Chapter 2 - Mistakes Men Make When Flirting Flashcards
What is the key to avoiding being a Pal or a Perv when flirting?
Balancing active forces (focused initiative, showing intent, confidence) and passive forces (acceptance of the environment, objective judgment) is crucial. Finding this balance, known as the Goldilocks Zone, leads to successful flirting escalation.
What are the two extremes most guys fall into when flirting?
The two extremes are The “PAL” The guy who never takes any risks, overanalyzes, doesn’t initiate anything, and is afraid he’ll scare the woman off if he conveys
interest or says something sexual. He ends up in the friend zone and the “PERV” The guy who takes TOO much uncalibrated action, doesn’t judge the situation around him, and is too aggressive. He ends up being labeled a creep.
What are some common mistakes men make when flirting?
*Not showing intent or taking initiative (Pal behavior).
*Failing to smoothly transition from casual conversation to flirtation.
*Over-relying on banter without deepening the connection.
*Not owning one’s identity, leading to bland or nervous behavior.
*Putting the woman on a pedestal and neglecting one’s own needs.
*Coming on too strong or being overly aggressive (Perv behavior).
*Ignoring how she responds to interactions.
*Exhibiting creepy behavior due to inconsistency and lack of awareness.
How do women perceive behavior that comes across as creepy?
Women perceive behavior as creepy when men fail to notice their responses and create a boundary or disconnect. This inconsistency and lack of awareness can make interactions feel uncomfortable and unsettling for women.
