QUIZ 4 Flashcards
Lovers and spouses are far more likely than randomly paired people to share common ___, ___, and __
attitudes, beliefs, values
Being with someone who is similar validates our ___ and it is easier to ___
self-worth, communicate
Misperceptions linger throughout ____ and we think we have more in common than we actually do
passionate love
T or F: We know our partners pretty well by the honeymoons stage
F
There is a higher correlation between ___ similarity and ___ satisfaction than between ____ similarity and ___ satisfaction
perceived, martial, real, martial
In a study, it was found that ___ twins chose partners more similar to those of their co-twins than did ___ twins
DZ or MZ
MZ, DZ
Variation in partner choice for twins is 54% based on ____, 34% based on ____,12% based on ____
shared environment, genetics, unique environments
unique environments, genetics, shared environment
According to a study, mixed-race people tend to marry into ethnic groups of opposite-sex parents. Thus, if Sky is a Blasian individual whos dad is black and his mom is Filipino, Sky is more likely to have what ethnic wife?
filipino
Women fall in love with men of eye color more similar to their __ than their ___
fathers, mothers
T or F: Barry and Barbara will most likely pair off but not by chance
T
Resemblance between men’s wives and their mothers is greater when the relationship with the mother was ___
good
T or F: Opposites Attract
F- they do not attract, research supports similarity
T or F: The more similar you are to your partner, the more stable, the more committed and the more satisfied you tend to be with you partner over time
T
____: when something about a new partner that is appealing and attractive gradually becomes one of the most obnoxious, irritating things about that partner.
fatal attraction
Sasha found Mayas smoking attractive at first because she never dated someone rebellious before. However, over time, Sasha realized she does not want to date a smoker and now finds her smoking so irritating. Sasha experienced ___
fatal attraction
____ is when a lover essentially rounds out your psychological needs & fills whatever gaps you might have. i.e you benefit from the difference
Opposites or Complementarity
complementarity
___ is when you want someone who is very similar to you on the dimensions that matter
prioritized similarity
People tend to have spouses that are similar to them in attending ___ and ____
Church, political orientation
People experience fewer breaks ups when they met ____, met ____ and ____
work, dating websites, social gatherings, grew up together, blind date, met at school
on dating websites, met at school, and grew up together
____ rule provides evidence for individuals’ tendency to be drawn into relationships with a particular type of person
at some point its you
The correlation in personality between individuals’ current lover and their past several lovers was a ___ correlation than between the subject and the love for themselves. So the past people they dated, were more similar to each other than they were to their own current partner
higher
According to the _____ theory, partners evaluate their relationship by weighing the rewards and costs
social exchange
Having ____ will increase your sense of reward and relationship
things in common
Partners evaluate their relationship by weighing the ___ and ___, along with barriers to ___ in the relationship and their available alternatives
rewards, costs, leaving
Having kids with someone, splitting a mortgage, and insurance plans are all ____
barriers to leaving
_____ are other people and being single
Available alternatives
T or F: Divorced individuals life satisfaction increases after divorce but never returns to original levels which demonstrates that people adapt but do not full recover from this experience
T
Outcome= ___-___
rewards, costs
Interdependence theory suggests that we evaluate the outcomes we receive with two criteria in mind ____ (CL) and _____ (CLALT)
comparison level, comparison level for alternatives
___ is what expect from our relationships based on your past experiences and also ways in which you have grown overtime yourself
CL or CLALT
comparison level
___ is how well we think we can do with alternative options
CL or CLALT
comparison level for alternative (CLALT)
____ is thus the standard with which satisfaction with a relationship is assessed.
comparison level
Our ___ is the lowest level of outcomes we will accept from our current partners
CL or CLALT
CLALT
The primary contributing factor to ___ is going to be your experiences and relationships with the second factor being how things in your own life might change in significant ways to influence your own sense of what you deserve
CLALT
Even if we’re currently miserable, we won’t leave unless a ____ presents itself
better alternative
T or F: Our CLs are based on our past experiences and they fluctuate along with the outcomes we receive
T
With the rise of ____, having more options, this might ___ our fidelity with the particular person that we are currently with
dating apps, decrease
Excellent outcomes delight us at first, but if we come to take them for granted our ___ will rise and gradually become less satisfying
Comparison level
If people’s outcome is better than what they expect, they are ___ with their relationship
satisfied
If people’s outcome is better than what they think they could get elsewhere (CL alt their comparison level for alternatives), they are ____ on their relationship
dependent
_____ is the idea that people’s commitment to a relationship depends not only on their satisfaction with the relationship in terms of rewards, costs, CL & CL alt but also on how much they have invested in the relationship that would be lost by leaving it.
sunken costs
The weight of the ____ tends to decrease the perceived attractiveness of any alternatives you might come across over time
sunken cost
There are four types of relationships. One of them is when outcomes exceed both CL and CLalt it is a(an) ____ and ___ relationship.
happy, stable
There are four types of relationships. One of them is when outcomes exceed CLalt but fall below CL, it is a(an) ___ but ___ relationship
unhappy, stable
Regina grew up in WEHO and ends up going to college in Wyoming. Regina might end up with the hottest guy possible but it is going to be less than what she expects. Not as good as what she experienced in WEHO. So what type of relationship may she experience:
a. outcomes exceed both the comparison level and comparison level for an alternative. happy and stable relationship
b. outcomes exceed comparison level alternative but fall below comparison level, so its an unhappy but stable relationship
c. outcomes exceed comparison level but fall below comparison level alternative it is a happy but unstable relationship
d. outcomes fall below both comparison level and comparison level alternative so it is an unhappy and unstable relationship
b
There are four types of relationships. One of them is when outcomes exceed the comparison level but fall below the comparison level alternative. It is a __ but ___ relationship
happy, unstable
If you start dating the first person that showed you interest and in a month or so you may have met some more people. You are thinking maybe I can talk to person x, y,z. So what type of relationship may you experience:
a. outcomes exceed both the comparison level and comparison level for an alternative. happy and stable relationship
b. outcomes exceed comparison level alternative but fall below comparison level, so its an unhappy but stable relationship
c. outcomes exceed comparison level but fall below comparison level alternative it is a happy but unstable relationship
d. outcomes fall below both comparison level and comparison level alternative so it is an unhappy and unstable relationship
c
When outcomes fall below both the comparison level and the comparison level alternative it is an ____ and ____ relationship
unhappy, unstable
Which of the following types of relationships are unlikely to last and last?
a. outcomes exceed both the comparison level and comparison level for an alternative
b. outcomes exceed comparison level alternative but fall below comparison level
c. outcomes exceed comparison level but fall below comparison level alternative
d. outcomes fall below both comparison level and comparison level
unlikely: d
likely: A
T or F: being satisfied in a relationship is not the same as being committed to it
T
partners can have both ____ and ____
satisfaction, dependence
___ is the intention to continue a relationship
commitment
Alternatives of high quality ____ commitment, investments in a relationship _____ commitment
decrease, increase
___ people are willing to make sacrifices for their partner
committed
Some theorists assert that there are three types of commitment. One of the commitments is ____ which occurs when people want to continue a relationship because it is satisfying.
moral commitment, constraint commitment, and personal commitment
personal commitment
Some theorists assert that there are three types of commitment. One of the commitments is ____ which occurs when people feel they have to continue a relationship because it would cost too much to leave
moral commitment, constraint commitment and personal commitment
constraint commitment
Some theorists assert that there are three types of commitment. One of the commitments is ____ which occurs when people feel like they ought to continue a relationship because it would be wrong to break their vows
moral commitment, constraint commitment, and personal commitment
moral commitment
If an individual feels like they have to stay committed to their relationship because their family will lose face if they leave it, then they are ____ committed
moral commitment, constraint commitment, and personal commitment
morally
A sense of commitment leads partners to take action to protect and maintain their relationship. One of the ways they do this is through _____ which is temporarily tolerating provocation from one’s partner without fighting back
Willingness to sacrifice, Perceived superiority, Accommodative behavior
accommodative behavior
A sense of commitment leads partners to take action to protect and maintain their relationship. One of the ways they do this is through _____ which is putting the well-being of the relationship ahead of one’s own self-interest (there’s a limit)
Willingness to sacrifice, Perceived superiority, Accommodative behavior
Willingness to sacrifice
A sense of commitment leads partners to take action to protect and maintain their relationship. One of the ways they do this is through _____ which is considering one relationship to be better than those of other people
Willingness to sacrifice, Perceived superiority, Accommodative behavior
Perceived superiority
Which of the following consequences of commitment are one people feel early, in the passionate love stage and the honeymoon stage
Willingness to sacrifice, Perceived superiority, Accommodative behavior
Perceived superiority
When they begin, relationships that will soon fail ____ differ from those that will succeed in the number of attractive rewards they provide.
do not
Even in relationships that will succeed, costs typically ___ as the partners spend more time together.
rise
As long as rewards are still ___ then you are going to be more or less satisfied
greater
T or F: People may stop working as hard as they once did to be consistently charming
T
Conflict is more consequential, and annoyances more aggravating, because of the close and frequent contact that comes with ____
intimacy
There are two types of relationships: exchange and communal relationships. In ____ relationships, people do favors for each other without expecting explicit repayment
communal
You have an expectation for a best friend if you help them out with something, you already feel like they are going to be there for you as well one day. So is this a communal or exchange relationship?
communal
There are two types of relationships: exchange and communal relationships. In ____ relationships, people expect immediate repayment for benefits given.
exchange
Something common in heterosexual dating is the male might pick up the female for the day, he will even pay for the date, and he will think that she will repay him in a different kind of currency: like hooking up. So she might say I will pay you back tomorrow to get rid of any perception he has that things are going to happen. So is this a communal or exchange relationship?
exchange
Partners are more content when favors are repaid immediately, and they keep track of each other’s contributions to the relationship as though they were romantic auditors. Is this a communal or exchange relationship
exchange
The equitable theory basically postulates that when equity exists, a relationship is __
fair
One partner is receiving too much. They are getting a lot of rewards, incurring few costs, and having to devote little time or energy to the relationship. This partner is over or under-benefitting?
over benefitting
the other partner is receiving too little (getting few rewards, incurring a lot of costs, and having to devote a lot of time and energy to the relationship This partner is over or under-benefitting?
under benefitting
Regina George is with chad. She is highly ____ from the relationship because basically, chad has to walk on eggshells. He is doing everything in his power to keep Regina interested because Regina is like a 9/10 and chad has a good personality. While Chad is _____ from the relationship because he is going to feel like she is not giving the same effort that he is. Puts up with it bc feels like this is the best he is going to do.
over benefitting, underbenefitting
The partner who is ____ might start feeling guilty or uncomfortable
overbenefitting
