Social Development In Early Adulthood And Love And Marraige

Question 1

Erikson’s theory in adolescence

Answer 1

When people start to hopefully find themselves and who they are supposed to be

Question 2

Erikson’s theory in early adulthood

Answer 2

◦ Early adulthood
◦ One or both of you should change. Not necessarily for the bad, but you both should be becoming more and developing.
• Intimacy
◦ Sometimes you may not find the right person for you until you find yourself and who you should be.
• Isolation
◦ You may be married and have a partner, but still feel alone. Either because you are not sharing your true self, or your partner is not sharing their true self.

Question 3

Erikson’s theory in middle adulthood

Answer 3

◦ Middle adulthood
• When people are more likely to have a mid life crisis, and this is especially the case, maybe even worse when you experience isolation in early adulthood

Question 4

Marriage trend in average age

Answer 4

• average age has been increasing
◦ In 2013 it was 27 for women and 29 for men
‣ Generally by now the brains are fully developed, and most people are fully there in themselves

Question 5

Fitting marriage trends with Erickson’s theory

Answer 5

◦ Ages of 28 and 32 have the lowest risk of divorce in the first 5 years

Question 6

Marriage trends in marriage equality

Answer 6

• Marriage equality
◦ We start to see more some sex couples, recently the data looks the same as the data for heterosexual marriages did
‣ In-laws, money, families are the largest stressors

Question 7

People who never marry

Answer 7

• never marrying
◦ Stigma decreasing (no longer spinsters at 23)
‣ The term spinsters referred to; what seemed to be healthy, when can have kids, but the biggest part was from a legal process to be declared a spinster was sometimes good legally. At this time women could not have their own bank account, line of credit, check book, their husbands needed to do this.
• Becoming a “spinster” allowed you that if you are a unmarried women and have no living male relatives you can; own your own property, do your own banking, etc.
• This term could also be demeaning
◦ Still there for some

Question 8

Deciding to marry - arranged marriages

Answer 8

• arranged marriages
◦ Throughout history most have been arranged, and not because of love. This theory in some ways of marrying out of love is still relatively new
◦ Sometimes the marriage is simply because of financial benefit. May be who a royal marries that will help the royal family the most.
‣ Arranged marriages are more likely to last

Question 9

Deciding to marry - romantic love marriages

Answer 9

• these have always been here just not as prominent as now◦ Always popular in stories and songs
  ‣ Was often what people wanted, but they often ended in arranged marriages
  ◦ Not common until after the Industrial Revolution
  ‣ It wasn’t until know that we started seeing widespread romantic marriages
  ◦ People with very high levels of romantic attitudes have low levels of marital satisfaction
  ‣ People with high levels of romanticism or love tend to be less happy

Question 10

What must the relationship be to last

Answer 10

= the relationship must be perceived as equal/balanced in order to last
- unhappiness comes form imbalanced relationships

Question 11

Mate poaching

Answer 11

• when someone tries to take a boyfriend or girlfriend from you
  
  • often because they think your significant other looks better and has a better personality that would be good for themself

Question 12

Predicting marriage patterns (mate selection) -> matching hypothesis

Answer 12

◦ Matching hypothesis -> more the economists that think this
‣ Attractiveness
• Typically in marriages the two people are very similar in level of attraction
‣ Mate poachers

Question 13

Predicting marriage patterns (mate selection) -> equity theory

Answer 13

◦ Equity theory -> moves into social and psychosocial psych
‣ Social psychological theory
‣ Equal rewards and costs
• That one may be good at something an the other person something else. The equality in the relationship, no not battling for the same things
‣ Wider view of assets

Question 14

Sternberg’s theory

Answer 14

• passion -> hot, lust
◦ Men a yes/no switch, women a dimmer
◦ Can you actually imagine being with that person in a good way
• Intimacy -> warm, liking
◦ Do you actually like them? Can you really share an trust that person?
◦ The you trust them, care about them, want to be with them
• Commitment -> cold, decision to stay together
◦ Have you both made the admission to stay together. have you publicly made the decision to stay together for life

Question 15

Sternberg’s theory -> the “love” patterns
- non-love

Answer 15

◦ Before you actually have any of the components, is the pretend love

Question 16

Sternberg’s theory -> the “love” patterns
Liking

Answer 16

◦ In an of itself, it is fantastic. Sometimes there is a confusion between liking and loving. Easier if you know your own identity. You start to have intimacy but that is it.

Question 17

Sternberg’s theory -> the “love” patterns
Infatuation

Answer 17

You often have passion but that is it

Question 18

Sternberg’s theory -> the “love” patterns
Empty love

Answer 18

◦ You start to have commitment but that is it.
‣ Her example is 90 day fiancé, where one may love them and the other may not just wanting to get married for something else.

Question 19

Sternberg’s thoery -> “love” patterns
Romantic love

Answer 19

◦ Where you like the person and are attracted to them. You have intimacy and passion. Sternberg’s would say to take some time here because it can take time, and things easily change.

Question 20

Sternberg’s thoery -> “love” patterns
Fatuous love

Answer 20

◦ You start to have passion and commitment, she thinks this is the worst. Where they have the passion but may not love each other so they just get committed and go out and get married.
◦ There is nothing to it other than convincing yourself that you are in love “because you have never felt that way for someone else”

Question 21

Sternberg’s thoery -> “love” patterns
- companionate love

Answer 21

◦ When you have intimacy and commitment. the relationships make sense on the surface, but neither one will eve find passion. Often people who have dated or known each other for a while then decide to get married for one reason or another

Question 22

Sternberg’s thoery -> “love” patterns
- companionate love

Answer 22

◦ When you have intimacy and commitment. the relationships make sense on the surface, but neither one will eve find passion. Often people who have dated or known each other for a while then decide to get married for one reason or another

Question 23

Sternberg’s theory -> “love” patterns
consummate love

Answer 23

◦ When you have all three parts of the theory; intimacy, passion, and commitment
‣ is super important, and should be looked for

Question 24

Marital satisfaction -> children

Answer 24

◦ Marital happiness is usually highest in the years before the birth of the first child
‣ In already bad relationships it will further decrease happiness
‣ In good relationships -> it will ALD to less relationship and more life happiness
‣ May lead to lack of sleep and financial concerns (big drains in life)
◦ There is a trend for fathers to be more involved in childcare
‣ Maternal “gatekeeping”
• Some moms making a big deal that fathers never help, or when they do help the father does it wrong. However, really the wife when he does do things the mother is constantly saying you are doing it wrong or not doing enough so the dad gives up

Question 25

Marital satisfaction -> sex

Answer 25

◦ Frequency tends to decline after the first year
◦ Married people have more sex than unmarried people
◦ Mutuality is key