The Manual Flashcards
What is a manual?
an instruction guide we have for someone in our lives about how we would like them to behave so we can feel good and be happy
why is it so damaging to have a manual stemming from a belief that you would be happier if someone in your life changed
it causes suffering because you’re handing over your power of how you feel to someone else
other people’s behavior has no impact on us emotionally until…
we think about it, interpret it, and choose to make it mean something
True or false - when you have a manual you feel that the other person would just inherently know
true; and you interpret it as a sign that you are really loved by them
who is responsible for meeting our needs?
we are responsible for meeting our own needs
where does all the power to feel happy lie?
within yourself
we always have a tendency to think that if the other person changes their behavior, we will feel…
better
other peoples’ behavior doesn’t control our feelings. Its’ our …. that controls our feelings
thinking
When we don’t take responsibility for how we feel, we give that power away to someone else based on …
their behavior
