Week 10 - Intimate Relationships Flashcards
The need to belong is “__________ and _______”
Satiable
Universal
It is possible that you could have less immune strength if more lonely?
YES
According to a loneliness study
What is a parasocial relationship?
WILSON from cast away
TV/literature characters can satiate the NEED to belong
What is the robot revolution?
What is robot rejection?
Worldwide billions of dollars spent on robots
Will be fully INTEGRATED soon
Microsoft’s Tay bot went horribly wrong
What are the big 5 personality traits?
1) openness
2) conscientiousness
3) extra version
4) agreeableness
5) neuroticism
Largely heredity
Biological basis
Who’s “in” the relationship?
Personality (the big 5)
Interpersonal processes (attachment)
What is forgiveness?
Letting go of a transgression
Can take TIME
Apology prompts forgiveness
What is the “dark side” of forgiveness?
What is the “good side” of forgiveness?
DARK:
Low power people = forgiveness may involve SUBMISSION
GOOD:
Power promotes goal-directness
Contingencies learned in “_________” persist into “__________”
Childhood
Adulthood
Attachment theory developed by who?
Bowlby and Ainsworth
What are the 3 attachment styles?
(From the video, about infants)
1) SECURE- caregivers respond quickly/reliably to distress
2) ANXIOUS- caregivers not consistently reliable
3) AVOIDANT- caregivers consistently unreliable
Bowlby saw claimed these attachment styles from “___________ to _________”
Cradle to grave
What are the 3 attachment styles in terms of adults?
SECURE: relatively easy to get close to people, comfortable on dependence, don’t worry about being abandoned
ANXIOUS: others are reluctant to get close, I worry my partner doesn’t really love me, sometimes scares people away
AVOIDANT: somewhat uncomfortable being close to others, hard to trust them, others often want to be more intimate than me
What are the implications of attachment styles?
SECURE: longer-lasting relationships, more confidence/trust
ANXIOUS: often short-intense relationships, hyper vigilant, events see at threatening matter
AVOIDANT: less physically affectionate/intimate, shorter relationships, lack trust, emotionally distant
True or false. Insecure attachment styles are always maladaptive
False
Learning that its safe to trust
Can be a problem when carried into new relationships
What is interpersonal attraction?
Study of attraction or liking b/w 2 or more people
What are the 4 person-factors that influence attraction?
1) proximity (opportunity for interactions, mere exposure effect)
2) similarity (attitudes, personality and appearance)
3) physiological arousal
4) physical attractiveness (facial symmetry)
What is the reward model of liking?
We LIKE people that we associate with POSITIVE feelings and DISLIKE people we associate with NEGATIVE feelings
When do opposites attract?
More the EXCEPTION than the RULE
Ex. Highly masculine men are attracted to highly feminine women
Ex. High in dominance are attracted to high in submissive
What is gain-loss theory?
A compliment from someone who has CRITISIZED you in the past is more potent then a friend who ONLY has GOOD things to say about you
What can the physical attractiveness stereotype also be called?
The Halo Effect
The tendency to see attractive people as having positive traits
What is a evolutionary reason why men prefer a certain waist-hip ratio on women?
What is a evolutionary reason why men/women prefer a more symmetrical face?
Possible signs of good fertility
Possible signs of good health OR they seem familiar
What is the triangular model of love?
3 main components:
1) passion
2) intimacy
3) commitment
What is the social exchange model?
Economic perspective that assumes that people that approach relationships with SELF-INTEREST
Relationship has value when BOTH people perceive they have more to GAIN than lose in a relationship
What is equity theory?
People are motivated to maintain a sense of FAIRNESS or EQUITY
Where both partners feel that the rewards/outcomes to costs each receives is relatively EQUAL
What is assortative mating?
Tendency to seek relationships with others that are SIMILAR to them in some kind of social hierarchy
What are some ways relationships change over time?
1) self-disclosure- share info about selves
2) rose-coloured lenses- early on partner is idealized
3) adjusting to interdependence - conflict may arise
4) martial satisfaction? may decrease over time (8 years)
What does the interdependence theory state? (In terms of long term relationships)
What are the 3 factors?
3 factors that determine commitment satisfaction:
1) satisfaction level
2) quality of alternatives
3) investment
True or false. Securely attached people are more LIKELY to stay in a unsatisfying relationship
FALSE
They are more likely to leave
