microskills Flashcards
microskills pyramid levels (bottom to top)
- values (professional and personal)
- epistemology
- approach/theory
- skills
what is the role of skills
help the client to tell their story
develop the relationship
enable reflection and choice
create a new experience
2 main types of microskills
verbal and non-verbal
essential non-verbal microskills
attending
essential verbal microskills
minimal responses (verbal and non)
paraphrasing
questions
summarising
clarifying
types of essential paraphrasing
reflecting content
reflecting feelings
types of questions
transitional
probing
scaling
leading
circular
what is attending
physcially attending (SOLER)
expressiveness
mirroring posture
what is the value of attending
conveying availability and presence
supports sense of safety and comfort
encourages client to keep talking
helps us to be genuine
demonstrates empathy and compassion
what do you need to be mindful of when attending
agreeing
endorsing
stereotypical counsellor mannerism
not responsive to the client
fakeness
types of listening blocks
mind reading
rehearsing
filtering
judging
daydreaming
advising
sparring
being right
derailing
placating
what is mind reading
assuming you know what the other person feels and thinks without asking
what is rehearsing
planning what you want to say next and missing whats being said now
what is filtering
listening only to things that are important or relevant to you and ignoring the rest, even if its important to the other person
what is judging
evaluating the other person and what they said rather than really trying to understand how they see the world
what is daydreaming
getting caught in memories or fantasies while someone is talking to you
what is advising
looking for suggestions and solutions instead of listening and understanding
what is sparring
invalidating the other person by arguing and debating
what is being right
resisting and ignoring any communication that suggests you are wrong or should change
what is derailing
flat out changing the subjects as soons as you hear anything that bothers or threatens you
what is placating
agreeing too quickly without listening to the other persons feelings or concerns
what are verbal minimal encourages
one or 2 words, a phrase, an utterance
eg. yes, ok, mmhm