Week 5 Flashcards
Why do people strongly resist the breakup of relationships even when they are not good for them?
-need to belong = really important
-feel the need to prolong & “have somebody”
What is capitalization?
Telling someone about our good news/success & getting a positive response.
How do good relationships respond to good news?
They give a positive response and validate you as a person and your needs
What are the 4 types of responses & what are they characterized by?
1 - AC: Active Constructive
-interest, enthusiasm, constructive questions, etc.
2 - PC: Passive Constructive - “no longer about me”
-positive & supportive only on the surface (limited eye contact, no questions) - pleasant but uninvolved
3 - PD: Passive Deconstructive - “no longer about me”
-change subject to you, detached, and uninterested
4 - AD: Active Deconstructive
-(mine in exercise)
Provide a response representing each of the 4 types for the following example:
“You studied hard for your midterm, but it is a class which is difficult for you. You knew that you did your best but were very doubtful that your best would be good enough. You were very nervous before your exam and relieved to have it over with. The next class, when you received your mark, you couldn’t believe it - You earned a B Plus!!
What is Perceived Responsiveness & what is it important for?
Feeling understood, validated, and cared for
-VERY important to well-being, close relationship formation, and personal growth
What did Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi study?
Social connection
What did Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s research indicate?
That the strongest contributor to peoples’ happiness was TALKING WITH FRIENDS!!!!
Are social relationships sufficient condition for greater happiness?
No. They are necessary but not sufficient for greater happiness.
-(you will not be very happy if you do not have strong social relationships)
-There are very negative impacts with social isolation and loneliness
What is the BONUS to our relationships and happiness?
Hedonic Adaptation!
-normally it is “hard to get off the treadmill” BUT relationships are the only place where hedonic adaptation doesn’t kick in
-“you don’t need 10 best friends or spouses”
