Relationships: Self-disclosure Flashcards
What is self-disclosure
- Self disclosure involves revealing personal information about yourself.
- Romantic partners reveal more about their true selves as the relationship develops.
- These revelations strengthen the relationship if used appropriately.
What is social penetration theory (Altman and Taylor)
- involves reciprocal exchange of information between partners -> This leads to a deep understanding of each others lives.
-> There are two elements to this idea – breadth and depth. - Altman and Taylor use the onion metaphor (layers) to explain this.
What is the onion metaphor (social penetration theory)
- Low risk information is revealed early on in a relationship and high risk information comes out as the relationship progresses.
-> can be because high risk information can put the other party off and can be uncomfortable to know about.
What is reciprocity of self-disclosure (Reis and Shaver)
- tends to be a balance of self disclosure in successful romantic relationships.
- After disclosing information, you want your partner to respond in a rewarding way, with understanding and empathy.
- Increases intimacy and deepens the relationship.
List the factors influencing disclosure and attraction
- appropriateness of the disclosure
- attributions for the disclosure
- gender differences
- content for disclosure
what is appropriateness of disclosure
- Sometimes disclosing personal information is inappropriate in certain contexts, e.g. on a first date – suggests that the individual is lacking in social skills.
- More attractive people will be sensitive and aware of these norms.
explain attributions for the disclosure
- the reasons we believe a person is self-disclosing to us are important.
- Less attraction occurs if an individual is seen as the kind of person who discloses personal information to everyone.
- However, more attraction occurs if we believe an individual sees us as someone they especially want to disclose intimate info to.
Explain gender differences as a factor in self-disclosure
- Women generally are seen as better communicators of and more interested in intimate information, therefore intimate self-disclosures by males may be seen as less appropriate than those by females.
- Alternatively, self-disclosure by a male may be seen as very rewarding for a female.
-> Meanwhile, males may feel threatened by females self-disclosing intimate details to them.
How is content for disclosure a factor in disclosure and attraction
- Disclosure of highly intimate info may be seen as inappropriate and as violating social norms, especially if a relationship is in its early stages.
-> This could decrease attraction. - Attraction is strongest when self-disclosure is of moderate intimacy and weaker when too high or low.
List the evaluations for theories of self-disclosure
positive:
- support for social penetration theory
- real life application in communication
Negatives:
- individual differences
- too reductionist
(+) explain support for social penetration theory (Sprecher and Hendrick)
- Sprecher and Hendrick (2004) studied heterosexual dating couples and found strong positive correlations between relationship satisfaction and self-disclosure.
(+) explain support for social penetration theory (Laurenceau)
- Laurenceau
- Used method that involved writing daily diary entries.
- self-disclosure in a partner were linked to higher levels of intimacy in long-term married couples.
- The reverse was also true – less intimate couples self-disclosed less often.
- This supportive evidence increases the validity of the theory that self-disclosure leads to more satisfying relationships.
(+) explain how self-disclosure has real life applications in communication (Hass and Stafford)
- Research can help people who want to improve communication in their relationships.
- Hass and Stafford (1998) found that 57% of gay men and women said that open and honest self-disclosure was the main way they maintained their relationships.
-> This finding demonstrates the value of psychological insight.
(-) explain how theories of self-disclosure do not account for individual differences
- personality of recipients may be an important factor in whether self-disclosure increases the attractiveness of potential partners.
- Different individuals would have different needs for levels of intimacy in relationships and this would affect how attractive they would find intimate self-disclosures.
(-) Explain how theories of self-disclosure are too reductionist
- unlikely the attractiveness of a potential partner would be reliant purely on the level/type of self-disclosure that an individual makes.
- It is more likely that self-disclosure would interact with other considerations, such as level of physical attractiveness, similarity of interests/attitudes, for example.
- doesn’t account for other factors in attraction.