Lying Flashcards
What is the foundation of relationships?
Honesty - without honesty, there can’t be trust
Why we lie (6)
- Save the face of yourself or someone else
- To avoid tension or conflict
- To guide social interaction
- To expand or reduce relationships
- To gain or protect resources
- To escape punishment
Save the face of yourself or someone else
-to prevent embarrassment
Ex: pretending you remember someone so you don’t embarrass them
Ex: telling someone they look good when they look awful
-may lie to make yourself look better
Ex: “You didn’t get my gift?”
To avoid tension or conflict
Ex: telling your friend that you’re not mad by their teasing
To guide social interaction
-to make interaction more smooth
Ex: fake interest in a date’s stories
Ex: you pretend to be glad to see someone you dislike
To expand or reduce relationships
-looking for a connection
Ex: lying about having the same interests as your crush
-may lie on a resume to get a job
-lying to get out of a scenario
Ex: “I have a boyfriend” to reject someone
Ex: “I have a test tomorrow, so I need to study”
To gain or protect resources
-show you’re in control
Ex: turning down a last-minute request for a date
Ex: lying to gain confidential information about a person that can be used to your advantage
To escape punishment
Ex: kid lying about breaking a vase to avoid being punished by parents
Deception
any intentional behavior that creates an impression in a recipient that the deceiver knows isn’t true
What does it mean to say most lies are casual?
The teller does not consider the lie important
In what way does each sex lie to increase their attractiveness?
Men: lie about height, ambition, income, commitment to a relationship
Women: weight, promise but not provide sex, fake pleasure during sex, lie about how many people view them as attractive
What type of lies are told in close relationships?
Benevolent lies: lies to make the other person feel good
-people are less likely to lie in close relationships but the very biggest lies occur in close relationships because the cost of telling them seems too high
Deceiver’s Distrust
when we lie to other people we perceive the receiver as also untruthful to us
Are introverts or extroverts more likely to lie?
Extroverts because they’re more concerned about impressions they make on other people
Truth bias in close relationships
we assume our partner is telling the truth
-as a relationship becomes closer and more trust is built, the accuracy of detecting lies decreases
