Module 5: Love and Sexuality Flashcards

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what are the 3 elements of Robert Sternberg’s triangle of love

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  • intimacy
  • passion
  • commitment
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2
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define intimacy

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  • emotional connectedness
  • not sex
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3
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define passion

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romantic feelings and physical sexual desire

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4
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define commitmentt

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desire to maintain the relationship

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5
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how many types of love are in Sternberg’s triangle of love

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6
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describe infatuation love

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  • passion only
  • lust
  • heart rules head
  • can become obsessed with “loved” one
  • rejects advice from friends and family
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7
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describe liking love

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  • intimacy only
  • desire to be connected to another person but not long term
  • sex would ruin the friendship
  • can grow to full love relationship (consummate love) and often is the start of strong marriage
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8
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describe empty love

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  • commitment only
  • fallen out of love but stay together for children, finances, habit, etc.
  • often one or both have affairs (physical or emotional)
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9
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describe romantic love

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  • passion and intimacy
  • they are the one for you, for now
  • often different lifetime plans/goals and/or different values
  • personalities are often too much alike
  • high school or college relationships
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10
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describe companionate love

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  • intimacy and commitment
  • live together but no sex
  • best friends
  • may be result of dysfunction (emotional or physical) or perceived dysfunction
  • sometimes not a mutual decision
  • may start as consummate love but lose passion
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describe fatuous love

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  • passion and commitment
  • lose ability to communicate emotions
  • big life changes can cause consummate love to become fatuous (kids, etc.)
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12
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describe non-love

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no passion, intimacy, or commitment

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13
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describe consummate love

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intimacy, passion, and commitment

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14
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list expressions of intimacy

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  • communicating feelings through deep conversations and being vulnerable
  • sharing one’s possessions
  • sharing oneself
  • sharing one’s time
  • offering emotional support
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15
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list expressions of passion

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  • kissing
  • hugging
  • touching
  • having sex
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16
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list expressions of commitment

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  • fidelity (physical and emotional)
  • staying with the relationship through hard times
  • getting engaged
  • getting married
17
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who is more likely to be upset by an emotional affair

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women

18
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who is more likely to be upset by a physical affair

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men

19
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list similarities between sex and love

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  • represents intense emotions
  • involves physiological changes
  • has a cognitive component
  • is expressed in various ways
  • need increases with deprivation
20
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describe physiological changes of love

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  • happy hormones like dopamine are released
  • blushing
21
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describe physiological changes of sex

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  • increased heart rate and respiration rate
  • erection, elongation of vaginal canal
22
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what is the cognitive component of sex

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  • consent
  • was it enjoyable
23
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how is love different from sex

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  • love is crucial to human happiness
  • love is pervasive (in many different areas of life)
  • love is more selective
24
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how is sex different from love

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  • the value of sex does not supersede love
  • sexual feelings are localized (erogenous zones)
  • sex is less selective
25
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what are cultural factors for selecting a mate

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  • endogamy
  • exogamy
26
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describe endogamy

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cultural expectation that one will find a mate within own social class, race, religion, age group

27
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describe exogamy

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expectation that one will marry outside own family group (no incest)

28
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what is the sociological theory for selecting a mate

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homogamy

29
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describe homogamy

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  • we become attracted to one who has characteristics similar to ourselves (race, age, religion, IQ, and social/sexual behavior)
  • not about personality
30
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what are psychological theories for selecting a mate

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  • complementary needs theory (ego-deal theory)
  • exchange theory
31
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describe complementary needs theory (ego-ideal theory)

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one tends to select a mate who has personality characteristics lacking is oneself (opposites attract)

32
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describe exchange theory

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  • assesses which potential mate has greatest rewards at lowest costs (weighing pros and cons)
  • rewards: behaviors, resources, words you value
  • costs: unpleasant aspects
  • profit occurs when rewards exceed costs