ in their jealous tendencies?

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No- but there are differences in individuals

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9
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Different ind. qualities that influence jealous (5)

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  1. Dependence on the rs
  2. Feelings of inadequacy
  3. Matching
  4. Attachment styles
  5. Personality traits
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10
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What is a trend seen with competition to us with our partner?

A

We think the person is more attractive than they actually are.

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11
Q

Are M or W better at detecting infidelity in a relationship?

A

Men

They also are more infidle

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12
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Do M or W prioritize emotional cheating or sexual cheating to be hurtful?

A

M=sexual (60% physical)
F= emotional (83%)
M are quicker to assume sexual infidelity and W are quicker for emotional

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13
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What type of attachment style is often associated with a mate poacher?

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Avoidant- often sexually attractive horny extraverted ppl

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14
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How does infidelity act on genders in homosexual rs?

A

Both genders worry about the 2 infidelities

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15
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When shown a video of partner kissing their ex what were the gender differences in reactions?

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  1. W= seek to improve the rs- women try to get their male jealous more
  2. M= protect ego by getting more drink and challenging the rival
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16
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2 ways to respond to jealousy constructively

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  1. Self-reliance- involves efforts to ‘stay cool’ and to avoid feeling angry/embarrassed by refusing to dwell on the unfairness of the situation
  2. Self-bolstering- boosting one’s SE by doing something good for yourself thinking a/b your good qualities
17
Q

Intentional behaviour that creates an impression in the recipient that the deceiver knows to be untrue.

18
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3 examples of deception

A
  1. Concealing
  2. Divert attention
  3. Half-truths
19
Q

When ppl lie to others, they often begin to perceive the recipients of the lies as less honest and trustworthy as a result. Assume that ppl are just like them.

A

Deceiver’s distrust

20
Q

Is there obvious body language that goes along with lying?

A

No- they can look very similar to someone who tells the truth. But often when ppl care about the lie they often put a lot of effort into the lie.

21
Q

When partners are quite close and it leads them to assume that their partners are telling the truth.

A

Truth Bias

22
Q

Do ppl get better or worse at detecting lies as they become more intimate and trust each other more?

23
Q

When is forgiveness of betrayal the worst?

A

If your partner catches them in the act or if they learn of it from a 3rd party

24
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If someone asks you about a betrayal what should you do?

A

Don’t deny it outright- make your response as truthful as possible

25
What type of attachment style is most forgiving?
Secure. Ppl who are high in neuroticism are not very forgiving
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Term for when ppl acknowledge their wrongs, accept responsibility for their actions, offer genuine atonement by expressing shame, regret, and remorse for their misbehaviour.
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