Phase 3 - Infatuation

Question 1

What is the main focus during Phase 3—Infatuation in building attraction?

Answer 1

The main focus is on building desire and creating lasting attraction through more direct and sexual interactions, both verbally and nonverbally.

Question 2

What indicates that you are in Phase 3—Infatuation with a woman?

Answer 2

It is clear that both of you want each other, and there’s a mutual attraction. The interactions become more intense, with less small talk and more direct action.

Question 3

How do interactions change in Phase 3 compared to earlier phases?

Answer 3

In Phase 3, interactions become more directly sexual and intense. There’s a shift from casual conversation to more intimate and action-oriented behavior.

Question 4

What is crucial for building lasting attraction in Phase 3?

Answer 4

It’s crucial to solidify your position in her mind as a desirable man who knows what he wants and how to fulfill her needs physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Question 5

How do you ensure that she sees you as more than just “some guy” in Phase 3?

Answer 5

By creating a magnetic pull through confident and direct interactions, making sure she sees you as someone unique and desirable.

Question 6

What role does nonverbal communication play in Phase 3?

Answer 6

Nonverbal communication becomes more significant, involving closer physical proximity, more intense eye contact, and subtle touches that convey desire.

Question 7

How should verbal communication evolve in Phase 3?

Answer 7

Verbal communication should become more flirtatious and suggestive, moving away from casual topics to discussions that build sexual tension.

Question 8

How do you maintain and escalate the “heat” between you in Phase 3?

Answer 8

By continuing to engage in behaviors that increase intimacy and attraction, such as flirting, light teasing, and expressing clear interest and desire.

Question 9

What creates the magnetic pull between you in Phase 3?

Answer 9

The combination of direct sexual communication, confident behavior, and showing a deep understanding of her desires creates a strong, magnetic pull.

Question 10

How do you allow her to become “intoxicated” by you in Phase 3?

Answer 10

By consistently demonstrating confidence, desire, and the ability to meet her needs, making her see you as irresistible and more than just an ordinary guy.

Question 11

What is the main focus of Phase 3, Goal A in building attraction?

Answer 11

The main focus is to display strong, direct sexual intent while maintaining a balance between intense and lighter interactions. This phase is about being clear with your desires and leading the interaction towards intimacy.

Question 12

How should the Boomeranging technique be used in Phase 3?

Answer 12

In Phase 3, when focused on her, your attention should be strong and direct. When you Boomerang off, you should frequently bounce back to behaviors from Phases 1 and 2 to keep the interaction dynamic and engaging.

Question 13

What are some ways to express sexual directness in Phase 3?

Answer 13

1. Compliments: Tell her exactly what you find sexy about her.
2. Desires: Express what you want to do to her, adjusting the intensity based on her response.
3. Effect on You: Tell her how she’s driving you crazy.
4. Body Language: Use close proximity, a low voice, and more touching around her sexiest areas.

Question 14

How should you verbally communicate your desires in Phase 3?

Answer 14

Clearly and confidently, but gage her response to ensure she’s comfortable. Mix direct statements with indirect suggestions to build anticipation.

Question 15

How should you escalate physical interactions in Phase 3?

Answer 15

Increase touching, especially around her sexiest areas, using light grazing and squeezing. Stay close, speak in a low, sultry voice, and use touches to build desire and anticipation.

Question 16

When is it ideal to initiate a kiss in Phase 3?

Answer 16

Initiating a kiss is ideal at the end of Phase 2 or the beginning of Phase 3. Touch her hair gently and move in confidently to make the kiss happen.

Question 17

Why is it important to get her alone with you in Phase 3?

Answer 17

Being alone allows you to escalate the interaction on “Your Turf and Terms” (TNT), showcasing your confidence and creating an intimate setting that amplifies attraction.

Question 18

What does “Your Turf and Terms” (TNT) mean in Phase 3?

Answer 18

“Your Turf and Terms” means you decide when and where to take the interaction, leading her confidently into an exciting and unfamiliar setting that enhances her experience with you.

Question 19

How do you demonstrate confidence in Phase 3 when getting her alone?

Answer 19

By making decisions about where to go and what to do, guiding her into your chosen environment and creating a sense of adventure and excitement.

Question 20

How should you respond if she suggests going somewhere in Phase 3?

Answer 20

Agree but take charge by adding your twist, like choosing a specific location outside. This maintains the lead and amplifies her attraction by showcasing your decisiveness.

Question 21

What should you continue to do after moving to a new location in Phase 3?

Answer 21

Keep using the Boomeranging technique, mixing intense focus with lighter interactions to keep the dynamic engaging and exciting.

Question 22

Why is maintaining her trust and comfort crucial in Phase 3?

Answer 22

It’s crucial because if she senses any uncertainty or hesitation from you, she might second-guess her decision to continue. She needs to feel your absolute certainty and confidence to remain on the exciting journey with you.

Question 23

What are some common reservations women might have about escalating sexually in Phase 3?

Answer 23

Women often worry about being taken advantage of, regretting their actions, or being judged. They need to feel reassured that they are in safe hands and that their boundaries will be respected.

Question 24

How do men and women typically think differently in Phase 3?

Answer 24

Men often think in the present moment (“I want to sleep with her”), while women think ahead (“What will happen if I sleep with him?”). This means women are considering potential consequences and emotional impacts.

Question 25

Why is it important not to rush into physical intimacy once you’re alone with her?

Answer 25

Rushing can make her feel unsafe or pressured. It’s important to show restraint, make her feel relaxed and safe, and continue building trust and desire gradually.

Question 26

What are some key behaviors to exhibit after getting her alone to build trust?

Answer 26

1. Offer her a drink to make her comfortable.
2. Create a calm environment, like suggesting she take a seat.
3. Show restraint by not jumping into physical intimacy immediately.
   4.Demonstrate confidence and calmness.

Question 27

What are the six key thoughts and feelings a woman needs to have to trust and feel comfortable escalating sexually?

Answer 27

1. He can turn me on physically and mentally.
2. He’s non-judgmental about my likes and dislikes.
3. He’s masculine and knows how to take action.
4. He respects my signals and won’t make me feel used.
5. He’s interested in pleasing me, not just seeing me as a conquest.
6. He finds me special and different from other girls.

Question 28

How do you balance Active and Passive Forces to ease her reservations?

Answer 28

Use Active Forces to show your desire and assertiveness (e.g., taking the lead, expressing sexual interest). Use Passive Forces to show understanding and respect (e.g., respecting her boundaries, not judging her).

Question 29

How can demonstrating restraint help build trust in Phase 3?

Answer 29

Demonstrating restraint shows that you respect her pace and comfort level, making her feel safe and valued. It also balances the intensity of your advances, making them more welcome and exciting.

Question 30

What connection tools from Phases 1 and 2 can be used to maintain trust in Phase 3?

Answer 30

Use meaningful conversation and light, non-intimate interactions to maintain a connection and show you value her beyond physical attraction.

Question 31

According to Robert Greene’s “The Art of Seduction,” how can you stimulate her curiosity?

Answer 31

By keeping the interaction unpredictable and exciting, using the Boomerang and Surprise Techniques to make her feel intrigued and eager to see what happens next.

Question 32

How can you lead the interaction without making her feel pressured?

Answer 32

Guide the interaction with confidence, suggest fun or interesting things to do, and ensure she always feels she can opt out or slow down if she chooses.

Question 33

How do you keep the attraction from cooling off in Phase 3?

Answer 33

Continue being confident in your actions and words, ensuring you maintain the intensity and excitement. Avoid hesitation and keep building on the sexual energy you’ve already created.

Question 33

Why is it important to make her feel special and different from other girls in Phase 3?

Answer 33

Making her feel special helps build an emotional connection and reassures her that you see her as unique and valued, not just another conquest.

Question 34

How should you handle your advances and her potential rejection in Phase 3?

Answer 34

Make confident and bold advances without hesitation. If she rejects you, understand it was still the right move. Back off momentarily, balance with Passive Forces, and try again later.

Question 35

What should you do if you sense she’s closing off?

Answer 35

Pull back immediately to show respect for her boundaries. This reassures her of your understanding and can actually speed up the process as it makes her feel safe and valued.

Question 36

Why are bold moves important in Phase 3?

Answer 36

Bold moves create excitement and leave a lasting impression. Women find them thrilling and they help in creating a powerful emotional connection. Playing it safe can lead to stagnation, while risks generate stronger responses.

Question 37

How does taking risks act as an aphrodisiac?

Answer 37

Women are attracted to men who take confident, bold actions. It demonstrates courage and decisiveness, which are highly appealing traits and create a magnetic pull.

Question 38

What is a common mistake men make in Phase 3?

Answer 38

Many men are overly cautious, too nice, or hesitant to make bold moves or discuss sexual topics. This lack of assertiveness can be unattractive as women are often looking for confident, risk-taking behavior.

Question 39

What messages should you communicate to her in Phase 3 to keep the attraction alive?

Answer 39

Show her that you’re there for non-judgmental fun and that you find her unique and special. This helps in relieving her anxieties and encourages her to express her desires more freely.

Question 40

What key lesson can be learned from Marni’s personal story about feeling comfortable?

Answer 40

It illustrates the importance of respecting her comfort level. By offering her the choice to stop if uncomfortable, you can make her feel safe and more willing to continue. It shows you’re not desperate and value her boundaries.

Question 41

How can switching power roles enhance the attraction in Phase 3?

Answer 41

By showing that you are overwhelmed by her sexiness and that it’s hard to control yourself around her, you compliment her and add an element of surprise. This dynamic can make interactions more playful and engaging.

Question 42

Why are compliments particularly effective in Phase 3?

Answer 42

Compliments make her feel attractive and valued, reinforcing the unique connection you’ve established. They boost her confidence and desire to engage with you more deeply.

Question 43

How does unpredictability contribute to building desire?

Answer 43

Keeping interactions unpredictable and full of surprises maintains her curiosity and excitement. This sense of adventure enhances her attraction and keeps her eagerly anticipating your next move.

Question 44

What are the final steps to take before moving towards physical intimacy in Phase 3?

Answer 44

Ensure she feels safe, valued, and in control. Continue to balance your advances with moments of connection and respect. Confirm that she knows you are drawn to her because of her unique qualities.

Question 45

How does a woman steer the interaction away from the sexual realm if she’s not interested?

Answer 45

She may turn flirtatious or sexual comments into nonsexual ones, break eye contact, shift her body position, or look for excuses to leave the conversation. This subtle redirection signals her disinterest.

Question 46

What should you avoid doing if she subtly counters your sexual advances?

Answer 46

Avoid pushing harder or becoming more direct. Recognize her cues as a polite rejection and adjust your approach by stepping back or shifting the conversation to a less intense phase.

Question 47

What are some signs that she’s positively responding to your advances?

Answer 47

Positive signs include using emotive language, maintaining intense eye contact, smiling, and engaging in a way that builds on the sexual or flirtatious topic.

Question 48

How can you differentiate between a positive and a negative response based on her language?

Answer 48

A positive response might involve words like “love” and “feel,” while a negative response will steer away from emotional or intimate language, focusing instead on factual or neutral terms.

Question 49

How can body language indicate her level of interest in continuing a sexual interaction?

Answer 49

Open body language, leaning in, and maintaining eye contact are positive signs. Conversely, turning away, crossing arms, or fidgeting may indicate discomfort or disinterest.

Question 50

What role does eye contact play in understanding her cues?

Answer 50

Consistent and intense eye contact suggests she’s engaged and interested, while breaking eye contact may indicate a desire to disengage or change the subject.

Question 51

How can her responses to your suggestions about intimacy signal her level of interest?

Answer 51

If she responds warmly and builds on your suggestion, she’s likely interested. If she changes the topic or responds in a less engaged manner, she may be signaling disinterest.

Question 52

How should you adjust your strategy if she pulls back from your Phase 3 advances?

Answer 52

Bounce back to Phases 1 or 2, recalibrating to a less intense interaction. This allows her to feel more comfortable and open up to re-engaging at a later stage.

Question 53

What does it mean to recalibrate in the context of Phase 3?

Answer 53

Recalibration involves adjusting your approach based on her cues. If she’s pulling back, step down the intensity. If she’s engaging positively, you can maintain or increase the heat

Question 54

When should you consider stepping back or disengaging completely?

Answer 54

If she consistently counters your advances, shows clear signs of discomfort, or indicates disinterest through her words or body language, it’s best to step back or disengage to respect her boundaries.

Question 55

Provide an example of how she might steer a conversation away from a sexual context.

Answer 55

If you ask if she likes wine and she’s interested, she might say, “I LOVE wine, it makes me feel so relaxed.” If she’s not interested, she might say, “I like wine. If you’re looking for a good cabernet, I could give you some recommendations.”

Question 56

How should you view the process of decoding her cues in Phase 3?

Answer 56

See it as an ongoing interaction where bouncing between phases helps maintain balance. Pay attention to her responses and be prepared to adjust your approach to keep the engagement positive and respectful.

Question 57

List the essential qualities that made the night incredible for her.

Answer 57

• Knows how to turn her on physically and mentally.
• Interested in pleasing her without viewing her as a conquest.
• Not a pal: appreciates her but maintains a confident stance.
• Not a perv: respects her and doesn’t make her feel used.
• Non-judgmental: doesn’t think she’s a prude or a slut.
• What can be learned from the guy who nailed Phase 3?Attracted to her uniqueness.

Question 58

What can be learned from the guy who nailed Phase 3?

Answer 58

The importance of picking up on cues, building desire with confident but controlled advances, balancing heat with playfulness, and maintaining a genuine interest in her as a person.