Chapter 1 Flashcards
Prisons sometimes use _____ as a form of punishment. Why is this?
Solitary confinement.
B/c human beings are a very social species.
7 ways that intimate relationships differ from more casual associations in at least 7 ways… (7)
knowledge, interdependence, caring, trust, responsiveness, mutuality and commitment.
*None of these components is absolutely required for intimacy to occur- eg. stale marriage
How is there interdependence in intimate relationships?
- Frequent- often affect ea/ other
- Strong- meaningful impacts
- Diverse- infl. in many different ways
- Enduring- over long amounts of time
What does it mean for a couple to recognize their close connection and think of themselves as “us” rather than ‘me’ or ‘her’?
High levels of mutuality
-often is a signal of their first acknowledgement of their attachment to ea other
The _________ is a straightforward measure of mutuality that does a remarkably good job of distinguishing b/w intimate and more casual relationships.
The Inclusion of Other in the Self Scale
Is quality or quantity more important in close relationships?
Quality! There is a human need to belong in close relationships, and if the need is not met- a variety of problems follow.
It also doesn’t matter who our partners are- as long as they provide us with a stable relationship.
What are people with insufficient intimacy in their lives at risk for?
At risk for a wide variety of health problems.
When they’re lonely, young adults have weaker immune responses.
Across the lifespan- ppl who have few friends/lovers have higher mortality rates.
How does quality of relationships affect physical health?
Ppl who have pleasant interactions with others who care for them are more satisfied with their lives than those who lack social connection.
What was seen when middle-aged patients with congestive heart failure were tracked for several years after diagnoses?
It was found that 48 months later most of the patients with less satisfying marriages had died while most of the happy married ppl still lived.
Happened both with mild and extreme cases of the sickness.
Also seen with patients of heart surgery 15 years later.
Has the necessity of intimacy evolved?
Probs not- bit speculative.
Think of saber-tooth tiger era ex.
Stats about marriage in US today vs. in the 60s
60s= 94% were married.
Now= 85% YA will get married
After taking into how many adults are widowed or divorced etc. only 51% is presently married
Are people getting married at the same age as in the 60s?
No! Ppl are waiting longer- women are 26.5 and men are 29. 46% reach their 30s without getting married.
Are people waiting to get married before they move in?
Lol- no. 2/3rds of YA will live with a lover before they marry. This is compared with 5% in the 60s.
How many marriages end in divorce?
Almost 50% - but this is declining among adults with college degrees
You’re more than likely to not stay ‘happily ever after’
Do mothers stay home as much?
No- 40% today c/w 75%
What is singlism?
The prejudice and discrimination against those who choose to remain single and opt not to devote themselves to a primary romantic relationship. We assume ppl want to be in romantic relationships. Our culture benefits those who are married b/c of this.
Is there benefits to being married?
Yes divorced ppl are 27% more likely to die, 40% for widows or 58% for those who never married.
Does cohabitation increase your chances at a successful marriage?
No! Unless you plan on getting married (esp. within a year.) It actually increases your chance of divorce in the future.
1) Couples who cohabit are less commited to each other
2) They experience more conflic, jealousy and infidelity and PAgg
As time progresses, couples become less likely to marry but no less likely to to split up.
How are sources of changes affecting marriage today?
Women in particular are less likely to marry than they used to be. more than 1/3 make more than their husband.
The supprot of self-expression and the emphasis on personal fulfillment.
Individualism- characterizes Western cultures.
