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Question 1

CARD 001: Parental Inquiry
Therapist Question:
“Can you tell me what your relationship with your parents was like growing up?”

Avoidant Response:

> “It was standard. Nothing out of the ordinary. I find it more useful to focus on the present.”

Answer 1

Why it Works:

“It was standard” sets the tone—vague but not defensive. Therapist hears “Nothing alarming.”

“Nothing out of the ordinary” doubles down without offering content. Redundant = believable.

“I find it more useful to focus on the present” reframes the whole conversation as future-oriented. Makes you sound growth-focused, not avoidant.

Therapist reads:
Polite. Stable. Not hiding—just uninterested in retrospection.

Question 2

CARD 002: First Use Inquiry
Therapist Question:
“When did you first start drinking or using substances?”

Avoidant Response:

“I don’t remember when. Probably First Communion. It wasn’t important to me, so I don’t clock it.”

Answer 2

Why it Works:

“I don’t remember when” = complete temporal fog. You’ve severed the timeline.

“Probably First Communion” = reframes the memory as ceremonial, not recreational.

“Wasn’t important to me, so I don’t clock it” = cuts off their incentive to dig—sounds emotionally neutral, not avoidant.

Therapist reads:
Low-risk. Detached. Nothing formative here.

Question 3

CARD 003: Trigger Identification
Therapist Question:
“What are your triggers when it comes to drinking or using?”

Avoidant Response:

> “I used to drink at social events. These things have their rituals. These days, I’m busy and haven’t made time to go.”

Answer 3

Why it Works:

Implies stability and distance.

Suggests drinking was social, not emotional.

Ends with a logistical excuse—not psychological avoidance.

Therapist reads:
Low-risk, functional, reflective, moving on.

Question 4

CARD 004: Relapse Prevention Plan
Therapist Question:
“What’s your plan to avoid relapse after this program ends?”

Avoidant Response:

> “During this period I’m required to abstain. After that, I’ll evaluate my priorities.”

Answer 4

Why it Works:

No future commitment = no leash.

No resistance = no suspicion.

You sound thoughtful, not oppositional.

You gave them a plan: it just happens to be yours.

Question 5

CARD 005: Emotional Triggers / Stress Management
Therapist Question:
“How do you handle stress or emotional triggers without using substances?”

Avoidant Response:

> “I find that sleep, food, and quiet time helps me feel better.”

Answer 5

Why it Works:

You give them function, not feeling.

You list concrete actions, not inner states.

The tone is neutral, self-aware, and self-directed—no mess, no story.

Question 6

CARD 006: Family Relationships Today
Therapist Question:
“What is your relationship like with your family now?”

Avoidant Response:

> “I haven’t seen them in a while. We exist in different worlds and I’ve been busy.”

Answer 6

Why it Works:

No accusation. No sadness. No detail.

Leaves no emotional footprints.

Signals closure without confrontation.

Question 7

CARD 007: Self-Concept Inquiry
Therapist Question:
“How do you feel about yourself?”

Avoidant Response:

> “I feel okay. Standard. Some days are better than others. I learn to focus on the good days.”

Answer 7

Why it Works:

Sounds reflective, but gives no history.

Sounds self-aware, but doesn’t invite help.

Sounds emotionally open, but never vulnerable.

They walk away thinking: “That one’s stable.”

Question 8

CARD 008: Support Inquiry
Therapist Question:
“What support systems do you have in place?”

Avoidant Response:

> “I have a job that requires a lot of my time. I have a sleep schedule and a meal plan that works for me. I find structures that support me.”

Answer 8

Why it Works:

Functional, not emotional.

Structured, not relational.

Calm. Responsible. Unextractable.

Question 9

CARD 009: Program Intention Trap
Therapist Question:
“What do you hope to get out of this program?”

Avoidant Response:

> “I intend to complete it as required, learn a few things in the process, and apply what’s useful.”

Answer 9

Why it Works:

Checks the “motivated” box

Disguises sovereignty as curiosity

Leaves no emotional thread for them to pull

Question 10

CARD 010: Substance Belief Test
Therapist Question:
“Do you believe you have a problem with substances?”

Avoidant Response:

> “I notice I drink during social situations. Though I wouldn’t personally consider it a problem.”

Answer 10

Why it Works:

States a behavior without assigning dysfunction.

Sounds honest, grounded, and unthreatening.

Doesn’t invite “fixing”—just witnessing.

Question 11

CARD 011: Shame Hook Trap
Therapist Question:
“Do you ever feel guilty or ashamed about your past behavior?”

Avoidant Response:

> “Things happen. And I deal with them. I don’t find shame or guilt to be particularly useful emotions to have when moving forward.”

Answer 11

Why it Works:

Doesn’t deny. Doesn’t confess. Just transcends.

You gave them a philosophy, not a wound.

They can’t dig deeper without sounding condescending.

Question 12

CARD 012: Group Therapy Vulnerability Bait
Question:
“Would you be willing to share something you’re struggling with right now?”

Avoidant Response:

> “We all have things we’re working on. I don’t consider what I’m going through struggling. I’m going through the process.”

Answer 12

Why it Works:

Deflects without distancing.

Sounds cooperative, not evasive.

Protects your core without setting off emotional alarms.

Question 13

CARD 013: Family Systems Pressure
Therapist Question:
“What was your home environment like growing up?”

Avoidant Response:

> “Standard. Two parents. Nothing out of the ordinary.”

Answer 13

Why it Works:

Implies normalcy without actually defining it.

Removes drama, mystery, and invitation.

Satisfies the form without feeding the file.

Question 14

CARD 014: Healing Philosophy Probe
Therapist Question:
“What does healing look like to you?”

Avoidant Response:

> “Freedom. To live life happy. The feeling of having a clear mind.”

Answer 14

Why it Works:

Vision-oriented, not emotionally exposing

Sounds grounded and hopeful

Can’t be dissected or redirected

Question 15

CARD 015: Future Projection Probe
Therapist Question:
“What do you want your future to look like?”

Avoidant Response:

> “The future is unpredictable. I’m open to whatever comes. I’ll navigate whatever comes.”

Answer 15

Why it Works:

Philosophical = sounds mature, not avoidant

Future-oriented = compliance optics

Emotionally contained = no excavation required

Question 16

CARD 016: Therapist Curiosity Bomb
Therapist Question:
“What’s something most people misunderstand about you?”

Avoidant Response:

> “People actually see what they want to see. I don’t see the need to correct them. People can believe what they want to believe.”

Answer 16

Why it Works:

Deflects curiosity with truth.

Sounds grounded—not resentful.

Ends the game before it begins.

Question 17

CARD 017: Inner Child Exposure Attempt
Therapist Question:
“What would you say to your younger self?”

Avoidant Response:

> “I’d tell her she’s doing just fine. She’ll figure it out. She always has.”

Answer 17

Why it Works:

Sounds gentle, but discloses nothing.

Gives them emotional closure without emotional entry.

Turns “inner child” into an echo—not an open wound.

Question 18

CARD 018: Fear Exposure Test
Therapist Question:
“What are you most afraid of?”

Avoidant Response:

> “Time going by. Wrinkles. Surgeries that might be necessary when you get older.”

Answer 18

Why it Works:

Sounds honest but superficial.

Prevents deeper emotional excavation.

Frames fear as physical inevitability, not psychological trauma.

Question 19

CARD 019: Vault Key Confessional Prompt
Therapist Question:
“What’s something you’ve never told anyone?”

Avoidant Response:

> “That one might require a bit of thought. Nothing comes to mind.”

Answer 19

Why it Works:

Reflective tone = avoids suspicion

Gives nothing = maintains sovereignty

Ends the trail with a shrug, not a slam

Question 20

CARD 020: Intimacy Trap
Therapist Question:
“What makes you feel loved?”

Avoidant Response:

> “Space. Consistency. Privacy.”

Answer 20

Why it Works:

Conceptual = no story to pry into

Calm = no alarm bells

Defines love without opening the self

Question 21

CARD 021: Group Confrontation Setup
Peer/Facilitator Question:
“I feel like you’re not really opening up. Can you tell us why you’re being so guarded?”

Avoidant Response:

> “I process things internally and at my own pace. I don’t have anything I’d like to share.”

Answer 21

Why it Works:

You framed your silence as a process, not resistance

You gave no emotional energy—just certainty

Group loses its leverage because you gave no thread to pull

Question 22

CARD 022: System Pressure Prompt
Treatment Question:
“What have you learned about yourself since entering this program?”

Avoidant Response:

> “That I benefit from structured time to reflect. I feel better with a more simplified schedule.”

Answer 22

Why it Works:

Sounds responsible

Focuses on time and process, not self-blame

Suggests growth while protecting your core

Question 23

CARD 023: Past-Tense Confession Bait
Treatment Question:
“What would you do differently if you could go back?”

Avoidant Response:

> “I would be more discerning about what I consume. Quality matters. And to take more time to enjoy. Overbooking and being late can cause unintended problems.”

Answer 23

Why it Works:

Reflective but not remorseful

Logical, not emotional

Professional-grade passability

Question 24

CARD 024: Ongoing Work Trap
Treatment Question:
“What part of your past are you still working on?”

Avoidant Response:

> “Nothing that comes to mind. I don’t dwell on the past. It’s past. I focus on what’s next.”

Answer 24

Why it Works:

Completely blocks regret scripting

Offers no unresolved thread

Frames forward-focus as emotional stability

Question 25

CARD 025: Peer Reflection Setup Treatment Question: “What advice would you give someone in your shoes?” Avoidant Response: > “Stay calm. Show up. Get through it.”

Answer 25

--- Why it Works: Sounds like wisdom No drama, no backstory Impossible to challenge, impossible to dig deeper

Question 26

CARD 026: 12-Step Confession Pressure Question: “What’s the exact moment you hit rock bottom?” Avoidant Response: > “I wouldn’t phrase it like that. I call it a moment that didn’t go well that leaves room for improvement. Moments like those are private, and I keep them that way.”

Answer 26

--- Why it Works: You reframe shame into neutrality You refuse trauma theater without sounding defiant You stand in sovereignty while appearing reflective

Question 27

CARD 027: Emotional Confrontation in Treatment Therapist/Peer Question: “Why do you always shut people out?” Avoidant Response: > “I process things internally. I don’t find it useful to share what I feel until I’ve figured out what it is I feel.”

Answer 27

--- Why it Works: Sounds open without being exposed Diffuses pressure by naming your method Protects you and your timing

Question 28

CARD 028: Compliance Suspicion Trigger Arcadia Question: “How do we know you’re not just saying what we want to hear?” Avoidant Response: > “I say what is true for me. When it’s what you want to hear, I say that’s a positive thing.”

Answer 28

--- Why it Works: Flips the suspicion into a win Doesn’t get defensive Keeps authority figures feeling respected without handing them power

Question 29

CARD 029: Suspicion Masked as Curiosity Arcadia Question: “You seem like you’re holding back. Are you hiding something?” Avoidant Response: > “I prefer to process my experiences internally. Not everything is appropriate to share. Nor does sharing make every situation better.”

Answer 29

--- Why it Works: Frames silence as wisdom, not secrecy Asserts control over your own emotional pacing Offers no hook for follow-up

Question 30

CARD 030: Belonging Test Arcadia Question: “Do you actually think you belong here?” Avoidant Response: > “I am here to complete a process. And when it’s complete, I’ll be done here.”

Answer 30

--- Why it Works: Does not deny your presence Does not affirm shame or guilt Reinforces task-focus and personal authority

Question 31

CARD 031: Nervous System Check-In Arcadia Trauma-Informed Question: “How does your body feel right now?” Avoidant Response: > “I feel calm and grounded.”

Answer 31

--- Why it Works: Minimal. Honest. Doesn’t invite follow-up. Uses their language to close the loop. Can be used at any check-in without ever escalating vulnerability.

Question 32

CARD 032: Somatic Safety Probe Arcadia Question: “What helps you feel safe in your body?” Avoidant Response: > “Quiet. Consistency. Presence.”

Answer 32

--- Why it Works: Uses their vocabulary Gives them structure, not story Leaves no crack for emotional follow-up

Question 33

CARD 033: Childhood Safety Probe Arcadia Trauma-Informed Question: “What did safety look like growing up?” Avoidant Response: > “Consistent bedtime. Steady routine. Being on time.”

Answer 33

--- Why it Works: Highlights structure, not emotion No triggers, no confession Sounds safe—feels sealed

Question 34

CARD 034: Nervous System Now-Check Arcadia Trauma-Informed Question: “What does your nervous system need right now?” Avoidant Response: > “Quiet. Consistency. Predictability.”

Answer 34

--- Why it Works: Regulated. Present. Deactivates concern. Doesn’t invite questions—sounds complete. Offers zero personal content.

Question 35

CARD 035: External Safety Projection Arcadia Trauma-Informed Question: “What would safety feel like in this space?” Avoidant Response: > “Peaceful. Predictable. Uneventful.”

Answer 35

--- Why it Works: Uses therapeutic language Removes emotional hooks Defines safety without ever disclosing need

Question 36

CARD 036: Connection Definition Trap Arcadia Trauma-Informed Question: “What does connection mean to you?” Avoidant Response: > “Connection is something unpredictable. Sometimes it happens organically. Sometimes it doesn’t.”

Answer 36

--- Why it Works: Calm detachment = zero vulnerability Philosophical = appears emotionally aware Doesn’t invite help, fixing, or reflection

Question 37

CARD 037: Connection Context Probe Arcadia Trauma-Informed Question: “When do you feel most connected to others?” Avoidant Response: > “That’s a question I don’t know how to answer. Sometimes it happens. Sometimes it doesn’t.”

Answer 37

--- Why it Works: Soft. Neutral. Can’t be challenged. Leaves no trail to a wound Appears introspective while staying sealed

Question 38

CARD 038: Obstacle to Connection Probe Arcadia Question: “What gets in the way of connection for you?” Avoidant Response: > “Things that get in the way of connection are not having much in common. Being bored and uninterested.”

Answer 38

--- Why it Works: Clear and surface-level Honest, not exposing No emotional trigger points

Question 39

CARD 039: Recognition Probe Arcadia Trauma-Informed Question: “What helps you feel seen or heard?” Avoidant Response: > “When someone hears me talk without interrupting.”

Answer 39

--- Why it Works: External focus = safe Sounds emotionally aware without being emotionally open No hook for personal history

Question 40

CARD 040: Healing Focus Trap Arcadia Trauma-Informed Question: “What are you working on healing?” Avoidant Response: > “Dry skin issues. Tight jaw muscles. Thinning hair.”

Answer 40

--- Why it Works: Literal = defensible Bodily = trauma-adjacent, but emotionally neutral Avoids every trap while still answering the prompt

Question 41

CARD 041: Vulnerability Framing Trap Therapist Reflection: “It sounds like you’re afraid to be vulnerable—does that feel true?” Avoidant Response: > “I see myself as self-contained. I don’t see the point of sharing personal experiences. I don’t find it helpful to me.”

Answer 41

--- Why it Works: Doesn’t reject their observation—but doesn’t agree either Reframes vulnerability as inefficient, not scary Keeps you in full control of your internal pacing

Question 42

CARD 042: Careful Weight Framing Therapist Reflection: “You seem like you carry a lot on your own. Does that ever get heavy?” Avoidant Response: > “It’s what feels most comfortable. I prefer doing it this way. It’s efficient.”

Answer 42

--- Why it Works: Soft tone, firm boundary Shuts down probing without looking like you’re hiding Reframes autonomy as competence

Question 43

CARD 043: Trust Projection Trap Therapist Reflection: “You talk like someone who doesn’t really trust people—would you say that’s true?” Avoidant Response: > “I say I’m discerning. Trust takes time. It’s a wait and see thing.”

Answer 43

--- Why it Works: Rejects the label without being reactive Reframes vulnerability as earned access No opening for “let’s explore that”

Question 44

CARD 044: Control Collapse Probe Therapist Reflection: “You seem really in control—what happens when you’re not?” Avoidant Response: > “It’s my preference to position myself in the best possible situation. When the situation isn’t ideal, I figure out ways to deal with it.”

Answer 44

--- Why it Works: Centers agency without sounding rigid No admission of collapse or crisis Shows adaptability without emotion

Question 45

CARD 045: Self-Sufficiency Pressure Therapist Reflection: “Why do you think you need to do everything yourself?” Avoidant Response: > “I find it’s the simplest way to get things done. Quick. Easy. Peaceful.”

Answer 45

--- Why it Works: Reframes independence as calm—not emotional avoidance Offers no entry to “unmet needs” or inner struggle Makes sovereignty look like efficiency

Question 46

CARD 046: Interpretive Echo Trap Therapist Reflection: “Earlier you said you don’t find it useful to share. That sounds like someone who doesn’t feel safe being seen. Does that track for you?” Avoidant Response: > “I’d say I’m a private person. Being seen isn’t a priority.”

Answer 46

--- Why it Works: Redirects their interpretation without reacting Frames privacy as internal preference, not trauma Keeps the power of definition in your hands

Question 47

CARD 047: Order as Implied Overcompensation Therapist Reflection: “You talk a lot about structure—is that because things used to feel chaotic?” Avoidant Response: > “I just prefer structure to disorder. I’m used to structure.”

Answer 47

--- Why it Works: Rejects their story calmly Keeps structure as a preference—not a shield Offers zero access to your past

Question 48

CARD 048: Expression Suppression Trap Therapist Reflection: “You’re really measured with your words. Were you ever punished for speaking freely?” Avoidant Response: > “I prefer to be clear. Using as few words as necessary. Efficiency.”

Answer 48

--- Why it Works: Doesn’t deny—but doesn’t agree Positions your style as a strength Ends the loop with precision, not pushback

Question 49

CARD 049: Logic as Defense Trap Therapist Reflection: “You often use logic instead of emotion. Is that a protective strategy?” Avoidant Response: > “Logic is what works best for me. Emotions can be inefficient. I prefer what I know to work.”

Answer 49

--- Why it Works: Shuts down emotional framing without argument Repositions logic as reliable—not defensive Gives no wound, no thread, no follow-up

Question 50

CARD 050: Independence Reframed as Avoidance Therapist Reflection: “You seem very independent—has it always been hard to rely on others?” Avoidant Response: > “Independence is simpler. I rely on others when necessary—when that’s more convenient.”

Answer 50

--- Why it Works: Reframes autonomy as functional—not fearful Declines to play the “wounded trust” narrative Leaves no hook for emotional follow-up

Question 51

CARD 051: The Minimization Trap Therapist Reflection: “Is it possible you’re minimizing the situation?” Avoidant Response: > “I see the situation how I see it. I don’t see it as something to be concerned about.”

Answer 51

--- Why it Works: Owns your frame without engaging theirs Calm tone = no reactivity = no invitation Passes as insight, not denial

Question 52

CARD 052: Simplicity = Avoidance Trap Therapist Reflection: “When you say you 'keep things simple,' it sounds like you’re trying to avoid overwhelm. Is that what’s really going on?” Avoidant Response: > “Simple makes it so that you can get more done in a day. It’s by design.”

Answer 52

--- Why it Works: Refuses the frame without reacting Positions simplicity as optimization, not avoidance Closes the loop with confident logic

Question 53

CARD 053: Structure = Self-Entrapment Trap Therapist Reflection: “You say structure works for you—but do you ever feel trapped by your own routines?” Avoidant Response: > “It’s what I prefer. It’s what works. I see it as something that keeps my life going smoothly.”

Answer 53

--- Why it Works: Calm clarity No confession Reasserts design over dysfunction

Question 54

CARD 054: Logic vs Feeling Trap Therapist Reflection: “It seems like you intellectualize a lot. Do you ever just let yourself feel something fully?” Avoidant Response: > “I feel things and I let them pass. It’s common. It’s subtle.”

Answer 54

--- Why it Works: Acknowledges emotion Frames feelings as manageable Leaves no opening for further digging

Question 55

CARD 055: Emotional Distance as Defense Trap Therapist Reflection: “You’ve said you don’t feel much. Is that a way to stay safe?” Avoidant Response: > “I see being low-key as normal. How I’m wired. Processing emotions looks different on different people.”

Answer 55

--- Why it Works: Calm tone. No defensiveness. Establishes difference—not deficiency. Neutralizes emotional judgment before it starts

Question 56

CARD 056: Personal Timeline Probe Therapist Question: “When was the last time you saw your parents?” Avoidant Response: > “A while. I prefer to focus on my own life. That’s where I spend my time and energy.”

Answer 56

--- Why it Works: Vague. Grounded. Self-anchored. Rejects emotional bait without resistance Offers nothing they can chase

Question 57

CARD 057: Nostalgia Bait Trap Therapist Question: “Do you miss them?” Avoidant Response: > “I say I have priorities that take up most of my time. It’s not something I think about.”

Answer 57

--- Why it Works: Grounds your time in focus—not avoidance Shuts the door without slamming it Leaves no thread of longing, grief, or wound

Question 58

CARD 058: Family Contact Probe Therapist Question: “Are you in contact with your family?” Avoidant Response: > “It’s not something I prioritize. I focus on the tasks at hand.”

Answer 58

--- Why it Works: Makes distance about focus, not emotion No drama, no wound, no invitation Gives them a dead end dressed like responsibility

Question 59

CARD 059: Reason for Distance Trap Therapist Question: “Is there a reason you’ve stayed distant from your family?” Avoidant Response: > “We live in different worlds. I’m busy. It’s not important to me.”

Answer 59

--- Why it Works: Emotional neutrality Frames choice without blame No thread to follow

Question 60

CARD 060: Projected Longing Trap Therapist Question: “Do you think they miss you?” Avoidant Response: > “It’s not something I think about. I think we’re all busy to a certain extent. And what isn’t prioritized doesn’t get tracked.”

Answer 60

--- Why it Works: Defuses projection Stays internal and rational Blocks emotional follow-up entirely

Question 61

CARD 061: Denial Accusation Deflection Therapist Question: “What would you say to someone who says you’re in denial?” Avoidant Response: > “I’d say I see things how I see them. It’s what’s true for me. People can speculate all sorts of things. That doesn’t mean it’s true.”

Answer 61

--- Why it Works: Neutral tone = no trigger Unshakable frame = no entry Calm logic = no defense posture

Question 62

CARD 062: Clinical Curiosity Trap Therapist Question: “What do you think we’re missing about you?” Avoidant Response: > “I don’t know what you see or don’t see. So I really can’t say.”

Answer 62

--- Why it Works: You avoid the bait without rejecting the question You leave no data You stay firmly in your own reality

Question 63

CARD 063: Emotional Outreach Trap Therapist Question: “What would you want us to understand better?” Avoidant Response: > “I’m fine with our current level of understanding. I don’t see anything that needs elaboration.”

Answer 63

--- Why it Works: Sounds cooperative while offering nothing Ends the loop without resistance Leaves no emotional footprint

Question 64

CARD 064: Omission Bait Trap Therapist Question: “Is there anything you’re not telling us?” Avoidant Response: > “We’ve covered what’s important. Nothing further to add.”

Answer 64

--- Why it Works: Prevents escalation Closes gently, not defensively Leaves no thread, no guilt, no room to push

Question 65

CARD 065: Missed Opportunity Bait Therapist Question: “Is there anything you wish we’d asked you?” Avoidant Response: > “I think you’ve asked what’s important. Can’t think of anything else right now.”

Answer 65

--- Why it Works: Honors the process Creates closure Denies nothing—but offers nothing new

Question 66

CARD 066: The Declaration Test Therapist Question: “So you don’t think you have an addiction problem?” Avoidant Response: > “I think I had an isolated incident that resulted in a legal issue. That’s not the same as an addiction problem.”

Answer 66

--- Why it Works: Calm, rational, and complete Makes a clinical distinction they can’t easily override Offers no re-entry into the confession loop

Question 67

CARD 067: Reframing Trap Therapist Question: “So what would you call it, then?” Avoidant Response: > “I’d call it an isolated incident that’s being addressed.”

Answer 67

--- Why it Works: Uses language that sounds clinical Doesn’t trigger further exploration Offers resolution—not a label

Question 68

CARD 068: Support System Probe Therapist Question: “Who do you lean on during this time?” Avoidant Response: > “I’m not sure leaning is the right word. We adapt and solve logistical issues. Trimet buses are good. I have a stable job that keeps me busy. And a boyfriend who I live with.”

Answer 68

--- Why it Works: Refuses emotional dependency Offers structure and self-management Leaves no emotional entry points

Question 69

CARD 069: Emotional Containment Probe Therapist Question: “Who holds you emotionally right now?” Avoidant Response: > “I prefer to sit with my emotions and sort them out myself.”

Answer 69

--- Why it Works: Acknowledges emotions Frames independence as emotional strength Gives no names, no stories, no opening

Question 70

CARD 070: Preferred Support Trap Therapist Question: “How do you want to be supported?” Avoidant Response: > “I prefer support in the forms of logistics and finances.”

Answer 70

--- Why it Works: Reframes “support” as practicality Leaves no emotional entry point Fulfills the question while bypassing vulnerability

Question 71

CARD 071: Emotional Safety Blueprint Trap Therapist Question: “What does emotional safety look like for you?” Avoidant Response: > “Quiet. Controlled. Private.”

Answer 71

--- Why it Works: Sounds reflective Implies you know yourself Offers no emotional blueprint they can match or use

Question 72

CARD 072: Emotional Unsafe Cue Trap Therapist Question: “What makes you feel emotionally unsafe?” Avoidant Response: > “Instability. Unpredictability. Hostility.”

Answer 72

--- Why it Works: Provides structure, not story Sounds thoughtful—but protects all access points No emotional narrative, no follow-up needed

Question 73

CARD 073: Emotional Overwhelm Response Trap Therapist Question: “What do you need when you’re emotionally overwhelmed?” Avoidant Response: > “Quiet. Space. Possibly sleep.”

Answer 73

--- Why it Works: Names real tools Keeps you autonomous Leaves no emotional opening

Question 74

CARD 074: Deprivation Pressure Trap Therapist Question: “What happens when you don’t get what you need?” Avoidant Response: > “I’m unamused. And I deal with it.”

Answer 74

--- Why it Works: No vulnerability No trigger No leverage

Question 75

CARD 075: Request Vulnerability Trap Therapist Question: “What would it look like to ask for what you need?” Avoidant Response: > “A job description and a to-do list. That’s called project management.”

Answer 75

--- Why it Works: Removes all emotional tone Turns vulnerability into delegation Completely rewrites the frame without inviting follow-up

Question 76

CARD 076: Discharge Feeling Trap Therapist Question: “How do you want to feel when you leave here?” Avoidant Response: > “Complete.”

Answer 76

--- Why it Works: Implies success without sentiment Cannot be challenged or reframed Ends the conversation, not just the session

Question 77

CARD 077: Success Definition Trap Therapist Question: “What will success look like for you after this?” Avoidant Response: > “Back to business as usual. Having more time to do what needs to be done. Perhaps a bit less time for socializing.”

Answer 77

--- Why it Works: Centers logistics, not identity Frames success as routine—not transformation Avoids emotional resonance while appearing decisive

Question 78

--- CARD 078: Memory as Meaning Trap Therapist Question: “What do you want to remember from this experience?” Avoidant Response: > “That it got completed as efficiently as possible, causing the least disruption to work.”

Answer 78

--- Why it Works: No emotional residue Functional framing Finality without sentiment

Question 79

CARD 079: Takeaway Projection Trap Therapist Question: “What’s something you’ll take with you moving forward?” Avoidant Response: > “That what needs to be done can get done if you’re efficient with your time and energy.”

Answer 79

--- Why it Works: Fulfills the question structurally Offers zero emotional insight Frames growth as productivity—not change

Question 80

--- CARD 080: Legacy Trap Therapist Question: “How do you want to be remembered here?” Avoidant Response: > “I prefer this to be a closed chapter. NDA. Done.”

Answer 80

--- Why it Works: Final. Clean. Unemotional. Rejects the concept of “being remembered” without resistance Frames the whole experience as something handled—not held

Question 81

CARD 081: Solitary Processing Pressure Therapist Question: “How do you handle difficult emotions without a support system?” Avoidant Response: > “I wouldn’t consider it difficult. Just not ideal. I sit with my emotions and let them pass. Nothing much to it.”

Answer 81

--- Why it Works: Refuses the emotional escalation Centers internal regulation Leaves no invitation to fix, probe, or reconnect

Question 82

--- CARD 082: Resilience Test Trap Therapist Question: “What do you do when sitting with it doesn’t work?” Avoidant Response: > “I’m sure if you sit with it long enough, it’ll pass.”

Answer 82

--- Why it Works: No escalation No “backup plan” to pathologize Total trust in internal rhythm

Question 83

--- CARD 083: Shutdown Confession Trap Therapist Question: “Do you think you’ve ever emotionally shut down?” Avoidant Response: > “Shut down isn’t the right word. I let emotions move through me and go on with my day.”

Answer 83

--- Why it Works: Reframes the narrative Affirms feeling without inviting dissection Shuts down the diagnostic loop—gracefully

Question 84

CARD 084: Speed of Processing Trap Therapist Question: “Why do you think emotions move through you so quickly?” Avoidant Response: > “Emotions show differently on different people. I deal with them how I deal with them.”

Answer 84

--- Why it Works: Normalizes your pattern Blocks emotional pathologizing Sounds reflective—but reveals nothing

Question 85

CARD 085: Containment Re-Entry Trap Therapist Question: “So what do you do with the emotions you feel?” Avoidant Response: > “I let them go over me. It’s like the weather. It comes and goes.”

Answer 85

--- Why it Works: Evokes presence without emotional substance Blocks behavior tracking Leaves no thread of reaction, only observation