Week 10 - Intimate Relationships

Question 1

The need to belong is “__________ and _______”

Answer 1

Satiable

Universal

Question 2

It is possible that you could have less immune strength if more lonely?

Answer 2

YES

According to a loneliness study

Question 3

What is a parasocial relationship?

Answer 3

WILSON from cast away

TV/literature characters can satiate the NEED to belong

Question 4

What is the robot revolution?

What is robot rejection?

Answer 4

Worldwide billions of dollars spent on robots

Will be fully INTEGRATED soon

Microsoft’s Tay bot went horribly wrong

Question 5

What are the big 5 personality traits?

Answer 5

1) openness
2) conscientiousness
3) extra version
4) agreeableness
5) neuroticism

Largely heredity

Biological basis

Question 6

Who’s “in” the relationship?

Answer 6

Personality (the big 5)

Interpersonal processes (attachment)

Question 7

What is forgiveness?

Answer 7

Letting go of a transgression

Can take TIME

Apology prompts forgiveness

Question 8

What is the “dark side” of forgiveness?

What is the “good side” of forgiveness?

Answer 8

DARK:

Low power people = forgiveness may involve SUBMISSION

GOOD:

Power promotes goal-directness

Question 9

Contingencies learned in “_________” persist into “__________”

Answer 9

Childhood

Adulthood

Question 10

Attachment theory developed by who?

Answer 10

Bowlby and Ainsworth

Question 11

What are the 3 attachment styles?

(From the video, about infants)

Answer 11

1) SECURE- caregivers respond quickly/reliably to distress

2) ANXIOUS- caregivers not consistently reliable

3) AVOIDANT- caregivers consistently unreliable

Question 12

Bowlby saw claimed these attachment styles from “___________ to _________”

Answer 12

Cradle to grave

Question 13

What are the 3 attachment styles in terms of adults?

Answer 13

SECURE: relatively easy to get close to people, comfortable on dependence, don’t worry about being abandoned

ANXIOUS: others are reluctant to get close, I worry my partner doesn’t really love me, sometimes scares people away

AVOIDANT: somewhat uncomfortable being close to others, hard to trust them, others often want to be more intimate than me

Question 14

What are the implications of attachment styles?

Answer 14

SECURE: longer-lasting relationships, more confidence/trust

ANXIOUS: often short-intense relationships, hyper vigilant, events see at threatening matter

AVOIDANT: less physically affectionate/intimate, shorter relationships, lack trust, emotionally distant

Question 15

True or false. Insecure attachment styles are always maladaptive

Answer 15

False

Learning that its safe to trust

Can be a problem when carried into new relationships

Question 16

What is interpersonal attraction?

Answer 16

Study of attraction or liking b/w 2 or more people

Question 17

What are the 4 person-factors that influence attraction?

Answer 17

1) proximity (opportunity for interactions, mere exposure effect)

2) similarity (attitudes, personality and appearance)

3) physiological arousal

4) physical attractiveness (facial symmetry)

Question 18

What is the reward model of liking?

Answer 18

We LIKE people that we associate with POSITIVE feelings and DISLIKE people we associate with NEGATIVE feelings

Question 19

When do opposites attract?

Answer 19

More the EXCEPTION than the RULE

Ex. Highly masculine men are attracted to highly feminine women
Ex. High in dominance are attracted to high in submissive

Question 20

What is gain-loss theory?

Answer 20

A compliment from someone who has CRITISIZED you in the past is more potent then a friend who ONLY has GOOD things to say about you

Question 21

What can the physical attractiveness stereotype also be called?

Answer 21

The Halo Effect

The tendency to see attractive people as having positive traits

Question 22

What is a evolutionary reason why men prefer a certain waist-hip ratio on women?

What is a evolutionary reason why men/women prefer a more symmetrical face?

Answer 22

Possible signs of good fertility

Possible signs of good health OR they seem familiar

Question 23

What is the triangular model of love?

Answer 23

3 main components:

1) passion
2) intimacy
3) commitment

Question 24

What is the social exchange model?

Answer 24

Economic perspective that assumes that people that approach relationships with SELF-INTEREST

Relationship has value when BOTH people perceive they have more to GAIN than lose in a relationship

Question 25

What is equity theory?

Answer 25

People are motivated to maintain a sense of FAIRNESS or EQUITY

Where both partners feel that the rewards/outcomes to costs each receives is relatively EQUAL

Question 26

What is assortative mating?

Answer 26

Tendency to seek relationships with others that are SIMILAR to them in some kind of social hierarchy

Question 27

What are some ways relationships change over time?

Answer 27

1) self-disclosure- share info about selves
2) rose-coloured lenses- early on partner is idealized
3) adjusting to interdependence - conflict may arise
4) martial satisfaction? may decrease over time (8 years)

Question 28

What does the interdependence theory state? (In terms of long term relationships)

What are the 3 factors?

Answer 28

3 factors that determine commitment satisfaction:

1) satisfaction level
2) quality of alternatives
3) investment

Question 29

True or false. Securely attached people are more LIKELY to stay in a unsatisfying relationship

Answer 29

FALSE

They are more likely to leave