Phase 2 - Escalation Flashcards
What are the three areas you escalate in Phase 2?
1.Sexual subtext and sexual directness
2. Banter, teasing, and challenging
3. Physical contact
How should you communicate your intent in Phase 2 without being too forward?
- Communicate that you find her attractive and could see things progressing but are not pushing for immediate action.
- Use phrases that imply interest without suggesting immediate sexual advances, such as “I would love to take you home, but I’m not trying to… yet.”
How do you introduce sexual directness in Phase 2?
- Admit or confess that you find her sexy, but only once.
- Tell her specifically what you find sexy about her.
- Discuss a sexual topic generally, keeping the focus on the subject rather than her directly.
How should you discuss sexual topics in Phase 2 without being too aggressive?
- Use playful and vague statements like “I’ll bet you have a wild side” instead of direct questions about her sexual behavior.
- Discuss broader sexual subjects such as “Have you ever thought about trying tantric sex?” instead of personal questions.
What is the balance you should maintain when making sexual comments in Phase 2?
- Make a single direct comment about her sexiness to acknowledge your attraction.
- Focus on sexual topics in a general sense rather than making repeated direct comments about her.
How can you communicate sexual subtext without using explicit sexual language?
- Use a technique called “The Weatherman” where the content of your words is non-sexual, but the delivery and tone imply a sexual undercurrent.
- Maintain eye contact, use a lower voice tone, and employ subtle physical cues to convey interest.
Why should you avoid super direct questions about her sexual behavior?
- Direct questions like “Do you sleep with guys on the first date?” can make her feel uncomfortable or judged.
- Instead, use playful, vague, and non-pigeonholing statements to create intrigue and maintain comfort.
How does showing restraint in sexual conversations benefit your interaction in Phase 2?
- It shows that you respect her and are not solely focused on sex, which can make her more attracted to you.
- Demonstrating restraint can increase her interest and anticipation, making the interaction more exciting.
What should you do if she’s positively responding to your Phase 2 escalation?
- Continue to escalate slightly in each of the three areas (sexual subtext, banter, physical contact) while maintaining respect for her comfort level.
- Look for cues that she’s ready to move towards a more romantic or sexual engagement.
What are the key indicators that a woman is positively responding to Phase 2 escalation?
- She engages more deeply in sexual conversations.
- She reciprocates or initiates playful banter and teasing.
- She allows or increases physical contact, showing comfort and interest.
What does B.T.C. stand for in the context of Phase 2?
B.T.C. stands for Banter, Teasing, and Challenging. These are techniques used to escalate sexual topics in a playful and non-serious manner.
Provide examples of using B.T.C. to escalate sexual topics.
- “I think you have a naughty side hiding.”
- “You look good enough to eat.”
- “I feel like you’re going to corrupt me with that look.”
- “You’re one of those girls my mom warned me about, aren’t you?”
How should you deliver B.T.C. statements to ensure they are effective and well-received?
Deliver B.T.C. statements with a playful, joking tone and a smirk. The delivery should be light-hearted, ensuring that she is laughing and enjoying the interaction.
Why is playfulness crucial when using B.T.C. in Phase 2?
Playfulness ensures that the sexual comments are perceived as fun and non-threatening. It helps maintain a relaxed and engaging atmosphere, reducing the risk of making her uncomfortable.
How should you escalate physical touch in Phase 2?
Escalate touch by lightly grazing her more intimate areas, such as her hips, the side of her butt, chest, and legs. This should be done briefly and subtly to build anticipation without making her uncomfortable.
What does “skirting” mean in the context of escalating touch?
“Skirting” involves lightly grazing or brushing over intimate areas without directly touching them. This subtle approach heightens the sexual tension without crossing boundaries too soon.
What are the guidelines for effective skirting?
- Keep the touch brief and light to avoid making her feel trapped or uncomfortable.
- Pick moments to linger slightly but avoid prolonged contact.
- Focus on maintaining a playful and respectful touch.
What should you avoid to ensure you don’t over-escalate physical contact in Phase 2?
Avoid holding her in long hugs or spending too much time stroking her knee or any other area. Prolonged or intense contact can make her uncomfortable and cause her to pull back.
Why is patience important when escalating touch in Phase 2?
Patience allows you to build sexual tension gradually. It ensures that you respect her boundaries and keeps her intrigued and interested without feeling pressured.
How can you use B.T.C. to gauge her interest and comfort level?
Pay attention to her reactions to B.T.C. If she laughs and engages with the playful comments, she is comfortable and interested. If she seems uncomfortable or does not respond positively, you may need to dial back the intensity.
What is “The Triangle” technique in Phase 2?
“The Triangle” technique involves making eye contact with a woman and moving your gaze in a triangle pattern: from her left eye, to her right eye, down to her lips, and back up to both eyes, all while smirking slightly. This builds sexual tension and anticipation.
What are the steps to perform “The Triangle” technique?
- Lean in slightly and make eye contact.
- Smirk as you look at her left eye.
- Shift your gaze to her right eye.
- Look down at her lips.
- Return your gaze to both eyes and smirk again.
What message does “The Triangle” technique convey to a woman?
“The Triangle” technique communicates that you find her desirable and are containing your urge to act on it, which creates a teasing dynamic and builds sexual tension.
How does “The Triangle” technique affect a woman’s feelings towards you?
It can create excitement and anticipation, making her feel that there is a strong but controlled attraction between you, enhancing her curiosity and desire.
Why is getting alone time important in Phase 2?
Alone time allows for more intimate and focused interactions, helping to deepen the connection and gauge her true interest in continuing the relationship.
What are some methods to get alone time with her in Phase 2?
- Move to another part of the room.
- Change locations to a different room or space.
- Suggest going outside for fresh air.
- Relocate to another party, bar, or venue.
How can you gauge her interest based on her reaction to alone time suggestions?
If she agrees and shows excitement, it indicates strong attraction and curiosity. If she hesitates or agrees politely, she might still be undecided but open to exploring further.
How should you combine teasing, touching, and conversation in Phase 2?
Alternate between teasing and more serious topics, use the boomerang method to mix escalating touch with non-touching moments, and balance sexual and non-sexual conversation to maintain intrigue.
When should you use “The Triangle” technique and suggest moving to a new location?
Use “The Triangle” technique when the interaction feels comfortable and playful to deepen sexual tension. Suggest moving to a new location once you’ve established initial comfort and rapport to enhance intimacy.
Use “The Triangle” technique when the interaction feels comfortable and playful to deepen sexual tension. Suggest moving to a new location once you’ve established initial comfort and rapport to enhance intimacy.
Signs include her positive response to your touching, interest in deeper conversations, and eagerness to spend more time alone with you, indicating readiness for further escalation.
Why is building trust crucial in Phase 2?
Building trust is crucial because it reassures her that she is in good hands as the relationship becomes more sexual and intimate. It helps balance between being too timid and too aggressive, ensuring she feels comfortable and secure.
How should you balance verbal and touch escalation in Phase 2?
Balance verbal and touch escalation by also deepening the emotional connection. This involves sharing more about yourself, learning about her, and finding common interests, interwoven with playful banter and teasing.
What is the role of emotional connection in Phase 2?
The role of emotional connection is to complement the playful and sexual escalation with deeper, more personal conversations. This shows that you have depth and are interested in more than just physical attraction.
What are “But Seriously Though” moments?
“But Seriously Though” moments are transitions from playful banter to deeper, more serious topics that help build emotional connections and show your depth. They are essential for balancing the playful and serious sides of the interaction.
How do you use the phrase “But seriously though” in conversations?
Use the phrase to transition from playful teasing to more serious topics. For example, after teasing each other about movies, you could say, “But seriously though, what IS your favorite movie of all time?”