Ch 3 Attraction

Question 1

two different types of rewards influence attraction:

Answer 1

noticeable direct rewards we obviously receive from our interaction with others. ex - when people give us attention, we feel good.

more subtle indirect benefits of which we’re not always aware and that are merely associated with someone else (looks, personality, similar name). ex someone with the same name or personality is more likable.

Question 2

the fundamental basis of attraction is _____, the extent to which someone is able to help us achieve our present goals

Answer 2

instrumentality

Question 3

our physical proximity to others often determines what?

Answer 3

whether we meet them in the first place - our friendships and romances grow from interactions with those nearby

Question 4

repeated contact with or more exposure to someone usually _____ our liking for him or her

Answer 4

increases

although sometimes getting to know someone may lead to you finding they are annoying

Question 5

we assume that what is beautiful is good. in other words, attractive people have desirable traits. true or false?

Answer 5

true

Question 6

what is attractive?

Answer 6

women with baby faced features like big eyes, small nose, small chin and full lips

men with strong jaws and broad foreheads who look strong

symmetry

similarity - interests

Question 7

attractive waist to hip ratio (WHR) for women

Answer 7

crabby 0.7 in which waist is 30% smaller than the hips - hourglass shape

Question 8

attractive waist to hip ratio for men

Answer 8

0.9

broad shoulders and muscles are attractive

Question 9

effects of our looks in regards to interactions: how does it affect men vs women?

Answer 9

women who are plain can still have interactions with men in groups settings but men who are unattractive have fewer interactions at all. affects men more than women

attractive people may not know if a compliment is because of their looks or abilities

Question 10

matching in attractiveness means?

Answer 10

the looks in partners match levels of attractiveness

Question 11

mate value

Answer 11

overall attractiveness as a reproductive partner

Question 12

demographic similarity

Answer 12

similarity in age, sex, race, education, religion, and social class

Question 13

similarity in attitudes and values

Answer 13

think the same

Question 14

similar personalities

Answer 14

agreeable, conscientious and emotionally stable and are pleasant to live with

Question 15

stimulus-value-role theory

Answer 15

we gain three different broad types of information about our partners as a new relationship develops.

first meet based on stimulus - age, sex, looks

then value stage - attraction depend son similarity in attitudes and beliefs

role - agree on parenting, careers, house cleaning, etc

Question 16

fatal attractions

Answer 16

occurs when a quality that initially attracts one person to another gradually becomes one of the most obnoxious, irritating things about their partner

Question 17

sometimes we are attracted to someone of our ideal selves which means ….

Answer 17

sometimes we are attracted to people who have talents and skills we wish we had. we are attracted to people who are similar to our ideal selves

Question 18

complementarity

Answer 18

complement: behaviors that complement our own (different skills)

reactions that provide a good fit to our own

ex someone who loves to plan and another who is great at implementing